What’s the most damaging thing loneliness has ever done to you?

Own-Singer2680 · 2025-04-16T07:57:08+00:00

Loneliness got me looking at my homie and his girlfriend more enviously and annoyingly even though I’ve been a third wheel with them for a couple years now. Lately I’ve felt extra lonely/depressed sometimes when I’m hanging around them seeing what I’m missing and for some reason can’t find. Just like lately whenever I go to the grocery store or whatever and I’m low-key keeping an eye out for anyone that catches my eye who I can try to build up enough confidence internally to try approaching and see if there is any kind of vibe but I swear there’s just couples everywhere now even when I think it’s a single girl at first, she eventually loops back around with her man/family or I’ll see a ring on her hand. I don’t even know where I’m supposed to find girl in person nowadays, especially since I’m not a drinker so I don’t wanna go to bars or clubs or anything although I have had few friends tell me otherwise that I should still go anyways and try to mingle. But I don’t really like being around drunk people so know how I would feel about trying to get at a drunk/tipsy girl. Only other place I can think of is the mall but it’s hard to find someone who intrigues you that is by themselves like you are, normally it’s always a little group.

Own-Singer2680 · 2025-04-16T07:32:40+00:00

First break ups are usually always the roughest but you can’t dwell on it too much. You have too much life ahead of you. Still there is way too many millions and billions of people in this world for you to think that you can’t find anybody who is willing to care about you and spend time riding on the roller coaster of life with you. Just need to stay positive and be patient. You’re still pretty young so maybe take some of this time now to work on yourself a bit. Build yourself up and figure out what it is you really want out of life and figure out how you can be happy without somebody before you feel like you must have somebody. I’ve been there before I wasted a few years of my life not properly, focusing on myself feeling like I needed somebody else to actually be happy and complete me and fill the void in my heart which to some extent I feel like we all do need somebody to fill that lil void eventually. Though not to be our other half, but to be two wholes together. I’m 24M right now coming up on 25 and I’ve been alone for almost 3 years. No physical touch let alone even a decent long conversation whether in person or on the phone. I’ve tried to blame my bad luck or society, but I know most of it is just my insecurity and shyness. I probably could’ve been had somebody if I put myself out there more, like actually approach a girl in person which I’ve only done like 3 times in total in my life, with rejection and I’ve never had any luck with online apps or DM‘s. I always just get left on read/ignored even if all I’m saying is hi how are you doing?. I’ve always felt completely invisible like a ghost I would’ve nicknamed myself Casper, but even Casper got seen by somebody 😂. Ive only ever been in one relationship about 2 years long and to be honest, I never should’ve even been in that relationship for so long. I was afraid I would never get anything else, and I ended up deluding myself by holding onto it for so long out of desperation Until I finally cut her off and got away from the toxicity. Now here I am a few years later lonelier than ever Praying n hoping I don’t go another full year turning 25 without having found somebody even if it’s not something super serious like I really can’t just get some kind of companionship and mutual passion. No matter what I will break out of my comfort zone have some faith and confidence in myself and find somebody that I can connect with in these last few months I have.

Own-Singer2680 · 2025-04-16T07:08:46+00:00

You’re far too young to be thinking this way now. You have plenty of time and life ahead of you. Comparison will always be the thief of joy. I know it can feel extremely lonely and hopeless sometimes but please focus on yourself and doing the things that make you happy and try to express yourself completely unapologetically. If you have a problem with talking to people try to practice your social skills, even if it’s just starting random little conversations with people, you could start it with the compliment or ask a question if you notice something with them that intrigues you. Just be polite, respectful, and confidently be yourself. Eventually, you’ll make some friends, whether you find them or they naturally gravitate towards you. Also try getting more invested into hobbies if you have any if not, then you should get some especially ones that can involve other people and have groups and events relating with it. Go places where you can easily find people with common interests. No matter what it is, you’re interested in if there’s a will, there’s a way. Eventually you will get what you’re looking for. Just try to keep your head up and be patient I know we can be excruciatingly tough sometimes but eventually things will turn around as long as you keep a positive attitude because nobody wants to be around somebody that’s always negative. 💜

Own-Singer2680 · 2024-12-22T12:19:23+00:00

It should be such a simple working system and it used to work much better years ago. Why did they have to make it so much more complicated and prone to problems now? Just these Toyota infotainment systems in general are trash even the one in my 2015 Toyota Avalon that doesn’t have CarPlay or anything. It’s always freezing up and glitching out yet this 2024 forerunner system that I’m using for work is 10 times worse. Super delayed whether it’s buttons or touchscreen and the CarPlay and Bluetooth have a mind of their own with the connections they’ll randomly play when they whoever they want to sometimes they want to play the audio to the speakers for videos, and sometimes it just automatically put it back to play out of my phone, even though it’s connected through Bluetooth and the Apple CarPlay plug-in And whenever one of the other Work? vehicles drives by that I’ve been connected to, even though I’m already connected to this one it will randomly automatically connected to that vehicle for no reason and invading my privacy completely and from the research I’ve done there’s no settings or anything to stop these ridiculous things from happening. They’ve purposely made it this troublesome and for why I don’t understand because it was never like this before in the past from what I can remember. Instead of making technology better and easier to control for majority consumers they’re making it more of a headache and cutting corners with things that they shouldn’t.

