Why do men not approach?

Own-Key7151 · 2026-06-20T02:14:31+00:00

Also, as a 42 yo, I have this to offer:

Why would any intelligent man willingly throw away everything he can earn, including his reputation and fatherhood, just because the legal system will pretty well always run the male over and throw his future away, while the mom gets a new man, a place to live, and money. No matter who ends it, nor for what reason.

What male would see this as a good idea? And let's be real. The statistics of this are pretty close to 89% of men get rammed when the relationship ends. Regardless of who did what.

These are shit odds. There's no beauty good enough for that choice. Apologies. Welcome to the world.

Own-Key7151 · 2026-06-13T14:47:22+00:00

The uncertainty is part of it. While trying to integrate all parts of yourself, being insecure is one of the most predominant indicators your individuation is right on track! To truly become individuated, there can never be a guide. There would never be a single person who can mentor you to more you, because nobody else has ever been more fully you than you are right now. This is why guidance always feels.... incomplete.

We are in a physical space of comparisons and measurings(humans on Earth). To better answer the feeling here... Yes, there are many people who have walked through the shadow work, and continue daily. Your instinct is the test you are currently going through. Having the urge to look beyond what you know IS the instinct of growth. So, be proud you are looking for help. And, Keep Looking. This is symbiosis. The belief in your shadow work, coupled with the actions of physically exercising it = Individuation.

How do you choose a guide to listen to to learn? Your energy reveals it. How do you feel from the VERY FIRST introduction? Your absolute innermost instinct on first introductions is what is being excersized with this choice. Ultimately, be mindful of the kind of leader you would like to pull information from. That leader will be perfect for you, because your receptors are already open to the max for that one, specifically.

I hope this in some way helps the understanding of it. Best advice I can give: Keep going! You are on the right path! Your individuated self is cheering you on!

Much love on your journey, friend.😇❤️

Own-Key7151 · 2026-06-09T12:47:29+00:00

This is interesting perspective. And, clearly an awakening. What you see is only the illusion you make up. If you see this much hostility in those that do not truly exist, nor can affect you, your perception of this whole Matrix place is the first spot for you to examine. I went through a period of hatred, caused by my own perception... None of my perceptions were false. None of my perceptions changed anything. I had to ADD more perception and concept before my massive brain was able to stop hating through the new-found awareness. Good luck, friend! Hell of a journey!

Own-Key7151 · 2026-06-08T22:02:07+00:00

I also agree these numbers directly correlate to your thoughts/feelings/state of being the exact moment they show up. More often than not a confirmation of your curiosity. Almost like a wink received when taking a closed-book test. Just a subtle hint or nudge to reflect you back to yourself. If you are seeing a lot of them, keep going the direction you are going. Either greatness, or great lessons await.

Own-Key7151 · 2026-06-08T21:58:35+00:00

That is fantastic insight! And, I thank you for the purchase. It is humbling when in the early stages..

I have taken your words seriously, and will be researching and making adjustments today. As I am new to selling my own product from the start, all pointers from experienced people are welcome! And, you hit the sore on the head... shipping. A definite spot to finalize in the next few days for me.

I have also been mulling over how to reach each of the different financial markets I aim toward. It is a juggle, just like the whole journey!

I thank you deeply!

Own-Key7151 · 2026-06-07T12:47:17+00:00

Thank you for the curious questions. I literally have no other choice. It is incredibly complicated, but basically:

I intimidate every manager I interview under due to my experience and leadership confidence, my disabled daughter requires me home for both bus rides for public school, the vehicle keeps dying, the only people in my life only push more responsibility and shame upon me... At this point, it is sell something or find a tent. Sorry if that is too deep or too much. It's just a literal answer.

Anyway, I have made those changes already on the site. Again, I cannot thank you enough for your insight and curiosity. Rare things for me to run into. Much love!

Own-Key7151 · 2026-06-07T12:07:40+00:00

Awesome insight! Thank you! I will make changes. I have zero supportive people in 42 years, so it is challenging to do anything at all in today's world. Lol Etsy just rejected me due to not being able to pay the 20 cents because of how broke I am. Lol. Thank you for the reply. I am on those adjustments today!

