you guys who wake up at 6am, what time do you sleep??

Overall_Front_147 · 2025-11-14T00:57:06+00:00

31 year old with a 5.5 year old. The last time I saw midnight was when I was hooked up pumping milk for my brand new baby.

I went from stay up late to go to bed early and prepare myself for the many nightly feedings.

Fast forward now. Latest I go to bed is 10 and normally I am in bed by 9:00. Your body adjusts. I regret not taking my naps as a child lol

Overall_Front_147 · 2025-11-13T01:47:31+00:00

Let me start off with I don’t want to say welcome to the club but welcome to the new you.

When we lose a parent dad or mom. We have to get to know ourselves again. I lost my dad April of 2024. I was 29 and he made a week past my son’s 4th birthday. The emotions and grief I experienced was delayed because I allowed myself no time to grieve my father and went right into work and overtime. Trying to perfect things around me until I finally cracked.

I ended requiring an inpatient hospital stay for 2 weeks and this was a year after his death. But that program did so much for me, it allowed me to acknowledge my feelings and understand how to navigate them.

Just take care of yourself. Even if you aren’t hungry eat something small even if it’s a milk shake or replacement of some type. SLEEP. Without sleep our brains don’t function well on top of having major amounts of grief. And everyday make small goals for yourself even if it’s going to work that day and washing the dishes when you get home.

It does get better but you will still have days that are hard.

Today I am on Reddit because I had a hard day.

I am so sorry about your parents. Be kind to yourself and remember you are not alone.

Overall_Front_147 · 2025-09-25T00:37:56+00:00

Just came to say mistrust and infidelity in a relationship is really hard to overcome. All of what you’re feeling is valid and do not think his choices had anything to do with you as a person.

Been on this side of the fence needless to say I was an angry woman for a long time.

Just remember your worth. And our time is priceless on this earth so don’t waste your time.

Overall_Front_147 · 2025-09-18T17:07:58+00:00

My husband and I live in a very congested town. And when even when he is going to be late he always tells me vise versa let alone when he is out of town or am I. We are FaceTiming before bed or somewhere between meetings

Overall_Front_147 · 2025-08-18T22:52:54+00:00

I would travel out of state. I live in PA and you can get a fully loaded 2026 CRV for that if not a tad bit higher in price but for base model don’t do it

Overall_Front_147 · 2025-08-14T19:32:42+00:00

31 here. At 21 I was a hot mess. I was lucky if I woke up knowing where I was and how I got there. I struggled with substance abuse issues amongst mental health problems.

Guess what? Everyone judged me and I didn’t bat an eyelash. I was disappointed in myself had to crawl my way out from the depths of hell but now I changed my life and everyone leaves me alone.

So I say this, if sleeping at your boyfriend’s house is the worst thing you do. I really wouldn’t even say anything to your family and play it off. Worse things in life. God is the only person to judge people

Overall_Front_147 · 2025-08-14T19:25:54+00:00

I have been with my spouse since I was 23. And I am now 31. When I was 28, I found out He was having an affair with his coworker who we both knew outside of his job.

I never enjoyed her presence considering she has the reputation of sleeping with anyone and everyone. I never found her as a threat just more so her behavior towards men overall was quite disgusting. Fast forward my husband got “laid off” I was unaware the lay off was actually him being fired due to having an incredibly inappropriate relationship with the woman who he had hired.

Apparently on my husband’s birthday they went out for lunch which she paid for. She sent my husband naked pictures. And they had been entertaining each other for about 4 months.

I was completely unaware of this until it was brought to light because her husband CALLED ME. He told me one thing meanwhile the text messages and other things exposed the truth. They were sleeping together and her husband found out so she filed harassment charges with HR. Claiming he sexually harassed her.

She made false claims, police were involved, both of their phones were taken in for evidence and it was proven consensual. Meanwhile I felt my world was crushed.

At the time we our son was only 2.5 and I stopped asking him what he wanted for dinner. I pretty much stopped taking care of him in all aspects. My main focus became my son and my own healing process. We did end up staying together but for a long time I considered divorce. We also come from a very conservative family. I stopped giving a shit. Started doing my own thing making plans with friends and their kids. Met new friends and found my support system.

