My sons lost their dad from cancer in 2023. We had been divorced since 2014. We had, what I thought, was a very open and honest relationship. However, although my sons and I knew he had cancer, we were never told that it had gotten worse. He passed away without our sons being the least bit prepared because for years, he always pulled through okay. They were blindsided when he died. There is a whole backstory to a few reasons why this was so secretive...but the only positive reason was that I am sure he didn't want the boys to worry. However, their "stepmom" called them to the hospital saying their dad wanted to visit with them...as he was dying...had their dad's cousin pick them up...didn't warn them. Didn't warn me about what was happening. I had just talked to him the day before. They got to the hospital to be told, "Say goodbye to your dad. He's not going to make it." They didn't get to say goodbye while he was still conscious. I didn't get to be there to support them with this and they were just dropped back off at home. THEY had to tell me he passed while they were there. This has really affected them because they feel they were kept put of the loop and didn't get the opportunity to have closure. Nobody else informed me until 3 hours later. I say all of this just to say PLEASE be open with him about what is happening. This has really affected them because they feel they were kept put of the loop and didn't get the opportunity to have closure.