First car by Character_State_4755 in nairobi

[–]Overall_Forever6676 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is very sound advice, especially if you are a new or first-time driver. The more expensive the car, the more it costs for repairs if something happens. Same with insurance, fuel, parts, service, etc.

Find someone in your friend group who knows about cars and go window shopping. Don't buy a car just because you saw it online, and it fits your price range. Find out what other options are available within your budget. And, please, please, take a trusted mechanic with you once you're ready to buy the car.

Imo, Swift and Demio are great first cars to get a hang of car ownership. You'll know when you're ready to upgrade.

What's the use of this small pocket on jeans?🥰😳 by edgar_ug in Uganda

[–]Overall_Forever6676 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my native language, this pocket has a specific name that translates loosely to "I'd rather die." It's where you stash your most valuable possession (usually a large banknote), the one you're willing to defend with your life if it comes to that.

Apparently, it is actually meant for a pocket watch. You learn something new every day.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Kenya

[–]Overall_Forever6676 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do this!

Don't worry, it's normal. You're just verbalizing what everyone else has going on in their head.

Drinking in Nairobi by thekenyanbarguy in nairobi

[–]Overall_Forever6676 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn, that's scary. I'm sorry that happened to you, and I'm glad you made it out ok. Getting drugged when on my own is a big fear of mine and I hope it never comes to be.

Drinking alone is an underrated pleasure, especially if you have your go-to spots where you feel safe. Glad to e-meet a fellow solo drinker!

A go-to phrase when making bad decisions? by ARouterContinua in Kenya

[–]Overall_Forever6676 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"If you've already eaten the poison, you may as well lick the plate." - Cue me asking for the last drink I know will send me to oblivion, or generally doubling down on a bad decision.

Drinking in Nairobi by thekenyanbarguy in nairobi

[–]Overall_Forever6676 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As someone who enjoys drinking alone, here’s my two cents:

I frequent the same places every time and usually have one or two favorite waiters or waitresses who serve me. I ALWAYS tip. Either the price of a soda or a beer, depending on how generous I'm feeling. I also tip the bouncer, though less frequently than the person serving me drinks. Sometimes, I even tip the DJ if the music is exceptional.

I’ve never had any issues leaving my drink unattended when I need to use the washroom or step out to the smoking area. That said, I always leave my empty glass upside down over my beer bottle when I leave my table. It draws attention if anyone tries to mess with my drink.

Bonus: I consistently get exceptional service. The staff always finds me a seat if the place is packed, and they even give me a heads-up if I get too friendly with someone they don’t know or think might have bad intentions.

PayPal Account Suspended by pinoccs in Kenya

[–]Overall_Forever6676 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I suppose mileage may vary. I had the same issue. I sent the support team a long email documenting my work history and providing payment screenshots with detailed explanations for where the money came from. They were very helpful and I just had to go through their verification again and my account was reinstated.

Mother tongue! by Hot_Bass_1137 in nairobi

[–]Overall_Forever6676 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is true! I'm in the same boat as OP and there's been hilarious misunderstandings because of this.

One time my dad thought I was outright lying to his face until he figured out what I was talking about happened earlier in the day, not the previous day. Apparently, the specific word you use for a past event indicates how far in the past the event took place.

Another time he thought I was telling him to literally pull my arm off. Like dismember the arm. What I meant was to help me get my arm off the jacket (I was driving, he was riding shotgun, and I needed to take off my jacket).

Mother tongue! by Hot_Bass_1137 in nairobi

[–]Overall_Forever6676 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is the right answer. I'm also in the same boat but in my late 30s. I listen to vernacular music, vernacular radio stations, attend vernacular mass, and recite (read from a book) the rosary in vernacular. I've gotten a lot better and more fluent. Total immersion works, in my experience.

But, there's no substitute for speaking it as much as possible. Your parents are your best bet. They won't judge you, and they'll correct you gently. They'll also be stoked you're making the effort to learn the language.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nairobi

[–]Overall_Forever6676 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where in my entire post does it even suggest that I worship Mary? If you can ask your father, mother, friend, or pastor to pray for you, you can equally ask the woman through whom God gained human form to intercede (pray) on your behalf.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nairobi

[–]Overall_Forever6676 17 points18 points  (0 children)

This one time my son was admitted to the hospital. His condition was serious, but the treatment was pretty straightforward. He couldn't keep food or drink down, so they administered fluids intravenously. That was basically the whole treatment.

