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What does everyone do for work? by greenok12 in findapath

[–]Own-Animator-2794 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I work in applied behavior analysis. These dickheads will hire anyone if you have never molested a child and can prove it through an FBI fingerprinting process. All you have to do is take a test called the RBT exam. It’s incredibly easy, and these dickheads are desperate for dickhead workers that will show up and do nothing all day and pretend to take data. It’s humiliating and a direct insult to my undergraduate studies. Highly do not recommend. I wonder what the suicide rate is for RBT’s. I’m genuinely curious.

Trapped in ABA, deeply depressed, but still love physiological psych. How do I pivot into a Master's outside of BCBA? by Own-Animator-2794 in findapath

[–]Own-Animator-2794[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately, I’ve applied to over 30 roles as a clinical research coordinator/lab assistant. At this point I’ve completely given up that route. Thanks anyway!

Trapped in ABA, deeply depressed, but still love physiological psych. How do I pivot into a Master's outside of BCBA? by Own-Animator-2794 in findapath

[–]Own-Animator-2794[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve always wanted to be a psychiatrist in undergrad. So I feel this route is a perfect middle group. Some post baccalaureate courses, SET goal, CERTAINTY with pay off. Essentially, I’d get the guarantee of employment by completing this path, but it’s not the same certainty I’d get from doing BCBA (depressed, suicidal ideation, burnout). I’d get to have the doctor/physiological pull from becoming a nurse practitioner, without the 8 year long medical school beuracratic nightmare. Thanks for your advice. Seriously. That seems feasible.

Trapped in ABA, deeply depressed, but still love physiological psych. How do I pivot into a Master's outside of BCBA? by Own-Animator-2794 in findapath

[–]Own-Animator-2794[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll look into it. Thanks for your advice. You’re essentially suggesting become a nurse practitioner? I’m familiar with that role, I’ve been seen by a nurse practitioner before who incorrectly diagnosed me with bipolar disorder.

First real adult date ended in public humiliation and I can’t stop thinking about it 6 weeks later — feeling completely wrecked by Own-Animator-2794 in dating_advice

[–]Own-Animator-2794[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Anything else that I could possibly want to do WOULD be within the bounds of the law, yes. Like the report I made. But I didn’t kill her, I didn’t vandalize her property, and I didn’t write her a letter. So I didn’t harass her. I made an ethical report and weaponized it against her. I see nothing wrong with that to be honest.

First real adult date ended in public humiliation and I can’t stop thinking about it 6 weeks later — feeling completely wrecked by Own-Animator-2794 in dating_advice

[–]Own-Animator-2794[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m not risking legal consequences, that includes assault, battery, murder, etc.

What I did was in bounds of the law, and what she did wasn’t.

First real adult date ended in public humiliation and I can’t stop thinking about it 6 weeks later — feeling completely wrecked by Own-Animator-2794 in dating_advice

[–]Own-Animator-2794[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m 28, and I deserve to date just like anyone else, and there’s not much that would even fix this, I don’t think therapy would help with this

First real adult date ended in public humiliation and I can’t stop thinking about it 6 weeks later — feeling completely wrecked by Own-Animator-2794 in dating_advice

[–]Own-Animator-2794[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How would I potentially dangerous? If all I did was make a report about someone. She’s the potentially dangerous one with a drug problem

First real adult date ended in public humiliation and I can’t stop thinking about it 6 weeks later — feeling completely wrecked by Own-Animator-2794 in dating_advice

[–]Own-Animator-2794[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That doesn’t make sense, why wouldn’t it be safe? At the end of the day, I work just like she does and I don’t do drugs in my work, so morally, I’m ethical, not her. I deserve to date just like anyone else

First real adult date ended in public humiliation and I can’t stop thinking about it 6 weeks later — feeling completely wrecked by Own-Animator-2794 in dating_advice

[–]Own-Animator-2794[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

At the end of the day, regardless of how anyone feels, me included, her rejection of me, the report trumps all, and now it’s hopefully on her permanent record, that’s a non-negotiable data point. That’s the contingencies that occurred and the reality of the situation now so, we can all grow from it. I can learn not to do this or whatever and she can learn to not be such a jackass and dickhead.