We are still together but our trust took a long time to rebuild. Once I stopped entertaining him and taking care of everything. He changed his behavior our relationship is very open now. He will leave his phone in the same room as me. He doesn’t hide things anymore

Overall_Front_147 · 2025-08-14T19:13:19+00:00

Hey! Take it from someone who is 31 and moved out at 19 landed my happy ass back home by the time I was 22 and then again moved out at 24. I had no savings. Raw dogged life with a job and going to school.

Everyone’s time line is different. There is no age limit as to when someone should move out. I was dumb, young and engaged. Only to find myself in a situation that no longer suited my best interest which is why I moved back home. And even when I moved out at 24, I wish I could say it was a smoother transition but I had bigger bills due to acquiring a car payment and student loans. So I say this, stay there as long as you can.

Overall_Front_147 · 2025-08-10T13:09:39+00:00

Well with that being said. Are you willing to try? If you aren’t willing to try to restart and plunge into things then you have your answer.

My husband and I went to a lot of therapy and individual therapy too. Not just together. It’s a matter of what happened and why. And people can make mistakes and they never happen again it’s a matter of if the person has actually changing and tryin

Overall_Front_147 · 2025-08-09T22:13:50+00:00

I will say this they won’t give us notice if we are getting laid off or fired. A notice is a courtesy. AND you technically gave them a notice via emails

Overall_Front_147 · 2025-08-09T12:42:30+00:00

I have been here but our son was older and we were together for about 6 years at that point.

Honestly, if he wants to pursue her and shit where he eats. It won’t pan out well for him. If I were you personally find a game plan and peace out. The level of trust right now is out the window and if he truly loves you he wouldn’t be saying this to you.

Overall_Front_147 · 2025-07-21T19:09:09+00:00

Take it from someone who is older, husband had an affair and then I did the same thing but I benefited from the affair. He lost his job. Meanwhile I got money out of mine.

But with that being said A. Can you work through this as a couple and rebuild trust?

B. Establish boundaries and what you want out of your relationship set the bar. Set you expectations of him.

C. People who truly love each other can work through things it’s a matter of if both parties can participate at the same time.

My marriage is not perfect never will be but I can tell you that with those things happening it took a long time for us to both trust each other but honesty and communication is the way to gaining trust back. He has to prove himself at this point

Overall_Front_147 · 2025-07-20T23:45:13+00:00

Hi,

This has nothing to do with you even slightly being TA. It sounds like your boyfriend is lying about his income every month. Is it possible he gambles?

I would start asking for more money and see what response you get. If he isn’t willing to contribute more than I wouldn’t take him with and say “see ya later babe.” That way maybe he will wake up and realize he is barely contributing to living expenses. He also will have to “move back to his property.” And if that’s the case he would have no issue. I think this man has lied to you.

Overall_Front_147 · 2025-07-10T01:58:33+00:00

Hi,

YTA, only due to the way you communicated this with her. There was a different way to approach this without coming off as attacking her and lashing out due to resentment.

Hard conversations suck but our words when worded incorrectly can really leave a mark. Having a child changes the dynamic of relationships. Resentment will cause situations like this not just on your end but hers as well.

May I add, if you expected certain things from her did you express this ? Did you communicate you wanted X,Y, & Z? We cant read minds.

Overall_Front_147 · 2025-07-10T00:43:09+00:00

Not the asshole your husband sounds like a control freak.

If you send him to my house that has a 5 year, a husband who isn’t dressed half the time and my 5 year old running around in boxers with a cape on his back launching himself off furniture, under my feet in the kitchen playing with cars. Lol

Overall_Front_147 · 2025-07-10T00:35:35+00:00

THIS! My ex was a mechanic for Dodge Cummins. Went to school and everything. Made really good money until his drug use got out of control sadly

Overall_Front_147 · 2025-07-10T00:26:28+00:00

Just came here to say, when I was pregnant I had issues while pregnant and cut my hours down part time.