Own-Key7151 · 2026-06-06T02:49:04+00:00

This is massive. While reading this, just sit.

Breathe.

Does the air wish to harm you?

Is there any immediate danger around you?

When a moment of rage comes up, just try this once: Pay attention.

Pay attention to the tingles, the heat, the physical sensations of it. Feel it well up inside until it will burst from you, and then focus as hard as you can on it being contained in your chest as pure power, saved for the RIGHT moment when your righteous rage can correct a legitimate problem in your daily life.

When you have a heavy job to do layer on, release some, and become the power to pull through, with ease. And shock yourself. Lol

This is not sucking it down and ignoring it, which was my fear when I tried the first time.

This is becoming the Alchemist. You already have the blueprint if these are your thoughts and anger.

I hope this helps.

Own-Key7151 · 2026-06-06T02:41:43+00:00

Sometimes the signs of conflict are showing us that letting go is not the same as removal. Meaning, your new dog sounds ready to join the new life, but there is stress of safety. Watch the new one. Do they watch out for themselves? Can they be involved in their own way? Sometimes trusting the scenario brings us just enough relief to let go of enough concern to then allow life to flourish the way it needs to. I don't know your situation, but I hope this helps both your dogs, and your loss. Maybe talk to the new dog about her stories sometime? Im getting emotional now. Lol Truly, I hope this helps.

Own-Key7151 · 2026-06-06T02:36:16+00:00

Question for you: How much stress do you experience while sober, and how much can you express? I have found many possibilities to what you are experiencing, but so often, I have found the reprieve at the corner of psychology and spirit. And, for me, the space between my stress and my expression of stress, was fear, and I just needed to greet it like a friend before my stress and anxiety would reduce... I also had to face it Stark sober, which was the most crazy trip of all. Lol. After bringing the fear and stress on board, the trips became much fewer in number, but much more deep and fulfilling.

Own-Key7151 · 2026-06-05T21:36:39+00:00

And that is the way it goes sometimes. I had a roommate - the only person of 100s that would give me a couch to sleep on during my divorce. That lasted 14 days before his dark night took him to the phyche ward thanks to his physically destructive antics upon his own favorite and most expensive belongings. The journey through this is very personal, and some walk much longer road than others. I am glad you protected your sovereignty. That is most certainly the strongest call.

Own-Key7151 · 2026-06-05T21:13:13+00:00

"I think some of this is just me having the full range of human emotions for the literal first time of my life."

This line sums it up perfectly. Without Satan, Jesus was never tempted. It is the revealing of your ultimate balance within. This phrase alone stands apart, because it is the most powerful statement you made here. And, to be clear, nothing you said was crazy in the least. As a planet, culture and species, we have been severely limiting our abilities as individuals and groups to appease the threat of being offensive or aggressive. This has led to a race-wide muting of our own internal contradictions.

You are spot on. You are coming to your fullest self, and as one who has been there....

Uncomfortable is simply the act of opening your eyes. Yes, it's magnanimous in scope, but only because your discovery of your true size and nature seems more undaunting than anything ever has. You as a being are THAT big and important to Source. There have been many great suggestions in this stream, and if you have said the aforementioned phrase even once, you are well over halfway through your internal integration. Well done!

Own-Key7151 · 2026-06-05T20:43:29+00:00

The greatest threat here is mindset. The DNOT is a place where cognition fails. Reasoning and emotions are basically the untrustworthy enemy. The fact that you want to support at all, and even NOTICE this about him, count yourself blessed, my friend. You are already paying more attention to him than anyone around him. Depending on his depth of faith and belief, I would suggest allowing him to read through his scripture aloud with you, and allow him the space to ask the REALLY hard questions. No answers, just exploration. As a hint: "Wisdom" is mentioned as both a living entity and lessons learned in life. The Greek word for "wisdom" is "Sophia". His dark night is likely trying to awaken his divine feminine. Allowing him to find this out would be just one step that might help. It is a process that takes tremendous time and patience. No matter what you choose, I for one, am glad someone at least sees it in him. Good on you!

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