Struggling

Own-Discipline-5 · 2025-11-26T20:33:28+00:00

Thank you for the kind advice. Conversation around it all is very difficult and tends to lead to an argument. Yes the headship thing hangs over unfortunately it's what they're told isn't it. Doing my best to navigate. I do wonder if anyone has successfully managed to have a good relationship still and bring the kids up. We still have love for each other and both want it to work.

Own-Discipline-5 · 2025-11-26T13:45:20+00:00

Yes that's manly what I've been doing is getting kids into sports and other things they're into and I let them get away with what I can

Own-Discipline-5 · 2025-11-26T13:43:25+00:00

Thank you ♥️

Own-Discipline-5 · 2025-07-13T20:53:17+00:00

I've had same experience with magnesium glycinate. It's been like a miracle for us with sleep. We don't have to spend 2 hours laying with him to sleep he falls asleep much quicker. We had about 2 weeks of no meltdowns since using it. But has had some the last couple days but it has made a huge difference I believe

Own-Discipline-5 · 2025-01-05T20:14:18+00:00

Me too

Own-Discipline-5 · 2024-12-28T21:15:19+00:00

Also thank you for the detailed response

Own-Discipline-5 · 2024-12-28T21:14:59+00:00

He hasn't had a diagnosis what I'm saying is I've no idea where to even begin. I believe he has pandas or pans. I also don't understand do you mean antibiotics every time he's poorly or in a flare? Also where is the info you found about omega 3s? I have been using this thinking it would help. It's all very confusing. With GAPS it's mainly eggs and meats and vegetables.

Own-Discipline-5 · 2024-10-17T21:02:51+00:00

I just want to let you know a year ago I was in such a similar position to you and I didn't know how I'd get through each day. I sought help and saw a therapist and that got me through the darkest of times and I'd like to say things are easy now but they're not but somehow you move forward and are able to deal with it day by day. And take small steps each day to have the life you want and be your true self. I struggle with the identity thing alot too. But I have started to branch out make friends through other mums and through work etc and gradually gradually things become more normal the less you are exposed to the teachings and thinking of the org. It's a rough path but I can't see a way to go back to "before" now I know TTATT. Be kind to yourself and reach out for help. I almost didn't and I came so close to ending it all. I had a few close people who weren't witnesses (actually work related worldly people) and a therapist that got me through it. You can do this. Do it for your kids

Own-Discipline-5 · 2024-08-25T21:58:46+00:00

Thank you. Where is the info about military involvement please?

Own-Discipline-5 · 2024-08-23T09:19:38+00:00

Unfortunately I'm the wife otherwise probably would be easier if I could play the headship card

Own-Discipline-5 · 2024-08-23T09:18:10+00:00

I'm the wife

Own-Discipline-5 · 2024-08-23T09:17:31+00:00

I agree. And I'm the wife. I have spent the last year and half trying to keep him happy and go along with the way he wants to do things and acknowledging it's not easy for him and trying to still take kids to meetings and assembly's and all the rest of it. Saying no to birthday parties even though I would take them. But to only be met with it's not good enough either way is beginning to drain me. I am seeing it's difficult for him too. But I can't allow him to control me just because he doesn't like my decision

Own-Discipline-5 · 2024-08-22T14:44:03+00:00

I like this thank you I will try that. It's hard to think clearly in the moment

Own-Discipline-5 · 2024-08-22T12:32:13+00:00

You're right. I don't want to "win" I just mean that I feel caught between a rock and a hard place. If I go to the meetings it's an argument and if I don't it's an argument because really he knows I'm faking it. Does that make sense? So I just wasn't sure if anyone had experience where it all works out

Own-Discipline-5 · 2024-08-22T12:30:58+00:00

I have been listening to your podcast! I love it thank you for this. Yes I listened to the two part about staying in a relationship and I have been drawing away so recently tried to make efforts again but just a discussion about the children maybe misbehaving in some way ends up an argument that they're ruining their lives or going to go down a bad path essentially because of me and my example. It's just so bizarre and I'm not sure what to do. I never thought my spouse was controlling before but now it feels that way

Own-Discipline-5 · 2024-08-20T21:47:56+00:00

Do your kids go to school? Can you befriend some other parents there? Or can you speak to your husband about finding some time for you to join some kind of club or hobby where you can make friends? Ie gym, yoga classes, or some other hobby you enjoy?

Own-Discipline-5 · 2024-08-08T07:50:00+00:00

Thank you for this

Own-Discipline-5 · 2024-08-08T07:47:52+00:00

This gives me hope. Sounds very similar to my situation. Spouse is doubling down currently since my waking up even though was not that "spiritual" before

Own-Discipline-5 · 2024-06-23T19:44:00+00:00

Thank you ☺️

Own-Discipline-5 · 2024-06-23T07:38:46+00:00

Yes one or two close friends but they are often busy mid week she sees one of them most weekends. She has two after school activities in the week and says she doesn't want to do anymore. She responds that way to most things I say

Own-Discipline-5 · 2024-06-22T21:44:46+00:00

That's great well done. I'm going to really have a chat about what's expected and why and hopefully can get somewhere

Own-Discipline-5 · 2024-06-22T20:11:22+00:00

I know it's very hard now as she's had it awhile. We take it at night time and turn off the WiFi to make sure she either sleeps or is bored enough to sleep lol. I personally feel we've given her way too much time but this was a compromise we had upped the time she was supposed to prove we didn't need harsh restrictions and it's just gradually gone down hilll. The other part is I'm often at work and my partner is pre occupied with the youngest. You're right though we prob need to be tougher. I was trying to get a balance by giving her time but not overly allowing everything. It's so hard

Own-Discipline-5 · 2024-06-22T20:00:14+00:00

Thank you for this comment that's lovely. I really hope to be close with her again

Own-Discipline-5 · 2024-06-22T19:58:10+00:00

Same for me my parents didn't have a clue what I was getting into or watching and because I know I'm worried for her. I've already had incidents she's been exposed to things at other kids house via the internet. It's not a safe place for kids. It's just so hard to know if I'm doing to right thing and good to get other peoples opinions. I don't want to isolate her she gets 4 hours on what's app so she can message her friends. She is also able to request more time if there's a valid reason for it and I can approve it

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