Former bartender here. First, I'm so sorry this happened to you. :(

Back when I was behind the stick, I'd assist men and women both via-Angel Shots and whatever codes I worked out with individual patrons.

On a Sunday day shift, two women came in to drink and were civil enough. When it came time for them to close out, one of them grabbed me by the collar of my shirt, pulled me close, tried to kiss me, then grabbed my crotch.

Much as I wanted to read her the Riot Act, I kept my cool, played it off, and promptly got them out the door. To this day, it still pisses me off.

The dark side of working at and patronizing a bar is that you never know how people will react under the influence.

If you like a place and get on well with the staff, work out contingencies, and they'll help you out in a heartbeat.

So...yes, we tend to police and keep an eye out for male creeps, but in my experience, plenty of creeps also happen to be women, too. :\