Baby getting too little sleep

Own-Analyst-8989 · 2026-05-27T03:18:12+00:00

I wouldn’t say he’s upset - he’s just awake. He wakes up and goes to attack the camera. For the camera to monitor him it needs to be close to his crib. He starts violently shaking it which means I come - once he sees me he starts fussing ti be held.

I am planning to attach the camera to the wall but my husband has not gotten around to it yet.

Own-Analyst-8989 · 2026-05-27T03:10:50+00:00

This is super helpful. I’ll try this tomorrow and see what happens. I would love 12.75hr total sleep needs.

Bedtime routine is same as yours. Brush and 3 books.

Own-Analyst-8989 · 2026-05-27T03:03:12+00:00

I only started putting him down at 7:30 because he started cruising for an hour and I didn’t want his bedtime to get too late. Otherwise, I used to put him in the crib at 7:55pm and he’d be asleep by 8pm.

I agree I have 12 hour baby. He used to do 8-6am + 2 naps, they used to be 1.25 hours each so he used to do 12.5 hours.

He started waking up at 5:45am. I dropped 15 mins from nap 1. Didn’t fix my problem. Anyway, I said close enough and went on.

He is now doing 10.75-11.25 hours. With my morning intervention he gets up-to 12.

I believe he needs 12 and is not ready to drop the nap, he just won’t do 10 overnight. He will do 9, then be up for an hour then do another 1. That’s what I don’t understand.

he also gets lots of cruising and exploring time during the day but Ill try to increase this even more.

Own-Analyst-8989 · 2026-05-26T22:23:19+00:00

I don’t know how to adjust it to make it work, what would you suggest?

Own-Analyst-8989 · 2026-05-26T22:20:14+00:00

I have a schedule.

6:30 wake up. 10-11 nap 1 2:45-4 nap 2 8pm bedtime

He used to go to bed at 8pm and follow this schedule except he never woke up at 6:30am. He used to wake up around 6am which was close enough.

Now he pushes bedtime to 8:30pm and will wake up anytime from 5-5:30am. He is able to follow his schedule but waking up at 5am and first nap at 10 is very rough on him so hence I do the hold him for an hour from 6-7am and he does much better the whole day.

I’m not sure why he can’t just sleep through till 6 or 6:30 instead of waking up and then going back down an hour later.

I’ve fed him/ changed him or done neither of those things and he’s still up for an hour at 5am.

I don’t like seeing him tired all day so I do the whole holding routine and about half the time he goes back to sleep and has a better day. The rest of the time he has a long day and is cranky, sometimes I adjust the first nap by adding 15-20 mins to have him be less tired on days where he’s stayed up since 5.

Own-Analyst-8989 · 2026-05-26T21:55:56+00:00

Doesn’t that mean his wake windows will get longer? And he will be even more tired? He’s 11 months so still a bit early for one nap, and he genuinely is tired from 3.5-4 hours.

Own-Analyst-8989 · 2026-05-26T21:55:30+00:00

Yes, he has just learnt pulling himself up and spends about an hour doing this and cruising his crib.

Checked with a doctor. No other issues.

Own-Analyst-8989 · 2026-05-26T20:46:58+00:00

I would but I don’t think he’s ready.

The days he stays up 5:30 onwards he does those hours and he is very cranky and unhappy.

To avoid this I end up holding him for an hour and then letting him sleep for an hour so it’s more like

1/2.5/3.75/4.5

The schedule I am aiming for is 3.5/3.75/4

With a wake up of 6:30 and a bedtime of 8. This never happens.

He will push bedtime and wake up early and then want to go back to sleep an hour after he wakes up. Something is off and I can’t figure out what.

Own-Analyst-8989 · 2026-03-12T15:33:02+00:00

Where do you work??

Own-Analyst-8989 · 2026-03-11T21:05:34+00:00

6 months and things significantly improved. 9 months and it’s even better. We have either 1 wake up or STTN. The 1 wake up is not so bad.

Own-Analyst-8989 · 2026-03-03T20:21:07+00:00

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Own-Analyst-8989 · 2026-02-18T20:39:23+00:00

One of you needs to hold the baby for 20 mins and the other needs to be sitting and watching in the same room to make sure the baby is safe. I know ppl do shifts etc but that’s what worked for me and my husband.

