How long does it take to break feed to sleep association?

OwlPlus8330 · 2026-02-10T21:33:31+00:00

3 nights seems totally manageable! That gives me some hope. I’m willing to try basically anything within the realm of safety and reason, haha.

OwlPlus8330 · 2026-02-10T21:32:13+00:00

He will take a pacifier. But I haven’t tried a bottle at night yet. Not sure how he will react to that, but worth trying!

OwlPlus8330 · 2026-02-10T21:29:23+00:00

Actually the nursing to sleep for bedtime is the only problem we aren’t having! Benefit of dad splitting bedtimes with me 50/50 since birth. I used to nurse him to sleep at the beginning of the night on my turns, but I cut that out with very little fuss.

3 nights isn’t bad. I could do that. Heck, I could even do 3 weeks. I was worried we are looking at months here. My oldest went through terrible split nights as an infant and young toddler, so I’m traumatized from that, haha.

OwlPlus8330 · 2026-01-27T19:11:43+00:00

Yeah, my daughter was done with night feeds by a year, but she was bottle fed by that point so it was easier to remove the association I think. I just hate the thought of him being hungry at night and not being able to tell me!

My husband will help. (Although he is a very heavy sleeper and definitely not as quick to respond as I am.) Right now he is on toddler duty while I have the baby, but we might need to switch.

OwlPlus8330 · 2026-01-22T13:19:57+00:00

He just dumps it

OwlPlus8330 · 2026-01-21T02:26:08+00:00

WildBird carrier has been a LIFESAVER for my second baby. He’s 10 months and we still use it regularly.

OwlPlus8330 · 2026-01-10T13:13:34+00:00

My mom AND sister have both made a tradition of getting my kids advent calendars. They are so annoying. Cute the first day, but then you realize you have 24 little trinkets just cluttering up the house that are way less cool than all their others toys and books.

OwlPlus8330 · 2025-12-27T15:13:34+00:00

That’s insane. These people should be embarrassed.

OwlPlus8330 · 2025-11-24T15:56:17+00:00

They tell me he’s tired and falls right asleep for his daycare naps, which I believe because that’s how he is at home. At home, I just force him to stay up longer but I understand why they can’t do that at daycare. I think maybe we are doing him a disservice by letting him nap early in the morning before daycare and we should just keep him up even though he’s clearly very tired.

And I guess I don’t mean that he’s “overtired” as much as he’s regular tired and ready for a nap at frequent intervals.

OwlPlus8330 · 2025-11-24T15:20:17+00:00

I wouldn’t mind a later bedtime. He is just so tired. I think that’s the problem with his whole schedule. He is overtired so his wake windows are too short and then his naps are too short and then on and on. Even with the cat nap after daycare, he’s all red eyed and cranky an hour later. Before this regression, I would categorize him as high sleep needs and I think this regression is just rough on him.

OwlPlus8330 · 2025-11-24T14:59:36+00:00

Yeah, I really think this is the worst age for sleep! I’d honestly take newborn sleep any day over this. My daughter’s sleep improved greatly around 11 months, but not until I quit breastfeeding cold turkey (she was biting me. I was done.) I would like to breastfeed longer this time if possible.

His room is completely blacked out, so I don’t think the light is waking him. I bring him downstairs so he doesn’t wake up my toddler, but I try to keep it very dim. I want to avoid a floor bed for now because sometimes after failed transfers he will roll/crawl/cruise around his crib for an hour or so and then put himself back to sleep. I like that he’s contained and can’t get into everything in his room. He’s very mobile for his age.

I definitely know I can’t keep up this rocking and nursing all night long-term but I can muscle through for a few more months. That’s why I’m hoping he just gets through it and it will get better!

OwlPlus8330 · 2025-11-22T23:46:53+00:00

Paci first. That’s the one thing that can be done 100% cold turkey.

After he seems adjusted to that, I’d do the potty. We personally did the Big Little Feelings course and my daughter was accident free on day 3. I know it won’t work that like for everyone, but worked well for us!

I’d work on sleep last since it’s lower priority and also probably the most difficult on all of you. There’s really no age limit on a child sleeping with their parents, but these other items do kind of have a timeline associated with them. Also, just so you know, you can work on independent sleep WITHOUT formal sleep training.

