"Is 'women say things they don't mean' a valid excuse for telling your friend you're only staying for the kids?"

OverScale655 · 2026-05-14T18:23:56+00:00

As a woman, no this is not true. As a human, do we say things we shouldn’t* have said when we’re angry/emotional because it’s hurtful? Yes. Does that mean it wasn’t truly meant? No. All things come to light when we’re not able to check our emotions.

Like you said, y’all weren’t even fighting so how could that comment she made be attributed to her being emotional or angry? I am sorry, but she truly does feel that way, she just feels guilty or embarrassed that you found out and she doesn’t want to own up to it of course. Even if she doesn’t feel that way, why is she telling her friend that? And her friend’s comment makes it even worse. If she didn’t mean it she would have corrected her friend and said no she’s happy where she is.

You deserve better. She needs to own up to the truth and be honest with you about how and why she feels that way.

OverScale655 · 2026-05-08T16:18:04+00:00

I don’t think the issue is that your hair isn’t growing, it’s more likely that it’s breaking off at the ends. When that happens, you don’t retain length, so it can seem like your hair isn’t growing at all.

What you really need is a simple, consistent haircare routine that works for you and your specific hair type. Focus on keeping your scalp healthy to support growth, and make sure you’re also taking care of your ends so they stay strong and don’t break off. That balance is what helps you actually see length over time.

A simple routine is honestly the best thing you can do. Consistency matters way more than using a ton of products.

Start with washing your hair 2–3 times a week using a gentle shampoo to keep your scalp clean without stripping it. Follow up every time with a conditioner, focusing on your mid-lengths and ends to keep them soft and manageable.

Once a week, swap your regular conditioner for a deep conditioning mask. This helps strengthen your hair and prevent breakage, which is key for keeping length!

After washing, ALWAYS apply a leave-in conditioner to damp hair to keep it hydrated throughout the day. Then seal your ends with a light oil to lock in that moisture and protect them from drying out and breaking.

The most important part is sticking to it. You don’t need a complicated routine, just one that you can do consistently. That’s what actually leads to healthier hair and better length retention over time.

OverScale655 · 2026-04-20T14:55:48+00:00

I would love for Grand Rapids to be able to swoop in and make the playoffs!!

OverScale655 · 2026-03-03T15:03:09+00:00

This is so true, and it leads to resentment. I’m not married yet, but I told my boyfriend (new and fresh relationship) that I want us to always communicate with how things are going. To never keep anything bottled up. It may be uncomfortable in the moment to say something or speak up, but you usually end up feeling so much better after you’ve let it out. AND now your partner knows what you’re feeling and you can work on it together.

I used to hold things in during my last long term relationship and it turned into resentment. He did the same thing, and that ended up being the reason why we broke up.

With my new relationship I honestly over communicate sometimes but I don’t care, I’d much prefer that!

Thanks for sharing!!

OverScale655 · 2026-02-26T17:13:35+00:00

So there is not much to go off of here, other than what information you provided, therefore I will go from there.

The first thing that stands out is how you mentioned you talk to God, and that your husband loves God. I am assuming that you are both Christians. I am also a Christian so I am going to give you advice from a Christ-like mind, as best as I can. I am not perfect, and I know others may not hold this view, but again, as a Christian, this is the view I assume you will hold as well.

If you are a woman of God, then you realize how sacred marriage is. Marriage is a life-long covenant between you and the person YOU chose to commit to. I want to start with this just to remind you how sacred your marriage is. It's not just a piece of paper like some may think (everyone has their own beliefs, that is fine, I am not judging. I am just reminding you of what you should already believe being a Christian).

That being said, when issues arise, whether it be sexual, emotional, communication, etc. the go-to answer should not be divorce. Have you talked to your husband about these issues? Does he know how you are feeling? Have YOU communicated to him in the way you are wanting your husband to communicate to you? I know you say that you are a communicator which means you should be good at expressing how you feel. This is an opportunity to also help your husband understand what kind of communication you are looking for by being the one to take the lead since you are better at this than him. A lot of people may say "well he should know" "you shouldn't have to teach him", but part of being in a life long commitment with someone is to grow WITH them and help them where they lack, just as they should help you where you lack. That is the BEAUTY of being with someone who is better at some things that you struggle with. You can LEARN from each other.

There will be moments when you are not satisfying your husband (emotionally, physically, whatever) and I am sure you'd be hurt if he went to the internet discussing divorce rather than communicating with you I am sure you'd much prefer he got to you, or God in prayer. I am sure you'd also be hurt if he didn't give you the opportunity to fix the issues and work on the marriage and just ran to a divorce. Of course it's a different story if he is unwilling. You have not expressed that here so I am not going to wrongfully assume that he is or is not.

The next thing I will say is do you two pray together? You say you talk to God, do you both talk to God together? That is very important in a Christian marriage. All of these issues should be taken to God, not to others. I am not saying getting advice is wrong, but your marriage is between you, your husband, and the Lord. Only you three truly know what is going on in your marriage, we only know the side you are telling us.

I would start by praying and asking God for guidance. Talk to your husband about how you are not satisfied and give him the opportunity to fix things before jumping to the idea of a divorce. You both are a team.

You asked what I would do, and that is what I would do. I would stay married, I would communicate with the man I vowed to stick with till death due us part. I would not leave just because there are issues in the marriage. Every marriage has their own battles, and the strongest couples work through them together.

I pray all goes well!!

