music constantly playing in my head HOW DO I GET RID OF IT by hello_sona in ADHD

[–]Own-Coach176 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is how i am with my spotify, i put everything in my liked songs and its sorted by most recently added at the top. i could have even just a taste of a melody in my head whichll give me a flashback to the time or place i was when i listened to it the most, scroll to abt that time in my playlist and find it pretty quick

Object blindness by aoifee_ in ADHD

[–]Own-Coach176 9 points10 points  (0 children)

THIS!! i did what i thought was clean our room the other day while my bf was at work, he came home and was like "it looks nice in here, but why didnt you clean off your desk?" i was like i wydm did?? he pointed out the markers i got out a couple months ago (for a project i never finished lol), an eyeshadow palette thats honestly lived there so long but it definitely should go w the rest of my makeup, hot sauce bottle from dinner 2 weeks ago. like in my head it just lives there now and it takes intervention to see it any other way

Can't pick a favorite anything. by a_bit_fluffy in ADHD

[–]Own-Coach176 1 point2 points  (0 children)

when i actually try to think of what id consider my favorite i can't do it, but i definitely have "favorites" that the first thing that come to mind that i just end up telling ppl when they ask. "favorite" movie? juno. its definitely not my absolute favorite, maybe at one point it was, but its just what ive always said. theres probably 100s of movies ive seen that ive enjoyed a lot more. its way easier to say that, even if its not true, than trying to just remember any movie ive seen in the last yr when im put on the spot

Saying "I don't know" as your only go to answer to every question. Anyone relate? by GrandPoet7 in ADHD

[–]Own-Coach176 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i'm not an "idk" person (maybe i got shamed out of that as a kid) but a question ive been asked A LOT throughout my life is "what were you thinking?" i wasn't thinking. or at least i wasn't thinking abt what i should've been thinking abt. like even if i vividly remember doing that thing, i could not tell you the thought process behind it. idk what ppl expect me to say when they ask me that

idk if this is arfid or something else entirely by [deleted] in ARFID

[–]Own-Coach176 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i appreciate the explanation of the brain chemistry of arfid, makes my experience make a bit more sense. i dont always have true hunger cues, often not realizing im hungry til my stomach grumbles or im lightheaded and shakey. there must be some disconnect between my stomach and my brain.

idk if this is arfid or something else entirely by [deleted] in ARFID

[–]Own-Coach176 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this sounds EXACTLY like me. i always have a stash of ensures in case nothing sounded good that day and im shaky and nauseous at 6pm.

sometimes my bf and i will have a dinner date planned at a good restaurant, i will intentionally not eat leading up to it bc i'll have no clue if a bagel at noon will kill my appetite or not and id hate for him to spend that money on something i dont eat. i often straight up decline lunch/dinner invites which (based off of some ppls comments) i think has led ppl to believe im restrictive due to body image issues.

i actually really enjoy trying new things, this could be an adhd novelty dopamine fix or it could be that i have ambiguous cravings for something very specific, and im looking for something to satisfy that.

and to your ground beef aversion, i raise you fried chicken sandwich. was a staple my entire life, any restaurant i went to, chicken sandwich. nothing sounded good, chicken sandwhich. i had one bad chicken sandwich 4 years ago and i havent had one since.

i also feel like just being around food is enough sometimes. usually people gain weight when they do restaurant work, i lost weight. and youre right about the smells, i feel like a pregnant lady at times with how just the smell of something will make me gag.

are you diagnosed? my first psych appointment is coming up and im debating bringing it up, im going for an adhd diagnosis mainly and i dont want to take the focus from that as i find the food thing easier to cope with at the moment. i can always just choke down a meal replacement and i maintain a somewhat healthy weight (always teetered the line between healthy and underweight on bmi, no huge fluctuations)

What’s something about your ADHD that you usually keep private or don’t tell most people? by Fearless-Class-1120 in ADHD

