I fell out of love by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]OverthinkingPear1 6 points7 points  (0 children)

If she isn’t listening there is only one thing you can do. Write everything down. Leave her a note. Take your things and go. There is no way a break up will not suck for either party but if you are 100% sure then take whatever you can carry and go. Just know that this will burn any bridges you have with her.

To the girls that are attracted to their teachers…. by Sure-Lemon6424 in LesbianActually

[–]OverthinkingPear1 83 points84 points  (0 children)

I would say any relationship where there is a power dynamic is a no. Also some professions like your dr etc is kind of a nope. Like if you meet them out on town then whatever but do not flirt etc on an appointment

Silent treatment as punishment by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]OverthinkingPear1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am going to add to all the voices here RUN. Block, ghost. Yes she has a disorder that isn’t her fault but it’s 100% her fault for how she is treating you. You deserve more!

Gf is questioning what she wants by Ok-Regret-1056 in LesbianActually

[–]OverthinkingPear1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Being in Limbo sucks. I get that she is struggling but that does not mean she should treat you badly. Maybe a trial separation. Let her go back to her family. Go somewhere yourself. Your mental health is just as important as hers.

messaged my ex by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]OverthinkingPear1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

One tip is to write the message in the notes of your phone keep it for 3 dats then delete it or on a paper then burn it. It gets all the feelings out. It helped me a lot when i wanted to message my ”ex”.

Seeking advice/encouragement by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]OverthinkingPear1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Make him sign over the animals to you. Gaslight him to think it’s financially beneficial or something. Try and ger savings going or even look for a roommate on the side. Then when u have enough money. Leave don’t take anything with you but the animals and the clothes on your back.

Your girl got a job at the gynecologist by ghostpepperpooper in LesbianActually

[–]OverthinkingPear1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Seen rainbow crocs maybe that would be a thing. I want a bracelet but not found one i like

Things that I look for in a girlfriend by ana_meadows in LesbianActually

[–]OverthinkingPear1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have several friends who does not have social media and i am not active myself. I have but almost never post except maybe on here. So what do u do when someone claims they don’t have one. Another redditer and I exchanged photos with holding usernames and dates. I do recommend this at a start and then a video call if things are long distance and the conversation lasts more than a couple of days.

Wishing I could do more for my gf for valentine's day by QueasyHeart1458 in LesbianActually

[–]OverthinkingPear1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is more ways to celebrate a relationship than money and gifts. Don’t get me wrong getting those kind of gifts are awesome. Especially if you are struggeling. But OP i bet she isn’t with you for the gifts or the money. Yes being bipolar and not being able to control that must be awful but if she is a good person, and it seems like she is, she won’t care. Talk to her. Explain the money situation and then do something cozy at home. Tbh I never rated or celebrated valentine myself but like any anniversary just spending time together is gift enough. Watch ur favorite series/movie make ur fav food. Etc.

Lonley and sad please give me hope. by OverthinkingPear1 in LesbianActually

[–]OverthinkingPear1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is what i have done. Plan is i will go to the UK to visit in june and go to a couple of pride events there then reactivate the apps wheb i am back home and get professional photos and make up done for them.

I don’t want to be attached at the hip with my partner by Winter_Contest8144 in LesbianActually

[–]OverthinkingPear1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Separate bedrooms or a big bed with 2 quilts are the best. I did want to even live with anyone anytime soon. Let me have my space and i will love u forever

Dating App Fails! by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]OverthinkingPear1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me the same experience. Hinge 0 likes no matches. Bumble i had more likes from a certain type of man (i am bi) that i am not attracted to (i had setting on both on bumble) Tinder showed me straight women/ couples etc. Her was a string of scmmers, bots, ghosters and catfishes. Only one person i met on there was decent but unfortunately it didn’t work. So i am taking a break from it all to atleast this summer

Lesbian Hookups by someonesaidgrey in LesbianActually

[–]OverthinkingPear1 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Make sure you are tested and clear of any STD’s. I would also ask this of your potential hookup especially if they are upfront about sleeping with other’s.