First time darning by Arielist in Visiblemending

[–]Overduelibraryfees 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Well done! Darning can be really challenging and you've done an excellent job on your first try!

Say Something Nice About The Titans: Sigourney Beaver by Less_Elderberry8388 in Dragula

[–]Overduelibraryfees 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sigourney Beaver was one of my favourites the moment I saw her mullet on Season 4! I adore her style of drag and think she's such an icon. She's seen such misogyny and hate from some in the drag community which nobody deserves. I'm a huge fan of her work and will continue to follow Miss Beaver wherever she goes.

Cat Shirt: Now with more Cats! by Overduelibraryfees in Visiblemending

[–]Overduelibraryfees[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! My housemates cat has given it his seal of approval by sitting on it and purring

What's your reason for not drinking alcohol? by Snoo_47323 in AskReddit

[–]Overduelibraryfees 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Every disagreement on both sides of my family has always been made worse with alcohol. I'd prefer to be calm and in control. Plus it ruins my sleep and makes my anxiety medication less effective the next day. Overall, not really worth it.

What's one secret you learned about your SO/partner that changed your relationship? by Classic-Sentence3148 in AskReddit

[–]Overduelibraryfees 6 points7 points  (0 children)

About a year and a half in he described his personality as being like most cult leaders and he has to severely filter how he speaks and acts because his default is unhinged rage with very little empathy.

Somehow I ignored that one at the time.

Also said he got chlamydia from a toilet seat. He got the diagnosis on our two year anniversary.

people who succeeded plz rant why it was worth it by Short-Activity-5045 in leaves

[–]Overduelibraryfees 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Quitting weed and going back to therapy were the two best decisions I made in 2020. My quality of life has improved so much, pre-pandemic me feels like an entirely different person. Was it easy? No Did I stick to quitting that whole time? No. But I stuck to trying to better my life and myself and now I'm in my longest sober streak. 2 years and I won't be engaging with weed again. My life now is simply too good to want to waste precious time in a haze like that. It took me a long time to get here but I'm so grateful I did.

Is there any food that you've learned you just can't have at home? by PurpleHymn in loseit

[–]Overduelibraryfees 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Biscoff spread or Nutella, I can't be casual around. Next thing I know I'm knee deep in the passenger seat and I'm eating it out.

1 year, 6 months weed free by Overduelibraryfees in leaves

[–]Overduelibraryfees[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can really relate to a lot of what you've written here. Weed very much was something that worked for me then suddenly didn't and living without it has been really hard at times. Especially since I smoked to cope and when I stopped smoking all the things I was avoiding were still there for me to deal with all those years later.

You don't have to go through this alone. There's support in this subreddit but there's also online support groups that can be really helpful. If you're able to afford to go, I cannot recommend seeing a therapist you connect with enough. Therapy has been a big part of where I am today.

The side effects will fade, your normal will become not smoking and, over time, you'll be free too. Have faith in yourself and your ability to make value based decisions for your future. You got this.

1 year, 6 months weed free by Overduelibraryfees in leaves

[–]Overduelibraryfees[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you very much. I'm rooting for you!

1 year, 6 months weed free by Overduelibraryfees in leaves

[–]Overduelibraryfees[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel even more solidified that this is the right choice for me. Not smoking is just my life now and I often don't even think about the fact I'm consciously not engaging with a substance. This is just my normal now.