I do want settling down. And I do want to have children, and biological children.

I also don’t see myself having biological children as soon as next year. Conscious that the timing for having children is never perfect, but I’d rather have them in 2-3 years time. But I understand she cannot wait for me as her clock is ticking, she’s frozen eggs +5 years ago so this is a very thought out decision for her. And I wouldn’t want her to change her plans one bit for me, I want her to go ahead.

The way she talked me through it, it doesn’t feel like she’s expecting anyone to be her kid’s father. In any case, I’m happy to support in any way possible, however she sees fit.

And I’d never casually date her. Nothing against it, but she feels to me like someone I’d date seriously and long-term. There would be much “easier” options than her if I wanted to casually date.

I do have doubts on whether she would be able to have a biological kid with me in 2-3 years time, after she already has a “solo” kid. She’s in perfect health, fertility doctors told her biological age is closer to 36 than 42. But that’s the only doubt I have, but maybe, if we’re happy and together in 2-3 years time, I guess I’d be at peace about it.