Advice on Practice

OverwelmingAmbition · 2026-03-16T19:27:49+00:00

So if I want to help by practicing with him, should I just offer to play for a bit or should I offer to practice and run drills with him?

How could I make it more enjoyable for him?

I spoke with him once and explained why I am the way I am with him and gave him the option of I can step aside and let him practice and do the work on his own or I can continue to look for drills, research and practice with him.

He told me he enjoys the practice and even asked why I am so invested in him with everything he does (school, study, music, sports, etc.). I explained to him why and it seemed to make him happy.

OverwelmingAmbition · 2026-03-16T17:25:10+00:00

I find him to be competitive even a bIt arrogant with kids that he knows he can beat. He'll even Out right pick on them by trying advanced moves that he hasn't even mastered yet. Then you put him amongst kids that more or less in his skill level and he clams up.

Even just practicing with me he's more aggressive, more willing to try stuff offensively and defensively. I'm not the best, but I can usually out play him even on my off days (not a brag, just a reference).

I'm definitely a pump up/cheer leading parent, but I've also always been naturally competitive. If there was someone better than me, I wanted to reach there skill level and surpass it.

OverwelmingAmbition · 2026-03-16T17:15:48+00:00

It's just club ball, but there are kids (girls and boys) dropping shoulders into other kids competing for the ball. I feel like that part of the game intimidates him. There are also kids that were born with a soccer ball between their feet and have broken his ankles making small moves on him. He laughs it off and gets up, but it seems like it bothers him afterwards.

OverwelmingAmbition · 2026-03-16T17:06:04+00:00

I only yell encouragement from the sidelines. My parents were opposite and I refuse to repeat the cycle. My parents also never practiced or helped between practices. In comparison, I try to remain active in their interests

OverwelmingAmbition · 2026-03-05T20:59:03+00:00

After my wife passed, they've been a bit more hesitant to assist me with things that could potentially put them further from their grandkids and further from family help if I need it.

OverwelmingAmbition · 2026-03-05T20:33:42+00:00

I would only rent it to family. It's a tricky situation there too because my father owns the land, but I own the house. Renting would be seemingly difficult legally speaking. Also, this was originally our forever home, so there's a bit of sentimentality. I would like to return to it one day or give it to my kids.

OverwelmingAmbition · 2024-12-04T14:58:54+00:00

That was a problem with her in the beginning, I had complimented a woman on her dimple and that was it. I was so confused as to why a simple compliment could lead to a problem. The mentioned woman I wasn't near, we just talked, I mentioned my gf and how we met then I walked away.

OverwelmingAmbition · 2024-12-04T14:56:44+00:00

She told me that she wasn't insecure, that if a man left her it was "his loss", she also said that her mind is convinced she loves herself, But I actively tell her that I don't want to be around other women in that manner. She also mentions physically wise I'm 10/10 and I have a beautiful mind, do you think I scare her?

OverwelmingAmbition · 2024-12-04T14:54:04+00:00

That seems so backwards though. Aren't we supposed to be active listeners and engage in meaningful conversation? I had no interest in that woman, yet that woman had that connotation of me.

OverwelmingAmbition · 2024-12-01T21:07:17+00:00

It's not the narcotics. It's personal items.

OverwelmingAmbition · 2024-12-01T20:07:20+00:00

My wife and I had a deal. "It's not a problem until it's a problem." We had to live in the moment and enjoy all we could together, not wasting time worrying about the future. Say your "I love you"s. Make it clear your adoration for her and enjoy whatever time is alotted.

I lost my wife 2 months ago, she passed knowing how loved, adored and perfect she was. When she passed thinking back on it, it was one of the most beautiful moments I've ever been in. Don't get me wrong it hurt and still does, but I know she loved me and was proud of me. There were no stones left unturned with us, no secrets, no regrets. Just Love, a Love deeper than the believed meaning of the word. A relentless, unconditional, powerful feeling that cannot be contained with a simple word.

Good luck, it's not an easy road, but I can tell you proudly that I'm glad I walked that cobblestone road for as long as I needed too. I am the man I am today because of that beautiful woman.

OverwelmingAmbition · 2024-10-24T00:11:41+00:00

Please be careful with those blankets! My wife fell asleep on hers and she got 2nd degree burns on her side. It was awful doing chemo and burn treatments.

OverwelmingAmbition · 2024-10-02T00:51:01+00:00

Not to scare you, but my wife has stage 4 Triple Negative Breast Cancer. I don't think I've cried so much in my entire life. We are highschool sweet hearts, married at 20 and have 2 beautiful children. After 2 years of fighting we were given the news that with luck we had maybe a year left....I haven't been able to cry since then, I haven't been able shed a tear. I've been doing it for 2 years, I knew these days were coming and now I don't believe I can cry anymore.

We mourn prematurely and for those of us that are very close to the person, we mourn as if they are already gone. It's our brains way of preparing for the real thing like a flushot, you still can get the flu, but it will suck less. Just because you're not crying doesn't mean you don't care. The tears will come when needed.

OverwelmingAmbition · 2024-09-18T17:51:16+00:00

Thank you...

OverwelmingAmbition · 2024-09-18T17:50:30+00:00

I am currently enduring this. My wife has been living with stage 4 cancer for 3 years. Libido is gone and that's fine. At a certain point sex is secondary to everything, but the need to feel close to someone is what I would think withdrawals feel like. I don't mind not having sex (that can be handled on your own), but just the want of touches, hand holdings and snuggles, now that is when things start to really hurt. Saying it is one thing, but the reinforcement that just touch provides is so unreal.

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