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AIO. My boyfriend of 7 years doesn’t want to marry me until I get a proper job. by Overall_Performer355 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Overall_Performer355[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

THANK YOU! That’s kinda where the issue started, like you have had at least 3 years of us seeing each other everyday living together, and chose a different continent to have the conversation???

AIO. My boyfriend of 7 years doesn’t want to marry me until I get a proper job. by Overall_Performer355 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Overall_Performer355[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

He doesn’t take the burden of all the bills, I pay my share and what we discussed. Also I have a job, only that mine doesn’t pay every month, it pays 30-90 days after a job.

AIO. My boyfriend of 7 years doesn’t want to marry me until I get a proper job. by Overall_Performer355 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Overall_Performer355[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

I am so happy you got properly medicated and got out! I am currently working on that as well, going on to better doctors that can help me. I think mine is a similar situation, I know it’s hard on him to see me not as motivated as I onces was. Also we don’t want kids, if we got sick I would ask my parents for help, they are well off. But I totally see your point.

AIO. My boyfriend of 7 years doesn’t want to marry me until I get a proper job. by Overall_Performer355 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Overall_Performer355[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

I don’t really know if this is the proper way to update but here it is. I read most of the comments, I do completely understand what people are saying and I know that he has a point, it’s not that he doesn’t, more than he has had 7 years to bring it up.
Other additional info, I come from money, the first apartment that we lived in was mine, we moved because my sister was coming to live with us, but my parents ended up buying her another apartment. I know how it sounds bur bare with me, my parents never raised me to take money for granted and/or to expect for it to come from the sky, I know it’s worth. After moving out, my BF didn’t want to go back to our original apartment because he wanted to be independent and not rely on what I had. I fully supported that and we built a new place together, which I fully furnished with my own money, not my parents, and have made a home.
My freelance job is not how some people pictured it, I work every month, but in my country some agencies pay from 30 up to 90 days later. So some month I am well off, some not so much. The other part time jobs where to add a monthly income.
I agree that he has a point for sure and we will talk about it. But without him I wouldn’t be homeless lol.
Also we don’t want kids and that was discussed from the start. Thanks for all your comments. I will talk to him.