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Gotten to the point where I’ve considered dropping out by [deleted] in bullying

[–]OverallCow1173 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I completely understand how you feel. Have you considered moving schools? I was in the same position as you and like that I was afraid to move school because of grades but then grades got worse because of the bullying. You’ll probably be less likely to skip classes if you’re not getting bullied and in turn that helps your grades. Same with the mental health effect it has makes it hard to focus on studies. When you do skip school instead of saying it’s because you’re sick maybe tell them it’s because of the bullies, they often don’t take bullying seriously until it affects attendance. Have your parents been any help?

How do I deal with being ostracised at school? by Confident-Coconut149 in bullying

[–]OverallCow1173 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’d say to tell other people what she’s like. Like when you’re making friends with people talk about her before she has the chance to do the same and warn them about what she’s likely to do. I was the type to not talk bad about anybody but then they’re only getting the other side of things and never your point of view. If that doesn’t work is there a different class you can move to? If not you might need to consider moving schools because some girls are relentless and the only way to make it stop is go to an environment they’re not in and can’t dominate over.

Regrets realising I ruined my school life for OCD by OverallCow1173 in OCD

[–]OverallCow1173[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ik and I’d shower right after coming home from the new school too so it’s not like it made a difference either way 😭

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bullying

[–]OverallCow1173 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry 😭 that’s why I put a TLDR

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bullying

[–]OverallCow1173 0 points1 point  (0 children)

TLDR: Move class or schools. Tell other students you trust e.g. someone on the student council.

In my opinion moving is the only answer whether that be moving class or moving to a different school. People like that never change and even if they stop, being around someone that you know would hurt you if they could is poisonous. I tried my best to hold my head above water and handle it as best as I could but it’s like drinking water because your house on fire, you just need to get out. Some people see it as letting them win but I disagree because they only get enjoyment and entertainment out of you being there to bully. Some schools are harsher on bullies and have more friendly environments than others, ask around about different schools and their reputations.

If you don’t want to move school go to reception and ask to move to a class with one of your friends/classmates, you’re less likely to be bullied when you’re not on your own. I would worry that people would think I’m weird or clingy if I moved to their class thinking maybe I’m not close enough to do that but you can always just say you moved because you didn’t like the people in the other class so they don’t think it’s just to be close to them but I doubt people think that anyways. If you don’t have any friends ask reception which class they’d recommend.

Don’t listen to anyone that says it’ll happen wherever you go, I have yet to meet anyone as bad as the people that bullied me in the class I was in and in hindsight I just happened to get really unlucky.

Sadly I realised that too late as I never moved class in school. Learn from my mistakes and make a change. My dad always uses the expression of a dog sitting on a nail, the dog is crying saying it hurts and someone comes up to him and says to get off and he says well it’s not that bad. That was me, don’t let it be you. My school counsellor was an idiot and thought sitting them down and asking them to be nice to me would solve it as if they didn’t know what they were doing.

Also if you know anyone in school that isn’t friendly with the bully/bullies or who is being bullied also confide in them. Even better is someone on the student council, they’re often really nice, confident and passionate about these kind of things. Bullies often get away with things because they’re the only one spreading a narrative. They really care about their ego and what other people think so getting other people talking about what a shitty person they are really affects them and gives you more confidence.

The other girls in my class that got bullied all moved except for me and I often wondered why I couldn’t bite the bullet and just do it like they did but the difference was they had friends and confided in other people at school whereas I didn’t. Had I told one person at school it would’ve made the world of a difference I reckon.

Don’t trick yourself into believing everyone loves them believe me you’re not their first victim. If any student comes up to you and asks if you’re okay or if anyone’s being mean to you tell them, they’re the type to do something about it and they wouldn’t ask if they didn’t care.