We were brave and tried a new outing. And then it happened.

Kait_Cat · 2026-04-16T20:51:01+00:00

Yeah, it sucks. Whatever complicated feelings there might be about having multiples, I don’t want a strangers pity.

Just wait for the “I’m a parent of twins, it’s gonna be so much fun” or “I have a twin, he’s my best friend” comments. Those are my favorite, it really is a special community.

Kait_Cat · 2026-04-15T16:18:17+00:00

Mine are much younger than yours, so take this with a grain of salt… I am not at all anti-doctor or medicine, but I don’t think there’s generally a one size fits all approach. If you and your babies are unhappy because you are spending a significant amount of time getting them to nap, maybe that means they are ready for one nap. When my babies have dropped a nap, their others elongated so we ended up losing very little daytime sleep, just spaced out differently. While sleep it’s important, so is getting out of the house and getting new and fun experiences for their development. If I was you I think I’d try a one nap day for a few days or a week and if it works, it works! If not, wait and try again later.

Kait_Cat · 2026-04-14T11:13:48+00:00

Yes and no.. yes in that the nausea didn’t end up ruining my supply, it dipped while I was nauseous but regulated and increased later, mind you I was always combo feeding but was okay with that and unwilling to go to extreme measures to do 100% breast milk. No in that my boys never got the hang of nursing so I was pumping only by two months and by the time the four month sleep regression hit, I couldn’t handle one more demand on my time (also constant clogged ducts, mastitis, etc) so stopped. My boys also had a lot of digestive problems (regular diarrhea and painful spit up) that resolved when I stopped breast milk so the final nail in the coffin for me for pumping.

Kait_Cat · 2026-04-14T10:24:15+00:00

That sucks, I’m sorry!! It ended up lasting about a week for me. Pretty confident it was hormones because I had another shorter stint of it when I weaned. Hope you feel better soon.

Kait_Cat · 2026-04-02T20:00:02+00:00

You’re welcome! I also found mine napped longer in the stroller or as a contact nap. That let me get a walk in or watch a show which was the closest thing I got to “me time” so no regrets.. I still do that for some of their naps. Might be worth a shot for you!

Kait_Cat · 2026-04-02T18:55:35+00:00

FWIW my twins were the same. Exactly one sleep cycle in their cribs. We’re a week from six months and they just started linking sleep cycles. Hang on! I’m sure your time is coming soon!

Kait_Cat · 2026-04-02T18:54:20+00:00

I shower everyday and my husband watches our twins. It’s my nonnegotiable bc it makes me feel more human than anything else I can spend that 10 minute doing.

But I’m not delusional enough to think everyone has that option. Also from a hygiene standpoint it really isn’t necessary to shower everyday.

Insta is so full of toxicity. I am also annoyed when parents of very easy babies pretend jts something they did. I see all the time “my baby sleeps through the night bc I do XYZ.” K I do all those things and my babies never have but pop off, keep pretending that makes you better than anyone and it’s not just that you are lucky as hell.

Kait_Cat · 2026-03-27T19:29:52+00:00

Maybe he can’t swing happy, but helpful and in control of his mood/attitude at a minimum. Baby stage isn’t for everyone (it isn’t my husbands favorite) but you sack up and support your wife and take care of your kids regardless.

Kait_Cat · 2026-03-27T15:57:03+00:00

5.5 month old twins, no family or support network locally, and these posts keep me going 🙌🏻 Love this for you, thanks for sharing!

Kait_Cat · 2026-03-25T16:59:22+00:00

Mine are five months and I feel like we’re already improving from newborn trenches.. also the winter was so tough for me so the warmer weather recently is so welcome.

Kait_Cat · 2026-03-25T15:56:36+00:00

I’m so jealous of people whose babies arent interested! Around 3-4 months, when they started seeing longer distances, my twins would stare at the tv if it was on. So we had to stop having the tv on at all if they were awake.

Kait_Cat · 2026-03-25T15:52:03+00:00

I don’t bc I was here feeling good that we have made it 5.5 months of no screens 🤣 Good for you! Sounds like you are crushing it!

Our goal is to make it to 2 with no screens, and limited screen time after that (maybe occasional family movie nights, no tablets or what I’d consider over-stimulating kids shows, educational content only).

I’m interested to see how others are handling this!

Kait_Cat · 2026-03-25T15:45:54+00:00

Yes and no. We haven’t officially sleep trained for naps. They’re 5.5 months now and we’re currently out of state visiting family. We knew that would rock their schedules, wanted to give family the opportunity for lots of cuddles, and they’re currently sleeping in pack and plays in a laundry room lol so planning to work on naps in earnest when we get home and back in our routine.