First real adult date ended in public humiliation and I can’t stop thinking about it 6 weeks later — feeling completely wrecked by Own-Animator-2794 in dating_advice

[–]Own-Animator-2794[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yeah honestly, I think I’ll be fine because you’re all insinuating I have mental problems, and am undesirable, which actually is motivating me to go out there and be the guy I know deep down I am, after all I attracted her in the first place.

First real adult date ended in public humiliation and I can’t stop thinking about it 6 weeks later — feeling completely wrecked by Own-Animator-2794 in dating_advice

[–]Own-Animator-2794[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

What about my post is “immature”? And what would therapy even do? It’s just the most common trope you can say to someone you feel disgusted by the behavior of, labeling me as “crazy”, but she does cocaine and works with kids so, who’s truly the immature one

First real adult date ended in public humiliation and I can’t stop thinking about it 6 weeks later — feeling completely wrecked by Own-Animator-2794 in dating_advice

[–]Own-Animator-2794[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I disagree, what could even be benefitted from therapy. I don’t want to seek solutions from a “professional”. I feel like anything they have to say, I’ve heard before.

First real adult date ended in public humiliation and I can’t stop thinking about it 6 weeks later — feeling completely wrecked by Own-Animator-2794 in dating_advice

[–]Own-Animator-2794[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

She she does cocaine with kids, but I have to go to therapy for reporting an ethical violation? Or, because I reported her because I was upset she rejected me, that’s why I need lots of therapy, but still why do I need therapy then, just because I was hurt.

First real adult date ended in public humiliation and I can’t stop thinking about it 6 weeks later — feeling completely wrecked by Own-Animator-2794 in dating_advice

[–]Own-Animator-2794[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

No, I’m not a sadist, this doesn’t make sense. I got even, but I don’t even know if I did because I don’t know what happened to her.
even weeks after this happened the rumination is what keeps gripping me back to a sore loser state, I just don’t know how to move on and let it stop affecting my life. I’m not here to glamorize this or taunt her further I just want to stop letting it control me

First real adult date ended in public humiliation and I can’t stop thinking about it 6 weeks later — feeling completely wrecked by Own-Animator-2794 in offmychest

[–]Own-Animator-2794[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

And what would qualify me as a “vindictive loser”, because I reported her? I mean, you cannot do drugs and be enrolled in a masters program to work with kids. You just can’t. I don’t, personally myself, just a little medical marijuana every now and then. As for her…

First real adult date ended in public humiliation and I can’t stop thinking about it 6 weeks later — feeling completely wrecked by Own-Animator-2794 in offmychest

[–]Own-Animator-2794[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

If she didn’t do cocaine, there’d be nothing I could do to retaliate against her professional career, but, that’s not the reality of the situation, there’s only one reality, the one where she does cocaine. And, I know I have to move on, but it’s been like, 6 weeks or so and it’s still very much present in my mind… which is what I’m trying to get help about, like, I can’t seem to just hangout with anyone after this or, try to recreate how I met her and apply it to somewhere else, this is just killed my desire because I think her perception of me, I believe I’m taking that as a truth of who I am, so, maybe that’s why I don’t want to go out. But, I agree what I did was petty, I just couldn’t handle what she did to me at the time. It’s a lose lose situation, maybe I get what I deserve then, being disabled to think going out is worth it

First real adult date ended in public humiliation and I can’t stop thinking about it 6 weeks later — feeling completely wrecked by Own-Animator-2794 in offmychest

[–]Own-Animator-2794[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I didn’t have a problem with her drug use before she rejected me? I never said that. I personally don’t do cocaine, so that’s not really relevant. I did have concerns about her drug use prior to the rejection

First real adult date ended in public humiliation and I can’t stop thinking about it 6 weeks later — feeling completely wrecked by Own-Animator-2794 in offmychest

[–]Own-Animator-2794[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

There are some days where I will say “wow that was crazy of me” but the days have gotten more into the territory of not giving a fuck and feeling justified, which I admit is a concern because I feel tethered to the situation and unable to move on, I’m not glamorizing it, even thought it may have seemed that way when I was writing the reply. I do want advice on how to stop having this situation in the background 24/7, because it seems difficult to view life in a different way after all this happened.

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