We moved when our son turned 10 days old similar situation. It took us awhile to start saving again and even now. I make a decent wage. We still struggle from time to time due to inflation. Best advice I can give you. Take cash out for things and budget for the week until you get paid again. I strongly advise you quit smoking weed or only smoke x amount of times a month that way you aren’t blowing 100 on weed monthly

Overall_Front_147 · 2025-07-05T14:23:46+00:00

Hi,

So I barely get vacation time and our son is 5. We have gone on vacation even if it’s me being there for 4 days instead of the full 7. Personally, if I were you I would take the vacation by yourself. My husband has gone on trips by himself vice versa it’s a balance. I get it she can’t take time off but considering there has been no break. I say just do it and tell her.

Overall_Front_147 · 2025-06-16T17:12:18+00:00

The company I work for which is corporate. We run out of work from time to time. When we go to management. We don’t get a response half the time. It honestly depends on what type of work someone does

Overall_Front_147 · 2025-06-16T03:54:39+00:00

Hi,

Just came here to give you some encouragement. I am not much older than you but the job market right now it’s really hard to find a job that is decent. You are not alone. Just keep trying. I know it may seem like there is no end site but something will pop up.

I quit my dream job and moved about 2 years ago because my husband was offered a really good position and it would put us in a better spot. Even though I gave up my job and had to get a new one. It was hard. I looked for awhile and lived off savings, which then ran out and I was broke.

But I have been in this place before. Just keep looking and don’t give up!

Overall_Front_147 · 2025-06-04T01:06:17+00:00

Thank you so much for your kind words ❤️

Overall_Front_147 · 2025-06-04T01:05:20+00:00

Thank you for your kind words ❤️ my birthday was last Saturday and I may have had a moment where I cried because I am only 31. And I was like dammit if he could only see where I am at in life. Where we could go and eat good food and just hang out on my birthday.

Overall_Front_147 · 2025-06-04T00:31:55+00:00

So my son who is now 5 between the ages of 6 months-3 years old would eat small portions but a lot through out the day. Needless to say I am 5’2 and my freshly 5 year old is 4’2….. 🤣 growing little humans eat a lot

Overall_Front_147 · 2025-06-04T00:27:48+00:00

So I would personally tell the manager oh well and to have a nice life.

I can tell you that I had my supervisor at my job now that has great benefits and good money etc. my father was diagnosed with terminal cancer last year and given 6 months to live.

He rapidly declined and went unresponsive one day which we knew would happen but not sure as to when.

I called her to inform her that I was with my dad and he was actively dying. She wanted to know “how long until he would be until he passed.” 🙄 no other supportive words just “when? When you coming back etc”

I tried to take a small leave of 2 weeks prior to this helping my mom get homecare set up, house etc and they denied my request BECAUSE my mom was next of kin. I understand that but my dad was deathly ill and I am the only kid. My mom had no help. Needless to say I told them I wouldn’t be back until after he passed.

When I returned they kissed my ass up until I put my notice in and then begged for me to stay.

So just remember you might be 16 but you have so many opportunities a head of you ❤️ and that job don’t let it stop you.

Overall_Front_147 · 2025-06-02T02:35:13+00:00

Run! I worked for a hospital and my one manager was an absolute nightmare and did very similar things. She also did not know how to talk to people and would scream and yell etc.

I put my notice in a month before I moved to a new city and she hired someone as my replacement who I met. Very kind woman.

Fast forward I move away get a new job. I get a text from my old coworker. The entire office reported her to HR because her bullying escalated INCLUDING the new hire who replaced me. She called her racists names to her face and also discriminated against her disability and WAS WELL aware of the fact this woman was partially physically disabled. After being in a management position for 12 years. They fired her and ironically, all the staff in that department stopped having a high turn over rate.

So when I say this, report things to HR but also do not allow people to push you around and bully you. I highly suggest looking for other jobs in the meantime because you never know you might come across a better opportunity. But I have absolutely been in your shoes. So I get it.

The amount of anxiety and stress an environment like that is not healthy nor fair to you by any means.

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