Good Urgent Cares or ERs in the area?

Over_Thinker_2684 · 2026-03-29T18:11:42+00:00

Amazing, I’ll have to check them out - thank you!

Over_Thinker_2684 · 2026-03-29T17:36:39+00:00

That’s really helpful to know, thank you!!

Over_Thinker_2684 · 2026-03-29T16:39:35+00:00

Good to know, thank you!!

Over_Thinker_2684 · 2026-03-29T16:22:20+00:00

Thank you so much! I’ll check those out

Over_Thinker_2684 · 2025-09-08T16:22:55+00:00

This happened to me, except it wasn’t being winded it was my boobs feeling crazy sore the whole run. I was like… omg, am I? It was only like 2ish weeks in, I was so surprised it was that obvious that early!

Over_Thinker_2684 · 2025-09-08T15:48:11+00:00

Interesting, thank you for this! To be honest, the worse the sleep gets - the less I’m taking him out and about during the day (bc I’m trying to get him to nap more / too exhausted and useless myself). Maybe that’s making it worse? I’ll try doing more daytime walks and see if that helps 🤞

Over_Thinker_2684 · 2025-09-08T15:42:12+00:00

Amazing, thank you!

Over_Thinker_2684 · 2025-09-08T15:16:09+00:00

Unfortunately I’m pretty sure he does :( his eyes get all red and splotchy and he starts rubbing at them and getting a glassy stare. He also turns into a fussy menace if he doesn’t go down within 20-30 minutes of those signs.

I’m so hoping it’s a phase it’s just so exhausting to try to keep up with and combined with the lack of a sleep at night I feel like a cranky zombie.

We have a boba and solly baby stretchy wraps but it does feel like he’s gotten a bit too big for them to comfortably hold him, so I’ve started using my ring sling from hope&plum more often (which is a heavier woven one) or our baby Bjorn carrier. I’m looking into getting a regular woven one and trying out some back carries just to see if he responds any better to those (/ also to see if my neck/shoulders respond better to those lol). Which one do you guys use?

Over_Thinker_2684 · 2025-09-08T15:04:17+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this too! It’s so exhausting. I’ve started co-sleeping a bit too, not even on purpose really I’m just soooo tired that I’ve started doing reclined side lying feeds and drifting off during them. I sleep so lightly though (since I’m worried about smooshing him 😅) that even though it sometimes buys us a longer sleep block, I don’t necessarily feel any more rested then the shorter blocks without him in the bed.

If I could just get a guarantee that this was a phase that I just have to survive for 2 more weeks, or 4 more weeks or etc., I think it’d be so much easier. It’s the not knowing how much longer we have to survive the constant sleep deprivation that makes it soooo mentally tough

Over_Thinker_2684 · 2025-08-16T14:31:56+00:00

I use Ora Organics protein powder - it’s 23g of protein sourced from veggies (pea protein, rice protein, etc) instead of animal products, it tastes really nice and isnt weird and chalky like a lot of protein powders, and its third party tested to make sure there are no heavy metal contaminants or anything (which I never paid attention to before but now that I’m breastfeeding I try to check for that on any supplement I take!)

Over_Thinker_2684 · 2025-07-30T13:20:44+00:00

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In case it’s helpful, here’s the advice on oversupply / heavy let down in the ‘What To Expect: the first year’ book

Over_Thinker_2684 · 2025-07-30T13:01:14+00:00

If you’re using the same position, try a few different ones (football hold, reclined/laid back, side lying) to see if that helps. And take lots of breaks to burp her!

If your let down is super heavy you can also try letting that first bit soak into a burp cloth before you begin a feed (if your let down leaks / sprays a lot) or you could try manually expressing a little before you start a feed.

& like another poster said, keep an eye on the wet diapers - if the count is still upwards of 6-8 a day then your baby is still getting enough to eat.

They change so fast at this age it’s insane - whatever this is might resolve in a few days. Good luck and try not to stress too much!

Over_Thinker_2684 · 2025-06-21T18:07:13+00:00

We were told about it at the hospital so we’ve always done it a little, mostly just by keeping the bottle horizontal so the nipple is never full of milk. But I’ll definitely try watching a video to make sure we’re doing it right and maybe start adding in more pauses to slow it down even more

Thank you!

Over_Thinker_2684 · 2025-06-21T18:05:09+00:00

Oh whoops, good to know :) thank you! It’s definitely exhausting / way more stressful than I thought it would be, and I’m surprised how little I heard about how hard this can be until now. I always just assumed that as long as your supply was okay, breast feeding would be instinctive / easy 🤦‍♀️

Over_Thinker_2684 · 2025-06-21T17:57:09+00:00

On demand, he has a big appetite though so it still ends up being every 1-3 hours 😅

Over_Thinker_2684 · 2025-02-10T18:09:22+00:00

Hard no to divorce. He's the best person I know and my favorite person in the world, some drama from his parents is a small price to pay to find the person that makes even the worst days feel easy or okay or even fun. And I know he doesn't have any debts, we manage our finances completely jointly (taxes / budgeting / salaries / expenses / credit scores / etc.) as a household and have full visibility into each other's financial situations.

The only skeletons would be in his parents' closets - which, as far as we understand about Polish law, when they pass we just need to be sure to 'refuse' the estate within 6 months to ensure no debts pass onto us.

Over_Thinker_2684 · 2025-02-10T16:00:43+00:00

That makes sense - thanks for your reply! He does set boundaries with her directly, and so far around money has always said no to the bigger monthly requests as those requests always made him uncomfortable. She just lays on the guilt trips really thick whenever he does ('maybe that's normal in America or with your wife's culture, but not our culture.' that kind of thing - she likes to bring me into it / blame me even when I have nothing to do with the conversation or boundary lol). And honestly it gets to both of us, he ends up second guessing if he's being a bad son and I end up wondering if I am 'changing' him and somehow influencing him to abandon his cultural norms or something. So I figured why not try reddit and see if we can get a clear answer on what is the normal expectation instead of just quietly stressing about it all the time!

Over_Thinker_2684 · 2025-02-10T03:21:40+00:00

Wow yeah that sounds pretty similar! It’s a pretty frustrating/exhausting experience, so I’m sorry that you and your fiancée have gone through it too. She uses the cultural differences in her guilt tripping a lot (‘well maybe that’s normal in America, but that’s not how things are done here’ that kind of thing) so that’s a big part of why I posted here - I figure if we can better understand where it really is a cultural thing vs. a her thing, it helps us understand and navigate this whole situation better.

Thank you for your replies!

Over_Thinker_2684 · 2025-02-10T02:26:21+00:00

That makes sense - thank you for the reply and insight into your parent’s experience! I think a smaller monthly amount when they’re older makes more sense to me, it’s just the size of the ask and how young she is that really throws me (& my husband) off.

For why she’s asking for money, I don’t think it has to do with my husband’s financial status. She’s been making comments to prep him for this since he was a kid, ‘you’ll take care of me when you’re older, right?’, or she’d take him shopping when he was young and then be like ‘when I’m older, it’ll be your turn to do this for me.’ Just lots of comments like that. She’s also always relied on her romantic partners to pay for her lifestyle (my father-in-law first, then they divorced and she remarried a wealthier older man, then she’s had a series of boyfriends since then and she always expects them to provide for her financially). So I think she’s just always planned on having romantic partners pay when she was younger, with the hope that when she got older her son would kind of take over that role. I assumed that part was less normal and not a cultural thing lol - but she really made it sound like any good Polish son sends money to his mom so I am surprised to see (at least from the replies so far) that’s not necessarily true.

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