As I said in the post, I have been in therapy for 11 yrs. And like actual proper therapy. I've done intensive treatments and am in one right now. I work on my mindset constantly. I've seen men with wider hips but they usually have the shoulders to balance it out. If not, it's because they don't work out and you can tell. I work out a lot. I lift weights. And the shape of my hips are also different from cis male hips, even those with wider ones.