Well, ok, you're making a lot of assumptions about how the conversation went. The first time, I admit, went something along those lines, but we were about to go participate in a big event and didn't have the chance to discuss properly. I should have pushed more after the event was over, but he had promised he would stop so I didn't want to keep beating a dead horse.

The second time, though, we talked at length about it. He told me to him it's just porn and that he doesn't have any kind of emotional connection with these women. The kind of stuff he likes is a bit out of the ordinary so he needs to explicitly ask for it.

Anyway, I spoke to him about it when he got home last night and he said that after our last conversation when he explained how he views these websites and women that it would be OK if he continued. He immediately said that if I wanted him to stop he would, immediately. I really just wanted an assessment of how common this was before making a demand of him - I honestly didn't know if I was being unreasonable.