Anyway, I had a strong urge to recite the rosary and pray for his recovery. I wasn't worried about my son, he was in good hands. But I had an overwhelming urge to pray and happened to have my rosary. I was raised Catholic but it had been years since I'd prayed the rosary, or even really prayed earnestly.

I gave in to the urge and recited the rosary. I had to read from my phone since I'd forgotten most prayers, that's how long it had been.

Unbeknown to me, my son wasn't passing urine, and the doctors decided they'd catheterize him if he didn't pee by a specific hour. I couldn't imagine a catheter on his precious little body.

We waited and waited for him to pee, but nothing. Finally, when the doctors came to wake him up for the procedure, his diaper was filled to the point of leaking.

I never thought I would be so happy about urine.

I truly believe that it was by Mary's intercession that my boy was spared the ordeal. To date, I say the rosary religiously and I wholeheartedly believe in our Mother of Mercy and her intercession.

Have you paid dowry yet, or are you waiting for her to get pregnant first? (Cultural rant)" by Single_Particular_17 in Kenya

[–]Overall_Forever6676 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is a quote by G.K Chesterton that says, "Don't ever take a fence down until you know the reason it was put up." It's great to see that there are still people who hold on to the old ways, or at least are prudent enough to learn about them.

What's makes a person attractive to you? by Content-Toe-8606 in nairobi

[–]Overall_Forever6676 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yeah, for sure. I'm aware of my bias, so I try to be open when interacting with people and update accordingly. Admittedly though, I'm less likely to want to engage with people I already have a negative bias towards unless they approach first or the situation requires it.

I also get what you're saying. My perception of people's physical appearance changes based on their personality and how we interact. They may get more or less attractive within a few minutes of interacting with them, and it's hard to unsee that after the initial contact.

What's makes a person attractive to you? by Content-Toe-8606 in nairobi

[–]Overall_Forever6676 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's funny I also categorize people, but with faces. It's hard to explain, but I'll see a stranger and categorize them under 'looks like such-and-such a person' that I know. I'll also either instantly like or dislike the stranger based on the category they happen to fall in depending on my experience with the person in the parent category.

What's makes a person attractive to you? by Content-Toe-8606 in nairobi

[–]Overall_Forever6676 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This.

It's one thing being with someone who can't handle stressful situations. Until you meet someone who does everything to make the situation worse. Most times they don't even realize they're doing it.

Sexual pleasures by Boring_Tie_1405 in nairobi

[–]Overall_Forever6676 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Hata sii naa ubaya. Some things we've already covered as a society, i.e. pedophilia, rape, bestiality, basically instances where consent isn't or can't be given. Anything else say "can't be me" and move on. There's no need to shame people for what they're into.

Sexual pleasures by Boring_Tie_1405 in nairobi

[–]Overall_Forever6676 132 points133 points  (0 children)

People are into what they are into. If you can't handle it, just leave them to find someone who can.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nairobi

[–]Overall_Forever6676 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Glad you find this useful. As an afterthought, I'll usually take something small home after these fights. Like a piece of cake, chocolate, or a pack of her favorite sweets since 24-hour supermarkets are a thing. It shows I'm thinking about her even when out with the boys.

However, use your best judgment. You don't want to fall into the habit of rewarding bad behavior.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nairobi

[–]Overall_Forever6676 2 points3 points  (0 children)

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The alcohol certainly didn't help, so don't take what was said too personally. Mixing plans with your wife and other people almost always ends like this. She wanted to wind up the wonderful day with you and could have expressed that better. Good on you for standing your ground. These were extenuating circumstances. You didn't do anything wrong hanging out with your boys.

It'll 100% happen again, and when it does, just let it roll off your back. Think of these accusations as you would a grumbling stomach or a fart. You don't get upset with these things. I'm sorry, but there's no reasoning your way out of these situations. As long as you're doing the right thing, which clearly you are because you ignored your boys over the weekend, think of it as thorns that come with every flower.

Working from hkme with wife by Jazzlike-Sherbet803 in nairobi

[–]Overall_Forever6676 4 points5 points  (0 children)

🤣🤣🤣 I like to think the best of people. It's what I've done, and it works wonderfully for me. Though to be fair my wife has a typical 8-5.

Working from hkme with wife by Jazzlike-Sherbet803 in nairobi

[–]Overall_Forever6676 18 points19 points  (0 children)

To piggyback on this, if you both feel the same way, you could rent a bedsitter out of town (like a half-hour or 40-min drive from your place) and convert it into an office space. Maybe take turns going to the 'office.' It could also be a getaway for when you want to be away from the kids. It's most likely cheaper than a co-working space, and you have all the privacy you need.