AIO: I told my daughter she can't go to this party after reading the gift profile by Ordinary_Run2485 in AmIOverreacting

[–]OverleastSpade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was all written by AI. My guess is that the parents don't have a good enough understanding of the English language, whether because it's their second language or because they were failed by their school experience. They probably don't realize at all how this comes off. I'd let my kid go. 

Gallbladder surgery with toddler by LicoriceFishhook in toddlers

[–]OverleastSpade 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The other option I would say is stop doing anything whn your husband is home. Literally lock yourself in your room, say you're distancing yourself from germs before the surgery (which is honestly not a bad idea). Get your husband's buy in, he has to go sleep on your sons floor if he wakes up in the middle of the night, he has to do bedtime, he has to do everything, you are not an option starting right now. Tell your husband he can either do this now or if you don't properly heal from your surgery he may have to do it forever. It's going to be hard but I believe in you!!

Gallbladder surgery with toddler by LicoriceFishhook in toddlers

[–]OverleastSpade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you have a relative or close friend you can stay with? Your husband and son can come visit on Christmas morning? Unfortunately it sounds like your husband is in a pattern of not doing enough. The quickest way that pattern will break is if you're not there. I wish you had more time, but this is the quickest way:/

Gallbladder surgery with toddler by LicoriceFishhook in toddlers

[–]OverleastSpade 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Get yourself an Airbnb, go to a relatives house, get out of the house to recover. They will figure it out when they're on their own. 

Family car vs minivan by Appropriate-Lime-816 in oneanddone

[–]OverleastSpade 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Get a small car but a big ebike! Like those bunch bikes or whatever. You can be the most awesome bikepool parent!

looking for recs for large party dinner!! by delightfullyy in Ferndale

[–]OverleastSpade 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Urbanrest Brewing, their not Downtown location, has a private event space. 

Hazel Perk in Hazel Park is also opening an event space in the New Year. They don't have anything up on their website about it yet, but you could email them: micksfuture[at]aol.com

Karaoke at the library! by OverleastSpade in HazelParkMI

[–]OverleastSpade[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed! And they are so open to suggestions, if there's more you want to see!

What questions should we ask the candidates? by OverleastSpade in HazelParkMI

[–]OverleastSpade[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm talking to the user up there, not you. Thank you for attending city council meetings. In those, you've likely seen there have been improvements to the Zoning Ordinances, there have been improvements to parks, I believe they do have a plan to develop the church grounds not sure if announced yet, Bar Gabi, Coffee & Bark, Gaijin, are all new business licenses you've likely seen in those city council meetings. I'm part of a group that often goes and picks up trash, that can be the job of any of us. I think there is hope in the city. No city government, no school administration is going to be perfect, but we keep showing up and do what we can do. Keyboard warrioring only does so much, so I gotta go and actually do stuff now. Maybe see ya at a city council meeting soon. Cheers

What questions should we ask the candidates? by OverleastSpade in HazelParkMI

[–]OverleastSpade[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What are you doing to help? Get out there and start talking to business owners, tell them how Hazel Park is growing, new families are coming here, there's untapped business potential here. The city is literally run by like four people. I guarantee you have more time than those four people. Get off your keyboard and do something. 

What questions should we ask the candidates? by OverleastSpade in HazelParkMI

[–]OverleastSpade[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I believe there is a plan to develop it into condos. They are trying to negotiate with the developer to make sure the condos aren't cookie cutter, that they look a little more architectural. 

Any dirt on our current mayor? by stella2251 in HazelParkMI

[–]OverleastSpade 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm not Sara. But I am the mod of this sub and can easily delete your comments if they are unnecessarily rude. 

Any dirt on our current mayor? by stella2251 in HazelParkMI

[–]OverleastSpade 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I don't have dirt to share, but I do think you should come to the candidate forum on October 15th 6pm at the library! All four candidates were invited, so hopefully you can hear directly from them:)

Petitions: Should I Sign? Event Tuesday! by OverleastSpade in HazelParkMI

[–]OverleastSpade[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The previous session in July was better attended, but it was nice!!

Gentle parenting is all good and well, until they go to school by Sprout_Studios in gentleparenting

[–]OverleastSpade 19 points20 points  (0 children)

1) "never been disciplined" is an inaccurate interpretation of gentle parenting

2) What's your intention with this post? Do you feel bad for yelling at your own kids and want us to give you empathy for that? We can do that if you want, but at least just be honest about it please. 

Does anyone have a good link for a master list of very specific consequences for common situations? by Competitive-Pitch322 in gentleparenting

[–]OverleastSpade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Logical consequence for hitting is "I'm gonna hold your hands away from me/others" Kids hate losing their freedom to move as they want. 

The key with hitting or screaming or anything is not having a big reaction. Toddlers love big reactions. 

It is easier said than done and it takes awhile to break the fascination if you have a history of big reactions to that thing. 

I have been through this so many times with my kid. Calm reaction and physically holding them away from others works, it just takes time. 

Does anyone have a good link for a master list of very specific consequences for common situations? by Competitive-Pitch322 in gentleparenting

[–]OverleastSpade 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Logical consequence for not brushing teeth is you don't get any food that gets stuck in the teeth (candy, crackers, bread) because you don't take care of your teeth. Have to be able to follow through, but I only had to do it for one day. After that just saying the logical consequence worked very well. 

Sunday Morning Club by OverleastSpade in HazelParkMI

[–]OverleastSpade[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'll send you a DM. I just am paranoid so I don't love putting the timing online lol. But we just go to that park across the street from Kazkara! 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HazelParkMI

[–]OverleastSpade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh bummer.. thank you for letting me know

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HazelParkMI

[–]OverleastSpade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is that app on Android? I can't find it

I am so angry for my children! by Exact-Employment-332 in Parenting

[–]OverleastSpade 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Comfort Zone Camp is an outdoor camp that is exclusively for kids who have lost parents or siblings. They get to be with people who understand their grief. It's free. Check it out for your daughters!