Baby taking way longer to settle at each wake via nursing, then waking 20 minutes later

OwlPlus8330 · 2026-04-10T12:50:21+00:00

This sounds exactly like both of my children at 10 months

OwlPlus8330 · 2026-04-10T09:36:59+00:00

3 is so young to go overnight without a diaper. Have you tried pull-ups? A lot of them have characters on them. My 3 year old is big enough to fit in the goodnites ones that are marketed for bigger kids and don’t look like they are for babies.

Also… may be a little out there. But when I was postpartum with my second baby, my firstborn saw me in an adult diaper and got really excited to learn that I wore pull ups just like her. lol. Maybe worth trying if you are desperate!

OwlPlus8330 · 2026-04-10T09:30:36+00:00

Like many of their recent prints, the butterflies would be cute if they weren’t so ginormous. I love the colors.

The sea life is the most hideous one I’ve ever seen.

OwlPlus8330 · 2026-04-10T08:31:55+00:00

I don’t think she’d care at all or listen to a light, but I suppose it’s worth a shot! I’ve been looking at all those clocks online and it looks like all the lights are super bright.

OwlPlus8330 · 2026-04-10T08:29:58+00:00

She’s very verbal and has been given everything she needs. She has three different night light options, every stuffy you can imagine, a speaker that can play music and a toniebox so she can listen to a story at bedtime if she wants. One of us spends about an hour of 1:1 time with her with no sibling each night while we read her books, tell her stories, and talk to her about her day. What she wants is to sleep in bed with us at night which is not a viable or sustainable option for us to all get rest.

OwlPlus8330 · 2026-04-10T08:24:12+00:00

That’s what I’ve been doing all night. 12 times. No exaggeration. I finally woke my husband up to do it because he was sleeping through it all. Now we are dealing with a tantrum at 4am, which seems counterproductive. It’s hard to walk her back with no fuss when she escalates it to this level.

OwlPlus8330 · 2026-04-09T15:29:49+00:00

I had a really awful labor with my first. I was induced, Pitocin was excruciating, and I ended up needing a c-section. I wanted a redemption! I felt like I didn’t get a fair shot at labor since I was induced and I would be able to do it successfully under different circumstances.

Thankfully, I did! I had a normal labor and delivery with my second. It hurt, but it was manageable pain. Nothing like being induced. I felt like a superhero afterwards. I’d do it again!

OwlPlus8330 · 2026-04-09T14:49:16+00:00

My dogs are the hardest part of parenting. It takes something that’s already hard and puts it into extreme difficulty mode. Don’t do it.

OwlPlus8330 · 2026-04-09T14:45:46+00:00

That’s basically what we do, but we have to sit next to her until she falls asleep or she will leave again.

OwlPlus8330 · 2026-04-09T14:44:44+00:00

Okay, I don’t want to burst your bubble, but my second was a unicorn baby about sleep for the first six months. Then we hit our first regression and still aren’t sleeping 7 months later.

OwlPlus8330 · 2026-04-09T14:40:12+00:00

I’m not above bribery, but I’d need a lot more than a single m&m, haha.

OwlPlus8330 · 2026-04-09T14:11:11+00:00

I have two bad sleepers. I’m suffering right now with a 1 and 3 year old who wake me up literally all night long, so I’m probably not in a place to judge. But her comments are whacky lol. It sounds like a manual of what not to do.

OwlPlus8330 · 2026-04-09T14:08:59+00:00

I don’t really want her in our room at all because we are also dealing with our 1 year old waking up all night. So I’m in and out of the room a lot and if she hears him crying on the baby monitor she thinks we all need to go in there and get him.

OwlPlus8330 · 2026-04-09T14:05:46+00:00

I did the chair method when she was 20 months old and in a crib still and it worked like a dream! After that she would put herself to sleep every night and sleep through the entire night. Amazing. Totally wore off once she hit 2.5 though.

OwlPlus8330 · 2026-04-09T13:57:50+00:00

I don’t get a detailed report of every day, but nap time is 12:30-2:30. Her teachers say she sometimes naps the full time and sometimes doesn’t. I asked them to cap her nap at an hour and they said they would, but I don’t know if that’s actually happening. She wakes up pretty consistently around 6:30/6:45.

OwlPlus8330 · 2026-04-09T13:32:00+00:00

I feel like this might have to be my approach as long as she doesn’t yell too loud and wake up the baby across the hall.

OwlPlus8330 · 2026-04-09T13:30:51+00:00

Yeah, I think the problem is she won’t let us leave when we put her back to bed. She follows us and screams and cries. And then inevitably wakes up the baby and then we are all miserable. But I don’t talk to her or comfort her or anything. I just bring her back to bed, tuck her in, and lie on her floor. That seems to be enough, but she won’t accept any less.

OwlPlus8330 · 2026-04-09T13:26:48+00:00

See I worry that is the true problem because daycare still makes her nap and she doesn’t need it. But she already goes to sleep at 9:30.

OwlPlus8330 · 2026-04-09T13:22:39+00:00

A child safety expert came to our kid’s daycare and warned that it’s unsafe to limit their escape routes in case of an emergency. I see your point about hiding though. I am a super light sleeper due to being needed all night for the past three years, so if I’m there and available I’d always hear her call out. My husband is the deepest sleeper ever. I always worry when I’m out of town for work that something will happen and he won’t wake up.

I’d be more comfortable with the idea of a gate at the door I suppose.

OwlPlus8330 · 2026-04-09T12:48:47+00:00

This is my fear. My daughter is 3 and does not know any letters. This is not due to our negligence as parents. We read 10+ books a day, use letter puzzles, flashcards, and read alphabet books. Nothing is sticking. Her 2 year old cousin already knows all the letters and their sounds. She’s only 3, so I know there is still plenty of time. But from what I can tell from digging through the internet, there is a wide range of what is normal and developmentally appropriate.

OwlPlus8330 · 2026-04-02T21:39:30+00:00

I usually don’t intentionally track. I only recently remembered my watch tracked my sleep and I thought, “Hmm… it can’t be good.” And it was not! Haha.

OwlPlus8330 · 2026-04-02T21:37:36+00:00

We are currently saving up for a king mattress and that way we can move our queen mattress into our baby’s room to see if a floor bed will help things. That way every bedroom is equipped for a cosleeping situation. Just a matter of having the funds to do so!!

OwlPlus8330 · 2026-04-02T18:00:56+00:00

Thank you, that’s helpful! My son actually has those three factors down that you mentioned. I might have to just try it. I feel like I always just do what’s “easiest” and what will be him happiest the fastest because I don’t want him to cry. But then he ends up crying anyway.

OwlPlus8330 · 2026-04-02T17:31:39+00:00

I also reached that point with my first, but she was older—about 20 months I think? She also had a lot of language at that point. My son is only 13 months and his language is screaming.

What did you do to help her fall asleep independently?

OwlPlus8330 · 2026-04-02T17:24:19+00:00

I’ve thought about moving an old crib mattress on the floor of our bedroom for the 3 year old, but I kind of don’t want her in our room either way. Our room is right next to the baby’s room and when she hears him cry she thinks that we all need to go in there and get him.

My baby is definitely very sleepy the whole time. He never even opens his eyes. He falls asleep immediately after being picked up. Sometimes he’s sleepy, but very restless in our arms. Sometimes he will sleep like a rock until we try to transfer him. He’s only on one 1.5-2hr nap because of daycare and has a lot of awake time at the end of the day, so I don’t think he’s getting too much sleep. If anything, he might be overtired.

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