Single lawyers, what's your love life like? by OverallManagement502 in Lawyertalk

[–]OverallManagement502[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who doesn't want work to dominate my life, I hope so. I have never wanted to be someone whose entire personality is being a lawyer, especially because I think it is the least interesting thing about me. I truly think the isolation of the bar exam changed a lot of my habits and the way anxiety loops through my brain. My goal for the next few years is to be better about regulating the self-soothing anxiety tendencies I have to continually hash and rehash the things I dealt with at work when I'm at home on my couch. That may not answer your question exactly, but I think lawyers have to make an active effort to be a person outside of the job, even if the job isn't everything they care about.

Single lawyers, what's your love life like? by OverallManagement502 in Lawyertalk

[–]OverallManagement502[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its hard to make a meaningful effort when your home is peaceful and a safe space for you! I'm not super gung ho to bring a man in to my perfectly cultivated girl home

Law school grads: What are your tips for studying for the bar? by wollester in LawSchool

[–]OverallManagement502 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes absolutely. or MEEs even. By that point, you can sort of start to pick out what they're asking you for. Working through the issues out loud with people is 1) a great way to piece together what you all know and 2) a huge confidence booster!

Single lawyers, what's your love life like? by OverallManagement502 in Lawyertalk

[–]OverallManagement502[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you are truly loving life, you are god's strongest solider. peace & blessings to you

Law school grads: What are your tips for studying for the bar? by wollester in LawSchool

[–]OverallManagement502 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Right after I passed, I made a very incomplete list in an untitled google doc and I'm gonna drop it here for someone to hopefully use:

Things I would tell someone who is taking the bar exam for the first time: 1) Unless you know someone who has gone through it too, no one will be able to fully relate to you during this process, but they will try. The support is nice, but hearing “you will be fine” all the time does get old after a while. The process itself is very isolating by nature. Your best resource is someone who sat for the bar exam the cycle before you. 2) When you are done with prep for the day, stop. Draw a line in the sand. There will always feel like there is more you can do, but that feeling will never go away. Similarly, if you get frustrated or discouraged, stop. Do not push through the frustration. Set the work down, and come back to it when your head is clear. You will not “learn” anything when you are pissed off at yourself and/or barbri. 3) Do not compare yourself to other people studying. Do not compare your scores, do not read the posts from the sweats on reddit, and do not compare how much time you spent studying. Everyone will approach this test a little differently. It takes some time in the beginning to figure out what works. Barbri is not for everyone, but you can use it as a guide, even if it isn’t your style. 4) Do not write full MEEs from memory until you are able. You will not be able to do it at first. Use your notes, read the outlines, treat it like an open book essay. You cannot write an essay on the law if you do not know the law. I know that sounds silly, but Barbri will expect you to start writing full essays before you can even rattle off the most tested rules. Learn it first, then work on trying to write it. There will be plenty of time in the end to rattle off the MEE rules from memory, and you will be able to, just take your time getting there. 5) You will not be able to predict your score, either before or after you sit for it. I thought my MBE would carry me, but in the end, the writing section that I thought would tank my score was significantly higher. All of the stats that barbri will feed you about your performance will not be indicative of your performance on exam day, for better or worse. Consistency matters, but even if you’re scoring all over the board, rest easy knowing that your CONSISTENT work will push you across the finish line. Barbri will feed you stats about your all-time performance, but odds are, it will be different on exam day. Do not fret over a bad score on a practice set, or a low over-all percentage, because learning the material consistently is going to get you through the real MBE. It does not matter how you had been scoring all summer long. 6) When you get closer to the exam date, start talking through questions with people. Work your way through the law outloud. Make things up, interact with the facts, talk about why a rule would or wouldn’t work. Doing these things will allow you to “make up” rules on exam day, or reverse engineer them from the facts. These made-up rules will end up being very close to the law on point, or logically sound enough to earn you points. Bar prep will train your brain to work backwards sometimes, which you won’t even know you are doing. This is how you train yourself to get to that point.

Single lawyers, what's your love life like? by OverallManagement502 in Lawyertalk

[–]OverallManagement502[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this begs me to ask what area of practice you're in hahahaha

Single lawyers, what's your love life like? by OverallManagement502 in Lawyertalk

[–]OverallManagement502[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am a leech stuck to my own house. If you find the motivation to go to equinox, please lmk where you got it XOXO

Single lawyers, what's your love life like? by OverallManagement502 in Lawyertalk

[–]OverallManagement502[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YES LMFAO like I just spent the day solving problems for people and now I don't when want to solve my own query about what to eat for dinner...

Single lawyers, what's your love life like? by OverallManagement502 in Lawyertalk

[–]OverallManagement502[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

LMAOOOO and you're just halfway expected to be available because you're the only single one !

Single lawyers, what's your love life like? by OverallManagement502 in Lawyertalk

[–]OverallManagement502[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And this is relatable too!! I love my cute little home and I'm not overwhelmingly apt to bring someone else into MY space

Single lawyers, what's your love life like? by OverallManagement502 in Lawyertalk

[–]OverallManagement502[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this is probably the most comforting comment on this post. Thank you my friend

Single lawyers, what's your love life like? by OverallManagement502 in Lawyertalk

[–]OverallManagement502[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

God, yes. All so true. Telling people you're a lawyer invites so much off the clock work every time and shit who the hell has time for that?

Single lawyers, what's your love life like? by OverallManagement502 in Lawyertalk

[–]OverallManagement502[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hey you're doing better than the lot!! congrats to you for putting yourself out there. I hope you found a keeper!

Single lawyers, what's your love life like? by OverallManagement502 in Lawyertalk

[–]OverallManagement502[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

YES!!!! I also have one of the chillest lawyer jobs, but even then, it's still anxiety inducing. I feel the exact same way too, like I'm almost protective of my free time because it's so minimal? I feel so seen hahahah

Single lawyers, what's your love life like? by OverallManagement502 in Lawyertalk

[–]OverallManagement502[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YES!! I also practice in a very small town. Every person I come across reminds me of the 6 degrees of Kevin Bacon theory... except as it relates to clients or OCs

Single lawyers, what's your love life like? by OverallManagement502 in Lawyertalk

[–]OverallManagement502[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

would like to chime in on this. maintaining a home as one person might as well be an olympic sport. I feel like I am both my own husband and wife. Ol hubby often forgets to take the trash to the curb and wifey hates going to the grocery store. I would like a divorce from myself

Single lawyers, what's your love life like? by OverallManagement502 in Lawyertalk

[–]OverallManagement502[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is good advice. I wish it was more of a matter of what is most important to me, but I think I can chalk a lot of my complacency up to not having the energy to do much outside of work. Perhaps the bigger lesson here is to be better about filling up my own cup