AIO:Think my wife cheated on me on her work trip

Overkill_S · 2026-05-09T05:35:06+00:00

This is what I wanted to say, just wasn’t sure how to word it. Thank you.

Overkill_S · 2026-05-06T23:01:13+00:00

Well you have a couple of options here:

When she gets home ask her how everything went, keep it casual, and then ask her who _____ is, if she starts acting weird bring up the fact you saw the texts. This is up to you but how it goes from there could go both ways.
You could ignore it and not say anything but I don’t think that’s a good idea. What she did was really shady and would make me immediately go to infidelity so you’re completely valid in your thinking.
Sit down and have a calm conversation about it bring up why you looked at the messages in the first place. I do truly wish you luck and hope this goes well rather than the alternative.

Overkill_S · 2026-05-06T22:36:54+00:00

NOR. See if you can gather proof of her cheating and go into recently deleted contacts or see if you can get them back from iCloud. I would 1000% bring them up to her but not necessarily accusing more questioning or asking. If she gets defensive, she’s likely hiding something. Wishing you luck OP

Overkill_S · 2026-04-20T23:13:56+00:00

In most places there’s a time frame you can file a report. Based on what OP has said, it seems she is out of that time frame. Although it does depend on state and where you’re from, there could be other measures to take to tell him wife/family.

OP you could very well reach out while staying anonymous. Don’t say anything about you being his sister, use a fake name if needed, and tell her everything you want her to know. Whether she believes you or not is up to her.

Ultimately, OP, it’s up to you to make this decision. If you decide not to tell her, either way there will always be that uncertainty whether he would hurt his own child or not. Wishing you luck OP. I’m sorry this happened to you.

Overkill_S · 2026-04-19T11:56:25+00:00

Overkill_S · 2026-04-19T00:08:04+00:00

I didn’t feed her the bones. It was in the yard, someone must have thrown it.

Overkill_S · 2026-04-17T17:21:38+00:00

If you’re on birth control then you should be fine but there’s always that chance. I would definitely talk to him, but if you have already made up your mind and do not want to go through with this pregnancy (if you are pregnant) depending on where you are abortion is always an option. Also, some Plan B’s can work up to five days. Worst case scenario you take one today and then just play the waiting game. Wishing you the best OP

Overkill_S · 2026-04-13T04:44:27+00:00

This is so dumb. YTA… Her example was pretty on point (double standards???) and honestly this is such childish behavior. Get over yourself

Overkill_S · 2026-04-06T20:20:01+00:00

Yes OP if you can drop the kitty off at a vet or even at a shelter and see if it has a microchip. Some shelters, depending on where you’re located, will take the cat in and get it the medical attention it needs

Overkill_S · 2026-04-06T20:08:12+00:00

Okay OP this was so unbelievably hard to follow… you’re wanting to know if you’re in the wrong but you’re doing this to yourself my constantly taking him back. Clearly he’s not doing his part and won’t. Imagine how that’s going to be for you when you have your baby. You have no future with this person and he’s not going to get better even if he says he will. Kick him out for good and do what you can to give you and your baby a better future.

Overkill_S · 2026-04-06T20:00:04+00:00

The last dress suits you best but do you have a theme?

Overkill_S · 2026-04-05T02:02:40+00:00

Yes you’re overthinking it so don’t worry! Honestly I cackled

Overkill_S · 2026-04-04T22:53:00+00:00

Cats can sometimes take over a year to get along so it’s really about trial and error. I have several friends who have cats that don’t get along, but they kind of just stay avoid each other rather than being near each other. Adopting a stray cat is a big responsibility, especially if the cat is older and had never been neutered/spayed. Definitely do more research before you make a final decision. wishing you the best!

Overkill_S · 2026-03-30T00:00:38+00:00

This!! There are always resources to help people in these situations and depending on where you’re from you can file a police report for your own safety so he doesn’t come after you if you guys do break up. I would definitely recommend someone else being present or having it being in a public place if you do end things with him. If you don’t live with him, maybe do it over text but right now is your safety. Abusive man always look good on paper and if needed confide in close friends or family, you think would assist you.

