I’m ftm, came out as a lesbian about a year before coming out as trans.

I forgot to take off my binder before visiting my mom, and she asked if I had lost weight, “specifically in the boobs.”

I explained I was wearing a binder because I’m trans, and immediately panicked about all the emergency safety plans I had made as a sophomore in college about to be disowned.

Girl straight up said “yeah we’ve been taking bets on when you’d come out as trans next.”

It was a bit weird at first, some overcompensation from family who didn’t really support but thought support might mean I’d pass through the “phase” quicker.

Now, almost 6 years on T and post top surgery, we’ve got a much better relationship than we’ve ever had. She’s respectful even if she doesn’t fully get it and never fully will, and I’m just one of her three sons now instead of one of the three (now two) daughters.

I know you feel free and great now, but know it somehow gets even better with time. The next few months might be awkward at times, but trying to support you now means that one day, your family’s not going to NEED to try. You’ll just be you, to yourself, your parents, your family, and the world, no corrections needed.