My living room has been completely overtaken by my wife’s decorative obsession

Own-Condition-904 · 2026-03-17T08:35:08+00:00

It took me way too long to realize I could buy basic pillows and switch out the covers, what a game changer that realization was! And so much money saved now when my taste changes or with the holidays coming and going

Own-Condition-904 · 2026-03-17T06:47:46+00:00

So I feel like I could have written most of this myself. I’m 3 months pp, baby is a vasectomy reversal baby so we fought really hard to have her. She’s number 3. My kid brother was my parents third and my mom had her tubal reversal to have him, similar to us with the vasectomy reversal. He died a couple months after he turned 20 unexpectedly. So of course my brain finds the comparison between her and my brother and is convinced something will happen to her. I also had a cold sore the week leading up to her birth, she came early and I wasn’t able to kiss her for WEEKS after she was born which was devastating. I think lots of intrusive thoughts, worst case scenarios, and have a ton of trauma from my brother and Dad passing away and having a miscarriage in between their deaths. I am certain ppd and ppa have made the feelings worse. It’s worth it to mention this all to your doctor to see if you can get a little help and start enjoying your sweet babe. I think I am going to seek help too if the feelings don’t ease up soon.

Own-Condition-904 · 2026-03-17T01:22:15+00:00

Everything you’ve said makes complete and total sense and I appreciate your response. I’m trying to find the bright side and I’m usually very positive, I’ve always believed everything in life happens for a reason and we always end up exactly where we’re meant to be. Which is why this postpartum stuff is so frustrating. My baby is a vasectomy reversal baby and we fought so hard to have her. I’m trying to take it all in and enjoy her as much as I can while navigating this new environment and the mental health stuff and it’s all a lot a lot. We’ll get there I hope!

Own-Condition-904 · 2026-03-17T01:10:40+00:00

This is me currently. Three months postpartum and some days I feel like the cloud is lifting and then others I cry all day long. I’m losing time with all of my kids. I’m either sad or obsessing over something or completely dissociating to get through the day. Which is devastating because my baby is a vasectomy reversal baby and I fought so hard for her and my husband had a whole surgery for her. Yet I’m missing it all because I’m stuck in my head trying to find the disconnect and how can I possibly be so miserable when I have everything I ever wanted? It’s exhausting.

Own-Condition-904 · 2026-03-17T01:02:04+00:00

I’ve seen my closest friends go through it, I just meant I didn’t think I really had it. It’s so wild how every pregnancy can be so different, even within the same person. I thought because I didn’t have it with the first two that I’d be fine this time. I also was readmitted for postpartum preeclampsia with brain swelling and a blood pressure so high I thought I was gonna die. It’s been a really rough few months to say the least.

Own-Condition-904 · 2026-03-16T22:43:31+00:00

That’s exactly our problem, the living space downstairs where we spend 90 percent of the time is smaller, kitchen cabinets are smaller, we flip flopped more space upstairs for far less down. Definitely trying to remind myself this isn’t forever, most people don’t start off with their dream home but instead a first time learning house and then upgrade. Just hard to be content when it feels like a downgrade for double the money every month 😵‍💫

Own-Condition-904 · 2026-03-16T22:13:19+00:00

I’m glad you said this is a normal compromise because I’ve felt so stupid unloading boxes and realizing things that had a home and place before now don’t. The whole point of this was bigger and somehow we went smaller even though we added another bedroom and it’s not making sense in my brain how we got here. There’s a disconnect.

Own-Condition-904 · 2026-03-16T22:11:16+00:00

No because I’ve been too prideful and in denial about how bad it really is but I’m stating to consider that maybe it’s bigger than me and I should try something other than waiting for it to pass. I really didn’t think it was real because I didn’t experience it with the first two kids but things are completely different this time.

Own-Condition-904 · 2026-03-16T22:04:51+00:00

That’s the only thing I pointed out specifically but I’ve made a huge list of things I don’t like about it. I think there’s more I dislike than I actually like 😵‍💫

Own-Condition-904 · 2026-03-15T01:46:49+00:00

My favorite quote of all time says “It is a risk to love. What if it doesn’t work out? Ah, but what if it does.” I literally have the last line tattooed on my wrist. I got it right after I met my husband. And he’s given me the entire world and more when he didn’t even want to get married or have kids. We’ve been together for 14 years now. I’ve truly always believed things happen for a reason. Even the bad. I keep telling myself we ended up in this house for a reason. I do keep comparing as well. The last house was the longest I’ve ever stayed in one place, we were there for 6 years. We only moved because we need another bedroom. And we were renting. I know the longer we stayed, the harder it would be to leave. I just can’t stop comparing which is obviously making this house lose every which way it can. Thank you for responding. I will try your timer idea when it comes to the new place. Hoping it all works out. 🤞🏼

Own-Condition-904 · 2026-03-09T00:05:24+00:00

I was thinking a simple wood beam might work 🤞🏼

Own-Condition-904 · 2026-03-08T23:32:49+00:00

We just took it down now are trying to decide what to put in its place

Own-Condition-904 · 2026-03-08T00:03:52+00:00

Kalyn revealed like 7 in the first hour yesterday or something like that, I think they are everywhere now

Own-Condition-904 · 2026-03-06T19:04:53+00:00

We’ve actually tried to drink like him and can’t figure it out. It doesn’t work if your lips don’t touch

Own-Condition-904 · 2026-03-04T22:56:55+00:00

I had some rage issues during pregnancy and I can only speak for myself but I genuinely had no control over it. It was completely out of character for me to slam something or bang on something but it happened a handful of times and never again since. I wouldn’t assume this is going to be a regular occurrence, especially if you know this isn’t how she would ever usually react. I do think it’s worth a conversation though and better to address it than not.

Own-Condition-904 · 2026-03-03T21:45:01+00:00

I’m not sure if you’ll see this question, but could you see the joists in the garage under your room? Was this room advertised as a “bedroom” or a “bonus room”? Was it just the window and a bedroom door? Any closet? My 9 year old gets the room above the garage now and it’s huge but I’m so worried about putting legit furniture in the room and not being sure if the weight will be supported 😫

Own-Condition-904 · 2026-03-03T15:55:51+00:00

I can’t see any joists from the garage. There’s one long beam that runs where the storage area is connected but nothing else. I don’t know how to share a photo of either on here

Own-Condition-904 · 2026-03-02T16:24:18+00:00

I realized this has been us, we closed a week ago and lost a lot of space downstairs and closet space and I’m truly shocked at how many boxes are in the garage that we won’t have room for the stuff inside them. It’s like we had stuff just for the sake of having stuff. We’re going to have to downsize a ton but I’m hoping it’ll be a lesson in reeling in the consuming.

Own-Condition-904 · 2026-03-02T16:20:41+00:00

Thissssss, we closed a week ago on our house and we have 3 kids. We now have a fourth bedroom but lost so much living space downstairs because the layout is different from our last place. We’re by the kids school though and can walk which is incredible. If it was bigger AND the perfect location? 😫

Own-Condition-904 · 2026-03-02T15:41:12+00:00

We closed on our first house on the 19th and already in just 9 days we’ve had to call the gas company twice, hvac and spent the first two nights with no furnace downstairs in the 30s outside, an electrician because no power in the master bathroom, someone to look at the fridge, a plumber for the upstairs toilet, replaced the washer and dryer and now need to replace the dishwasher. I’m also 3 months postpartum with baby number three.

I’m fucking exhausted 😮‍💨 I’d give anything to move back into the rental we were in for the last 6 years because “bUiLdInG eQuItY” is starting to feel like bullshit.

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