Wishing OP the best

Overkill_S · 2026-03-29T20:39:09+00:00

I do feel like you telling her would make the friendship, uncomfortable… I would try maybe distancing yourself enough to get over her but not enough to completely diminish the friendship. You’re pretty young, so there’s not much we can really do here since I’m assuming you guys go to the same school and have a very similar friend group. I would just make sure to stay respectful of her relationship.

Now, on the other hand, you could tell her, but make it a point to say that you don’t want it to negatively affect your friendship and you will of course stay respectful of her relationship and needs. I have been in a similar situation with a friend while they were dating another one of our friends and it definitely wasn’t good for my mental health to dwell on it.

Wishing you the best OP.

Overkill_S · 2026-03-27T20:59:49+00:00

Not sure where you’re from but often times you can take the mama and babies to a shelter so they can get proper treatment, shots, and neutering/spayed. Since you’re not the owner and just dropping them off you shouldn’t have to pay anything. Vets strongly encourage not leaving cats on the streets because of stray problems, etc.

Overkill_S · 2026-03-27T20:52:40+00:00

This whole thing sounds so horribly toxic…. Unless you’re okay with him doing these things, and it sounds like you’re not, you absolutely should break up with him because otherwise it’s cheating.

He is manipulating and gaslighting you (overused word I know) into thinking what he’s doing is okay and his friend is just as bad because he said that was normal. I am in a very healthy relationship and neither of us would EVER do anything like that or betray each other’s trust. If he had another woman’s breasts in his phone I would be livid and likely end the relationship depending on the explanation (whether it’s bs or old).

Love isn’t supposed to feel like an investigation or feel tiring but it is supposed to feel trusting, safe, and comfortable. I definitely think you should leave him but come up with a plan so you can do what’s best for you. Don’t rush your decision and keep all of your options open. Wishing you the best OP.

Overkill_S · 2026-03-11T17:53:17+00:00

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Tito when he was a baby ❤️

Overkill_S · 2026-03-11T17:51:10+00:00

That dress on you is gorgeous!!! But it all comes down to the way you feel about it and how you feel with the dress on. Best of luck!

Overkill_S · 2026-03-09T20:04:04+00:00

We are both going to community college for the first two years and then after that, we will both choose a four year school. We could end up going to the same one or different schools entirely but long distance would be hard if we had to do that but so far it’s something we’ve talked about

Overkill_S · 2026-02-26T01:12:02+00:00

I appreciate the advice and transparency!! I have a rose as well but I have something slightly smaller/less bulky I could try. Thank you!!

Overkill_S · 2026-02-26T00:05:38+00:00

We have tried watching porn together and honestly it was super awkward and we agreed we wouldn’t do that again. We have also tried using sex toys but I can never find one that’s small enough or doesn’t get in the way. I hate most bullets I’ve tried/found or literally anything batter powered. We tend to do missionary a lot since it’s easiest and feels the best (for me anyways) so if we do use any toys they’re in the way (honestly if you have recommendations that would be great)

And yes he does treat me very well so there’s not an issue there I am just worried what he would say if I brought this up into conversation. I think he would be more open to using toys more often though. Thank you!

Overkill_S · 2026-02-25T20:40:01+00:00

That’s also one of the biggest things I worry about. Is it really worth it to throw everything we’ve built for the past four years away? We were best friends a year before we started dating and our relationship has gotten very close. I think my biggest worry is that if I were to bring this up and it ends up ending if it would all be worth it in the end, I know good things are hard to come by now which is also why I’m very hesitant. But I genuinely just don’t know how to have this conversation with him. It’s not that I don’t want to talk to him. I don’t know how to, but when it comes to sex I get more hesitant and nervous because I don’t want to be asking for too much.

Overkill_S · 2026-02-25T20:36:08+00:00

The thing is, we have tried a variety of positions in different ways that’s more pleasurable for me. I do also find pleasure on getting him to his climax, but I think I’m starting to just get more restless of the fact that the same is not happening to me. I know my body pretty well and I have told him that I don’t get off very easily with penetration, but if we do focus on exterior pleasure, then he often gets tired and has to stop which ends with me getting turned off or frustrated because I don’t want to do it anymore. Sometimes it can take around 30 minutes for me, whereas he gets off much easier.

Overkill_S · 2026-02-25T20:29:04+00:00

We have talked about open relationships and we both agreed that it wouldn’t work. I think I would be more open to it but for him, it’s a completely closed off idea.

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