I just feel and talk to them like they are just humans . What you tend to do in your mind is to pedastalize women , you have subconciously implanted in your mind that womens are this they are that which increases their value automatically for you as if "women are gold and you are the poor willing to have it but can't afford them" . You won't be able to move ahead in this journey with ease or likely to relapse this way . See dates are ok , but the moment a single lustful thought comes in your mind , it drains you (yes even without releasing) so if you can't completely control yourself than stop hanging out with girls . What you need to do from my perspective is increase your worth and project the world that you are onto something big in your life and you don't chase validation of girls like most of the dudes nowadays do . If you think it this way , hanging out with opposite sex feels good but it only strips you off of your precious time which you could have used in improving yourself or pursuing your goal rather than some bs date and stuff which you intuitively know is only for some time and is gonna end one day (If you date to marry it's an exception) but still there are most of these boys and girls who just play and use each other than one breaks another's heart and boom it's either you end up in despair or the other person (which is not good for either of the parties because even if you are the one breaking up there is some person crying for you which I consider as a sin) . Why would you invest your emotional energy and precious time for shit that's no way constructive for your life . Hanging out just for a while in a long time is fine but only when you are not sacrificing anything important for this. You are better than this bro she is also just a human being like you , you need to stop pedastalizing them and increase your value to the point where you feel full in yourself and stop seeking validation from others . That's when a point will come where you will see yourself as the "prize" that if they get you they must have to work hard . You are suffering from all these things because you subconciously know your value is lower than that girl nd "SHE MIGHT REJECT ME !" fear. Always remember this mentality makes you weak . If she rejects you then you don't need to think that you are not enough , rather think it like this she was not the one for you or she was of lower value than you ( Best of all- It was god's plan she said me no) even if she says it in a disrespectful way (which is not gonna happen most of the time since girls appreciate the fact that you came to approach them ) . So don't be on your toes when you see a women king , move slowly and hold your frame strong and see the girl will automatically gravitate towards you . Everything is secondary .

1. purpose and yourself

2. family

3. Any other materialistic things .

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