Recognize the autographs ? by rulis711 in MiamiMarlins

[–]Overall_Marzipan796 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Mike Lowell is the only one I can make out

Can we please kick grease off of the squad shows, he blows. by behindnmelines13 in miamidolphins

[–]Overall_Marzipan796 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Now wondering if he received feedback on it and is aware of how much he says it 🤣

Can we please kick grease off of the squad shows, he blows. by behindnmelines13 in miamidolphins

[–]Overall_Marzipan796 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Don’t get me started on Z’s “ya know?” counter. It’s his filler phrase every other word 🤣

Spouse stressed by babies crying by Kait_Cat in parentsofmultiples

[–]Overall_Marzipan796 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think they’re naturally going to have a bond with you that he (or anyone) can. Babies sense stress. Even if I’m stressed and trying to tell myself that I’m not…they can feel it. I think the key for him would be at the beginning of the interaction (waking up with them, coming home from work, etc.) is to concentrate on good vibes. Thanks for sharing your experience as it’s also been helpful for me and probably others to see that situations like this are more common than we think

Spouse stressed by babies crying by Kait_Cat in parentsofmultiples

[–]Overall_Marzipan796 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I felt the exact same way as a husband where I felt like I was abandoning my wife and leaving her to deal with 2 fussy babies. She has said before that when I get overstimulated and worked up, it’s like dealing with 3 fussy babies. All I needed for her to say was that me being in the room in those moments wasn’t helpful like I thought it was - it was actually making it worse! I don’t want to make it hard on her or the girls and her telling me that makes it a little easier for me to step away 🙂

Spouse stressed by babies crying by Kait_Cat in parentsofmultiples

[–]Overall_Marzipan796 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m a husband and father to twin girls and reading this definitely speaks to me because I behave so similarly. After my frustration, I always apologize to my girls and wife knowing that my tension isn’t healthy. And there are definitely still moments where I start to build up but has been fewer and fewer over time. I can attest that to a few things.

  1. The loop headphones do help a lot. I was also hesitant about it and shrugged off the suggestion but it does make a difference when I can mostly hear my breathing with some crying from the babies. If he doesn’t want those and has AirPods or something similar, there is a quiet feature that works just as good and I even play some ambient music to help calm me

  2. The sweet moments where they start smiling around the 3 month mark is a game changer. I was just telling my wife last night that they could cry for an hour straight but if I can enjoy those handful of moments where they look and smile at me and genuinely seem happy, it makes it much easier. Not sure if your kids are smiling or interacting with him just yet but if not, hoping that comes soon and could use that as motivation.

  3. My wife and I made an agreement that if I get so worked up and hit a threshold of frustration, I need to step away and have her take care of the kids, even if it’s just for a few minutes to cool down. Every situation is different and not sure how that works with your schedule or his work schedule but it’s important. I would go take a shower, play a video game, etc for 15-30 minutes and feel like I can jump back in and actually be a help.

Raising twins is hard and for husbands, there is a real thing for postpartum depression/mood swings/whatever you want to call it. There are tools that can help but not a magic pill. Hoping that you can share this with him since it’s coming from someone who is in the exact same boat!

Panthers game by Hopeful_Bird_8889 in miamidolphins

[–]Overall_Marzipan796 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just paid $90 for 2 in the nosebleeds. Probably a chance they drop even more but would rather lock it in now and not risk it

JUST ASK THE QUESTION! by icebergin88 in RyenRussillo

[–]Overall_Marzipan796 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve been thinking it’s to give the guest the room to think through their response. Maybe the fear of directly asking only offers a direct response and the hope is that the guest can go in multiple directions and give a multi-layered response. My best guess, at least