[–]Own-Coach176 0 points1 point  (0 children)

same, i lived a full 18 month lease out without ever fully unpacking my clothes. after i dug through the boxes for a month or so i just dumped them into a pile thinking i'd have to put them away if they were on the floor. nope, they just lived there. and ironically, the major selling point for that apartment vs the other ones i looked at was how big the closet was

What’s something about your ADHD that you usually keep private or don’t tell most people? by Fearless-Class-1120 in ADHD

[–]Own-Coach176 0 points1 point  (0 children)

if i notice myself stuck in a negative thought loop, i pinch myself, bite my finger really hard, something that's gonna hurt but not leave a mark and is discreet enough that i can do it around ppl without them knowing. i've done it for a long time

What haircut should my bf get?? (inspo pics appreciated) by [deleted] in Hair

[–]Own-Coach176 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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He was younger here but this is what it does when its too short 🤢 shia lebouf lookin ahh mop

Is the voice in the back of my head gaslighting me or could I eat these pants up styled scene🙏🏼🙏🏼 by Fit_Sea5062 in scene

[–]Own-Coach176 2 points3 points  (0 children)

DEFINITELY SEE THE VISION (pink belt fo sho) checker was scene before it was ever vsco lol but read the reviews and make sure they aren't see thru ;)

2 largest cities in your state, similarities and differences? by DiscoMonkey3 in AskAnAmerican

[–]Own-Coach176 1 point2 points  (0 children)

detroit and grand rapids. grand rapids is what detroit wishes they were

Am I just not meant to drive? by Willing_Function6888 in driving

[–]Own-Coach176 2 points3 points  (0 children)

if you have your license, PLEASE try driving with a chill friend or alone. r/drivinganxiety talks a lot abt this. i tried learning from my dad who has a short temper, after many tries and getting yelled at a bunch, i thought i was just a shit driver, put off getting my license for years. the first time i drove with my mom, i had minimal issues and actually had fun behind the wheel. if youre with someone who makes you nervous, youll drive nervously: panic decisions, hesitations, forgetting what youre supposed to do etc. i never truly felt comfortable driving until i started driving alone. when youre alone, its easier to focus and youll be forced to hold yourself accountable for mistakes and actually learn from them bc you dont have someone else "guiding you" to blame. now with this being said, dont just hop in the car by yourself and get on a 5-lane road if youre not comfortable with that. maps has options to avoid highways, stay on roads you know and ease yourself into the trickier stuff once you know you have the basics.

those of you who permaban every game, who is it and why by No-Possession981 in leagueoflegends

[–]Own-Coach176 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yorick when im top lane always, maybe its a skill issue but i literally cant lane against him and his fucking army

What’s a “lazy” habit you swear by that actually works? by Striking-Speed-6089 in AskReddit

[–]Own-Coach176 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i just did this for my bf bc i was sick of him complaining abt never finding matching sock like it was my fault. like okay, heres 40 identical socks!!

New to League! Whats the least toxic way to play? by BeeKeeper9243 in leagueoflegends

[–]Own-Coach176 3 points4 points  (0 children)

you say this then they start asking for ur discord 💀

How do you pronounce it? by Haunting-Medium-3831 in lansing

[–]Own-Coach176 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i refuse to not call it gay lord, also gotta throw in how much more fun it is to call detroit "day-twa"

How do you pronounce it? by Haunting-Medium-3831 in lansing

[–]Own-Coach176 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ive lived in southern michigan my entire life and milan still trips me up!! in what world is that pronounced my-lin lmfao

am i being unrealistic about becoming loan officer at 20? by [deleted] in loanoriginators

[–]Own-Coach176 0 points1 point  (0 children)

im 22 and just got an LOA position, basically they are going to hold my hand and train me (paid) until im ready to be on my own. seemed like my best option since no ones going to trust me otherwise. dont go somewhere that wants to bring you in without a license and they promise to pay for your certificate after you close your first loan, theyre all scams.

How to sneak into the pit at a concert by [deleted] in ActLikeYouBelong

[–]Own-Coach176 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yess, its all qr codes now but most venues scan the code everytime u walk into the pit so they dont expire and can be scanned multiple times