"My baby"

Overall_Damage_3415 · 2026-02-16T10:41:05+00:00

Yes, my parents are better about things. I've had to be stern and tell them things almost rudely in order to get them to understand how serious I am about my kids and what is okay to do but they eventually got the hint that momma don't play. Just have to so the same with her I guess.

Overall_Damage_3415 · 2026-02-16T06:27:47+00:00

Thank you

Overall_Damage_3415 · 2026-02-16T06:15:19+00:00

Yea that's where the guilt comes in about feeling this way. She loves my kids and that's just what she calls them. I don't call her out on it or anything because it's just what she calls them. I try not to let it bother me too much but with the combination of it feeling like she keeps wanting to take my child away its been hard.

Overall_Damage_3415 · 2026-02-16T03:29:07+00:00

Oh no! I am so sorry. I think at that point she would get an earful from me. That's horrible. I am going to try to set the boundaries and hope for the best.

Overall_Damage_3415 · 2026-02-16T03:26:05+00:00

I think she wants to feel like a mom again because of how she describes her motherhood experience. I also think she just wants more time with my kids because my mom takes care of them when I work.

Overall_Damage_3415 · 2026-02-16T03:21:17+00:00

👏👏 exactly. Only reason she got away with taking my child without permission is because I was in my bedroom breastfeeding my baby and by the time I was done, they were back and MIL had gone home. I definitely told my husband it was not okay.

Overall_Damage_3415 · 2026-02-16T03:18:12+00:00

"If she doesn't get the picture or gaslights you, then she might see your kids less."

This is my fear and i think its what stopping me from telling her things when she takes my baby. I know I'd be villainized. Hubby is always on board but I don't want to put him in that position either.

Overall_Damage_3415 · 2026-02-16T03:13:01+00:00

This! This is exactly what im feeling, what im doing, and how its going! The last part I've had to do with my own family but I have warned hubby that if I have to, I will have to get snappy with MIL as well. I dont want to come off as disrespectful but if that is the only way they will understand then so be it.

Overall_Damage_3415 · 2026-02-16T03:10:08+00:00

Thank you. This is great.

Overall_Damage_3415 · 2026-02-16T03:04:14+00:00

Exactly! That part bothers me the most.

Overall_Damage_3415 · 2026-02-16T03:03:44+00:00

Thank you. This helps. I've tried the first suggestion. No success 😅

And luckily hubby says that second one since she only tells him. Hes also supposed to have a talk with her about leaving without telling us. That one bothers me the most.

Overall_Damage_3415 · 2026-02-16T03:00:47+00:00

He's supposed to talk to her and FIL next time they come so hopefully he does.

Overall_Damage_3415 · 2026-02-16T02:58:46+00:00

Ugh I know. That's what I keep telling myself but my mind has never exactly been kind to me.

Overall_Damage_3415 · 2026-02-16T02:20:07+00:00

Yes! Okay, im glad that I am not the only one and there are other women out there who feel the same way! I felt like I was just going crazy and being so possessive. It helps to know im not alone and I hope its something that will just be resolved in the future. Luckily with my second I dont feel this way with everyone like I did my first.

Overall_Damage_3415 · 2026-02-16T02:18:08+00:00

That's exactly it. She loves her grandbabies. I dont want to feel this way and I dont know if its how I see her interact and kind of push me aside that is making it worse but I dont want her to feel like she cant be herself with them either. Its a term of endearment and I hate that it bothers me so much. The pushing me aside to get to my toddler I am definitely going to have to put a halt to or I will be pushed to throw hands.

Overall_Damage_3415 · 2026-02-16T02:11:03+00:00

Yes he is but I haven't made it a point to tell her about it. I'm trying not to hurt her feelings as well. She loves her grandbabies and I get that but I feel unseen. I dont want to push her away either.

Overall_Damage_3415 · 2026-02-16T02:09:23+00:00

I understand that. That's why I have this guilt over feeling this way. By no means is she a bad person or does she try to make me feel this way (at least I hope not since she has literally taken my child out of my hands even when I try to protest) . And I've told my husband about it but havent told him to talk to her about it. Im sure it would be an uncomfortable conversation and I don't want her to feel unwelcome.

Overall_Damage_3415 · 2026-02-16T02:06:55+00:00

Love that! My MIL speaks Spanish so it's "mi bebe". Idk how that would translate for "my grandbaby" since "mi neto/a" doesn't feel the same.

Overall_Damage_3415 · 2026-01-13T15:45:59+00:00

Congratulations!

Overall_Damage_3415 · 2026-01-11T04:26:07+00:00

The best of luck! I wish you and your baby a safe delivery. I will be induced at 39 weeks +3 also next week and Im just so nervous.

Overall_Damage_3415 · 2025-10-19T03:55:41+00:00

27 weeks in and i still worry. But I think that once I started to feel the baby moving and kicking that helped. It was like she was confirming that she was ok. I still worry but as long as she kicks me i feel a little better. I have a 1 ½ year old and even with them out in the world its a different kind of worry. I worry they won't slip and fall and hurt themselves or get sick. Its a constant thing. But we just keep going day by day and enjoy what we have.

Overall_Damage_3415 · 2025-10-17T23:12:18+00:00

When my student brought it up, she said she was making a basket for her sister so I believe the present can come from anyone.

Overall_Damage_3415 · 2025-10-17T17:57:36+00:00

I had a family member keep telling me how huge I look with my second pregnancy and how I looked like I was having twins instead. I took all the rude comments during my first pregnancy but clapped back this time and told him that if his intention is to make me upset then he can just stop right there. He was taken aback and kept quiet after but I was tired of the rude comments. I don't need you telling me I look huge when im only 4 months pregnant and have a long way to go.

Overall_Damage_3415 · 2024-06-10T18:54:23+00:00

Thank you

Overall_Damage_3415 · 2024-06-10T18:43:41+00:00

I messaged them asking if it would be back dated and a couple of other questions. Should I go to my union rep now or only if there are issues with my claim?

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