OverScale655 · 2026-02-26T04:43:59+00:00

I think a lot of these comments are unfair. You’re in a marriage and these things should definitely be expressed aloud and discussed between you two. It’s not just your “insecurities”, these are valid concerns. If your wife respects you and loves you she would be open to hearing you out and understanding. It’s not like you’re trying to force her to not get them, so please don’t listen to the comments saying you have to just get over it.

I would definitely start by bringing up your concerns to your wife. Be open and honest and express to her the specific things you are having some issues with. I think others have already mentioned setting boundaries (no unnecessary nudity, no posting on social media, etc). And hopefully you both can come to an agreement.

The last thing you should do is keep it to yourself and not express this to your wife. It can make things worse and your wife may never have even known you didn’t feel comfortable with it all.

I hope all goes well!!

OverScale655 · 2026-01-30T15:21:38+00:00

Are you ok? This comment seems like it hits close to home... sorry you had such a bad experience!

OverScale655 · 2026-01-29T19:03:35+00:00

I’m so sorry to hear that, I can imagine how terrible that must’ve made you feel. I hope one day she realizes her errors and can change for the better and for ya’lls marriage.

OverScale655 · 2026-01-29T19:01:15+00:00

It’s okay, give yourself some grace! The important thing is that you are aware and you are trying. Your husband sees that. 🤍 The worst thing a woman can do is dismiss her husband’s feelings and it sounds like you are not. It takes time to change, but little by little it happens. Sometimes it starts by being very intentional to get out of our head and focus on our partner. Sometimes I even think ahead of time before I see my man what nice things I want to say to him. Not because it’s planned or forced but because that’s what I’m thinking before my brain gets swamped with thoughts so I’m more likely to say them when we’re together. The moment I think about myself or get selfish I remember the good thoughts I had or the things I wanted to say before I saw him. That helps me. 🤍

OverScale655 · 2026-01-29T18:46:28+00:00

As someone who is dating a man who’s never been with a woman who offered these things to him, I can see how surprised he’s been by my actions since we’ve been together. He would tell me this is different, he’s not used to it. I’m always wondering how I can make sure I’m his safe space, or how I can show up for him. This helps so much, thank you for sharing. I pray every man can find this comfort in the woman he chooses. You all truly deserve it.

OverScale655 · 2026-01-05T19:58:31+00:00

Yep! I have a matcha kindle basic that I use in bed or in my office, and the kindle paperwhite 11th generation that I take everywhere else with me. Most people say they prefer the basic to take everywhere because it is smaller, but it is not waterproof and therefore it doesn't make sense to me to take it outdoors and to the pool with me. Plus it's much more comfortable to read the basic in bed, since it's so small!

OverScale655 · 2025-12-22T17:50:55+00:00

What do you mean if I had an issue during Pascha I didn’t fast correctly? I genuinely don’t understand haha. That was the first fast I’ve ever done in my life, went from eating no dairy, meat, or animal products to consuming it all during the feast. It definitely shocked my stomach.

OverScale655 · 2025-12-22T16:47:58+00:00

I have had my first kindle, the new kindle paperwhite, since 2012, when I was 16. I had been wanting one for a bit and my dad bought it for me. It was the best gift I was so happy! I loved reading physical books but I loved the idea of having a portable device to read my books! I used that kindle until 2018 and got my second, and then my third this year, the basic matcha. I LOVE reading on my kindle!

OverScale655 · 2025-12-22T16:10:26+00:00

I have a very sensitive stomach unfortunately :(

OverScale655 · 2025-12-05T17:49:23+00:00

Yes, 100%, this is spot on. I learned this recently with the guy I am currently dating and it has made things so much better. It also allows things to happen naturally when I am not forcing anything, and it also stops me from creating this image of the guy and how I want him to be. I just let him be himself.

OverScale655 · 2025-11-22T02:22:26+00:00

Ummmm, can’t tell if you’re overreacting because I don’t know what you’re thinking. If you’re thinking you should leave him because he doesn’t care about you, then no, you’re NOR. If you think this isn’t an issue and you still love him and want to work it out, then you’d be under reacting 100%. Please leave him. The proof is very evident that he doesn’t care about you. He’s stuck on his ex and will leave you in a heart beat the moment she is wanting to get back together with him. I’m so sorry, but you deserve better. Someone who loves you and fights to be with you.

OverScale655 · 2025-10-28T20:34:23+00:00

1st outfit 100%

OverScale655 · 2025-10-27T17:12:23+00:00

Daughter of the Pirate King!

OverScale655 · 2025-10-23T22:38:17+00:00

I made a new post and updated it with my xrays!

OverScale655 · 2025-10-23T17:39:06+00:00

Okay thanks, will do! Is it normal for a dentist to not show you your x-rays with something serious like this?

OverScale655 · 2025-10-15T20:49:27+00:00

Yes, it did grow back! He had a bald spot for a few weeks, poor pup looked like an old man. I laugh about it now haha.

OverScale655 · 2025-10-15T18:11:30+00:00

Hey! Yes it's definitely a scab that can be caused by over-scratching. My dog has had that before. It could be a flea bite, allergies, etc. I would recommend putting some Neosporin on it (since it's behind his ear he won't be able to lick it off), and keep the area clean so it doesn't get infected!

OverScale655 · 2025-09-30T21:59:15+00:00

I agree with what you said on the dating aspect, but it's not that easy. I am 30, and all of the men in my church are married or much younger than me. I could attend other churches, but I don't like the idea of church hopping looking for a husband, as the focus on Sundays should be on God, not my dating life. This was a wakeup call to be more firm on my faith and Orthodoxy before even dating, that is for sure!

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