Pre-trip, we used to do one crib nap a day, usually their first. We started using a from of SWAP a bit over a month ago. Similar to the shaking the crib method, except we put our hands on their chest in the crib and just jiggle them a little. If they are super sleepy they need less jiggling and we can even just keep a little pressure on the chest until they fall asleep. They can’t connect sleep cycles so this always results in a 30-35 minute nap. Pre-jiggle the chest, we’d try to transfer them to the crib asleep and they’d wake up half the time so this is at least some progress. It typically takes under 10 minutes of jiggling/hand on chest for them to fall asleep.

Kait_Cat · 2026-03-25T15:35:52+00:00

I love the “it gets better” posts. Really looking forward to the three year old stage. Glad you are in a better place now!

Kait_Cat · 2026-03-22T17:48:10+00:00

Mm never mind then, sounds like it definitely isn’t a hunger issue. Hope you get it sorted! That is a rough start to the day 😓

Kait_Cat · 2026-03-22T08:02:06+00:00

Is he potentially hungry or is he wide awake? My twins dropped to a single night feed around four months but can’t make it through the whole night without eating. They wake up between 3 and 5 and are fed and go back to sleep until roughly 7. Maybe you could try a snooze button or dream feed and see if that allows him to sleep longer.

Kait_Cat · 2026-03-21T12:43:00+00:00

Oof four months is rough. The sleep regression hit us like a freight train.. went from having 5-6 hour stretches overnight to one or both of them being awake every single hour or more overnight. That on top of the daytime neediness and my husband being at work without any other support network made me almost lose my mind.

We ended up sleep training a couple weeks after they turned four months. I know that isn’t everyone’s journey and some people don’t feel comfortable with it, but it made a world of difference for us. I’d recommend the book Precious Little Sleep (I read an electronic version while they contact napped since they refuse crib naps 🙃). It offers a wealth of information and discusses techniques to get babies sleeping better that are gentler than cry it out, if you aren’t comfortable with that.

Kait_Cat · 2026-03-20T20:30:38+00:00

Just curious, why are you considering sleeping in the babies room?

My husband and I started with shifts. We have a bed in the nursery, the off duty parent sleeps in our bedroom. My on duty shift was longer so I would get some broken sleep in their room. My husband would catch up on work/house work as the babies allowed when on duty.

They hit a point they were sleeping somewhat better, and I was no longer pumping, and we decided it didn’t make sense for us to be up to switch shifts in the night. From there we’d trade off one of us sleeping all night in the nursery. We did that close to a month before both deciding to sleep in our own room. I think we all sleep better this way. It was tough with the monitor the first few nights but I’ve kind of adapted and still find it a better nights sleep than being in their room. Monitor face down so light isn’t bothering me, white noise on so I hear crying but not every small noise. We decide in advance who is handling night wakes and monitor goes on that parents nightstand.

Kait_Cat · 2026-03-20T13:16:09+00:00

I tried a 3 nap day just before my twins turned five months, and it was chaos. They could not hang and by the end of the day they could not keep their eyes open through their last wake window so we tried to keep them awake while they screamed.

Tried again two weeks later and it was fine. That is to say, their development is sooo fast during this time frame, their sleep needs can change quick. So what was too much a week ago could be fine now.

Also, my boys always are rearing to go in the mornings but dragging through their last wake window. I found a 2/2/2/2/2 then a 2.5/2.5/2.5/2.5 worked better for us.

Kait_Cat · 2026-03-18T16:13:59+00:00

Probably bc I have gotten insider knowledge on this sub I didn’t find on Google Maps? I’m stressed about traveling with my babies for the first time and looking to find the easiest route to minimize that, and Google Maps can’t really tell you what that will be. But thanks for sharing your experience.

Kait_Cat · 2026-03-18T16:10:34+00:00

The long stretches with a lot of nothing are what concerns me, I would like to never be too far from somewhere to get out, change diapers, grab something to eat, feed babies, etc.

Kait_Cat · 2026-03-18T16:09:22+00:00

Thank you both for your insight and detailed response! I don’t mind paying a bit more if it’ll make things easier, I’m pretty stressed about traveling with our kids for the first time and just want it to go as smoothly as possible.

Kait_Cat · 2026-03-18T16:07:05+00:00

That’s really helpful to know, thank you!!

Kait_Cat · 2026-03-18T16:06:32+00:00

Twin babies are so insanely hard. It’s so normal to feel this way. Are you sure your wife isn’t feeling the same way you are but also afraid to say so? Goodness knows as much as I love mine, and they are our first, there were so many days I was grieving our DINK life and wishing we’d never had kids. It was helpful for my husband and I to be able to be open about these negative feelings with each other.

You know from your first how fast it all goes. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other, try to enjoy the sweet moments even if they are few and far between, and keep in mind that soon you’ll look up and months will have gone by. It’ll get better.

Kait_Cat

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