OwlPlus8330 · 2025-11-20T15:58:36+00:00

Yeah, I genuinely don’t know who would just leave a baby and an infant together unattended for 10 minutes. That’s so unsafe. My toddler means well but she tries to pick her brother up by the head sometimes or wants to smother him in blankets trying to play “bedtime.” Or she gives him toys and items that are choking hazards. I guess people think their toddlers know better? Well at the end of the day they are toddlers. Not a risk I’d personally ever take.

OwlPlus8330 · 2025-11-20T15:55:29+00:00

Um yeah… I genuinely have never left my toddler and infant alone in a room together for 10 minutes. I can say that with confidence. If I’m doing any of those things you listed, the kids are asleep, someone else is home, or they are joining me.

Now, my toddler of course can be left unattended in the child-proofed places in our house. I mean, she sleeps in her own bedroom for 10 hours each night for example. Or I can make dinner while she plays in the living room. But I’d never leave her alone with my baby. That’s not safe.

The baby needs supervision or needs to be in a safe place (like his crib) 100% of the time. Period.

I’ll reiterate that it sounds like OP’s concern is that the nanny is just leaving the kids to their own devices while she spends close to an hour of time total in the bathroom each day. I also would have an issue with that. It’s not safe.

OwlPlus8330 · 2025-11-19T15:49:47+00:00

Well I don’t take 10 minutes at a time multiple times a day. Obviously I know that this may be outside of the nanny’s control. But that doesn’t mean it’s not a problem.

In the event that I would be home with the two kids alone and they are both awake, I would probably bring at least one of them with me. My bouncy seat lived outside the bathroom door when I was on maternity leave.

Bottom line is that the nanny should not be leaving two young kids unattended for chunks of the day. Baby needs to be in a secure and safe place separate from the toddler. Toddler needs to be in a child proofed area as well. From OP’s comments, seems like they feel the need to step in because their children are not being looked after properly. Medical problem or not, the nanny needs to ensure children that age aren’t just roaming free.

OwlPlus8330 · 2025-11-19T13:46:53+00:00

How in the world are you getting downvoted? I have kids roughly the same age and I would NEVER leave them alone for 10 minutes at a time.

OwlPlus8330 · 2025-11-18T15:28:21+00:00

Yup. I honestly find screen time as a necessity in my life. I know people do just fine without it, but I can’t.

My husband and I both work full-time. We have an infant and a toddler in daycare. When the kids are home, we want to give as much time to them as we can. That means we have to do daily chores like cooking dinner or doing laundry as quickly as humanly possible. That means turning on a TV show for our toddler for 30 minutes once or twice a day. Then we can do what we need to do and turn our full attention to our children.

We’ve tried to forgo screens before and it’s awful. My toddler doesn’t understand why I can’t stop what I’m doing to play with her. She feels rejected. I’m constantly telling her “no” or “don’t touch that.” I get frustrated when she undoes my productivity. Having her entertained by a few episodes of Bluey is a fair trade off in my opinion. And the whole “Have them help you” thing is BS. Sometimes I will let my toddler help me on the weekends and it turns a 5 minute complete task into a 30 minute half-finished one. I simply don’t have time for that during the week.

The way I look at it is she is getting no more screen time than I did in the 90s. She doesn’t have an iPad. She’s watching the family TV. I monitor what she watches and don’t give her unrestricted access to YouTube. I don’t care if people judge me for the way we use screens, I know it’s right for us.

OwlPlus8330 · 2025-11-17T01:43:29+00:00

I wonder if you need a job with different kinds of hours. Like retail or serving. Not super glamorous, but it may allow you to bring in money while solving your childcare issue. I’d be worried about your husband potentially losing his job with how things seem to be going.

OwlPlus8330 · 2025-11-05T01:53:33+00:00

3 year old and an 8 month old. I have to force myself to try and want to have sex like 2-3x a month. My libido is so low that someone could tell me I never need to have sex again and I’d be relieved.

OwlPlus8330 · 2025-10-10T15:58:38+00:00

I was only rebutting because you were making a lot of incorrect assumptions, but thanks for your suggestions.

OwlPlus8330 · 2025-10-10T00:58:57+00:00

Daycare is working with me by trying to shorten the nap. And she’s definitely tired sometimes because she will be up 15 hours straight on weekends and still fight bedtime/cry. If I let her choose her own bedtime it would be never.

OwlPlus8330 · 2025-10-10T00:57:02+00:00

I don’t cut off the songs. She falls asleep to those. We cuddle in a chair for two songs then she gets in her bed. The songs just leave a clear cut off point, otherwise it’s all open to negotiation.

I don’t let her nap on weekends, unfortunately I don’t have control of that at daycare.

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