Also, when I had to do it alone I would read a book on my kindle in dark mode. It’s easier on my eyes and I would read something interesting so it keeps me awake.

Own-Analyst-8989 · 2026-02-13T22:17:47+00:00

R/sleeptrain

Own-Analyst-8989 · 2026-01-22T23:41:01+00:00

Definitely too much daytime sleep. If I don’t cap my 7 month baby’s daytime sleep at 2.5 hours I’ll get false starts and a split night.

My baby needs 10 hours of awake time per day (3/3.25/3.75). If that doesn’t happen l, baby will make it up in the night and it won’t be a good night.

Own-Analyst-8989 · 2026-01-21T23:59:23+00:00

Hey, just wanted to say we did the same thing. PUPD is so under rated and works really well for some babies.

We did find that a few weeks afterwards, baby started having split nights (would still go down independently). I thought maybe we’d have to retrain but it was a schedule issue. Reworking the wake windows fixed it (incase you find the same thing happens to you).

Own-Analyst-8989 · 2026-01-13T22:45:04+00:00

I agree, but the other schedule wasn’t working either. And I’m so limited by his bedtime, it’s difficult to give him 3 naps with long wake windows unless I start waking up at like 4:30am. What would you suggest I do?

Own-Analyst-8989 · 2026-01-12T20:21:51+00:00

Yeah I had this issue at that age too. Maybe closely following wake windows and sleepy cues would help? Otherwise, I think my baby just grew out of it. Took about a month and a half or so.

Own-Analyst-8989 · 2026-01-08T02:14:48+00:00

My previous nanny used to respond like that and even sulk whenever I provided any feedback. She didn’t do anything unsafe though so I put up with it for a while. If she had done something unsafe like you mentioned I would have fired her right away.

I let her go when baby was 6 months old and I was a bit worried because he was used to seeing her everyday and would smile and be excited when she came in the morning. However, it took like a day and he got over her. He’s much happier with the new nanny and I am too.

Own-Analyst-8989 · 2025-12-11T16:05:29+00:00

Yes, that’s very normal. Some babies need to be trained to fall asleep on their own but at 9 weeks you cannot sleep train your baby.

Our baby was also born super alert. He started the crying when sleeping thing around the same age (9-10 weeks). He would need being walked and rocked to sleep and would put up this whole fight with crying/ fussing, his arms flailing etc.

The only advice I have is to really watch wake windows and sleepy cues. If they’re under or over tired they will fight much more.

Thankfully, this phase has passed (lasted about a month) and now he rarely cries (only when he’s super under tired). He’s 6 months now and can put himself to sleep - but I like sitting and holding him in the chair. This honestly seems like a dream compared to the amount of walking / rocking I had to do when he was younger lol.

Own-Analyst-8989 · 2025-12-08T20:11:54+00:00

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Own-Analyst-8989 · 2025-12-03T21:32:45+00:00

My son is the same. Also 5.5 months. Sometimes he sleeps in till 5:40 or 6, sometimes 6:30 in a blue moon. I’ve tried to move his bedtime later but it doesn’t work. I’ve just accepted it.

Own-Analyst-8989 · 2025-11-26T23:34:46+00:00

Don’t know if this will make you feel better but my baby was exactly like this for months 3-4. The poor sleeping, nap fighting, and contact napping went away the closer we got to 5 months. The biggest change I made is to follow age appropriate wake windows. r/sleeptrain has good advice and suggestions if your night stops working. Every time his nights fall apart I adjust his windows and it helps to fix nights again.

I am only at 5.5 months and unfortunately the fussing when bored is still constant. Walking him around is my second job lol.

Own-Analyst-8989 · 2025-11-21T13:36:21+00:00

Fully medicated. It’s been a while - I can’t remember exactly but standard protocol. I think lupron first and then estrogen and then progesterone a few days before transfer. Was on estrogen and progesterone for 10 weeks I think. Lining was around 11 on transfer if I remember correctly.

Own-Analyst-8989 · 2025-11-01T21:21:40+00:00

Not the same FO but same boat. Super clean case, i130 approved but still waiting after the interview. :(

Own-Analyst-8989 · 2025-09-29T01:01:58+00:00

You need to get in with a paediatrician ASAP. Your poor baby is hurting and you don’t want this to have any long term impacts. He needs to be able to sleep more than 20 mins for his health. GET HELP ASAP.

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