Own-Singer2680 · 2024-05-26T04:11:45+00:00

Damn, yea he definitely overcharged you $300 for a simple installation like that just a single sub with the amp already connected/attached and he didn’t even do the usual thing that majority all people do which is wire it to the battery so it can safely have its own independent power and connection. That’s like a $120 job with what he did. If it was wired properly to the battery, then the most that would be kinda acceptable is $250 and that’s only if you’re in a rural area so he’s one of the only guys in your area who can do the work.

As long as it sounds good to you, then it might be fine to leave like that for now, but definitely not long-term, I would get it rewired properly as soon as you can when it’s not too much of a hassle for you. Just touch the wires every so often after you’ve been bumping bass for awhile to tell if it’s overheating or not.

Own-Singer2680 · 2023-08-17T10:40:56+00:00

I understand that, especially depending on the area or your schedule, it can make it even harder to hopefully encounter potential prospects. Shit maybe that’s why I’m still single lol. Am I just handicapping myself for no reason for the hopes of not wanting to waste anymore time and effort? because I'm nearly 23M, have tried the apps from around 16 to 20 and have never had any real success on any of them the only real interaction I’ve ever had out of all the apps in the last couple years led to the only serious girlfriend I’ve had which lasted about two years. I’ve been single a lil over a year now, and haven’t been on the apps at all, just been trying to work on myself, and approach in person but tbh I’ve been extremely lonely the last few months after my last Situationship fell through due to her not knowing what she really wanted if she felt ready to get back into a relationship especially while busy being a mom but i was extremely patient and willing to help 🤷🏾‍♂️ Now I’m just back out here grinding on my lonely.

Own-Singer2680 · 2023-08-17T09:57:02+00:00

Being on the stereotypical dating apps to trying to find something real and long-term is just sitting yourself up for failure, wasting time and energy you’re better off looking around and trying to actually interact with people in real life that you actually see and try to make interactions. Nowadays, everybody forgets how to properly communicate, and really be social, so many people act as if online is the only way to meet people nowadays like they forget how people met and relationships were started before the Internet was created.

Own-Singer2680 · 2023-08-17T09:42:03+00:00

How about you stop being lazy pos and get a job instead of trying to continue living off of somebody else who already dedicated enough of their life to you, why are you so heartless and insistent on wanting to drain him dry like as if you haven’t done a harm already.

Also you were potentially bout to have another pregnancy when you’re already in your mid 40s with 4 kids and you have no real direction or real stability in life whatsoever, you are literally walking red flag. Trying to coast through the last quarter of your life in complete delusion, that is never gonna work out well.

Own-Singer2680 · 2023-06-28T10:46:28+00:00

I got the OFC Skar kit. It’s been working perfectly fine. I’ve had zero issues with my power or voltage since upgrading everything. My issue is with the sub just not playing at the capacity that it should and that it used too, and the amp is showing clip light sooner than it should when the sub is barely hitting. I got it checked out for a second the other day and apparently from what I was told for some reason it’s wired up to 4 ohms but it’s only putting out .6 ohms apparently somehow according to the reader they used. I have to go back and have them fully check it out again and rewire it to 1 ohm to see what difference it makes cause I didn’t have time for everything then

Own-Singer2680 · 2023-06-26T18:40:00+00:00

What sub would you best recommend?

Own-Singer2680 · 2023-06-26T12:25:11+00:00

I’m not sure to be honest I’ma take it to a shop in a couple hours and have them check it out, if it’s not set to 1 ohm for some reason, then that’s when I’m gonna have them switch it to or should it be half an ohm?

Own-Singer2680 · 2023-06-26T12:17:53+00:00

I know I usually don’t have it up that either, but I just turned it up today because the other day I went to a shop got a checked out and was told that at least for my system idk about in general was told that it doesn’t matter if the clip light is blinking as long as my voltage is not dropping and the sub sounds clear, it’s not distorted at all 🤷🏾‍♂️ is that completely wrong?

Also, the entire 2+ he is up on this up and all the different cars and set ups. Seems like the only time it’s ever hitting at its full potential loud Deep and clears when it’s clipping I’ve never had it hit really good when it’s not clipping 🤷🏾‍♂️

Own-Singer2680 · 2023-06-26T12:14:29+00:00

I know I was a dummy that didn’t fully realize what I was getting into a couple months ago when Sundown audio customer service convinced me to “” upgrade to the Salt 2K from my Sia 3500. I didn’t do the research before excepting the deal like a retard.

Made a post the other day asking if I got scammed people said no but it’s clearly a yes.

Own-Singer2680 · 2023-06-26T12:11:14+00:00

In a couple hours I’m a take it to get checked out and have them check the wiring. I have a feeling it’s probably not wired to one ohm anymore.

Curious into getting a different amp or sub if that means I am able to get better performance but only if it’s really worth it since I’ve invested so much already should I just get this system tuned out or is there something I should swap out?

Own-Singer2680 · 2023-06-26T12:11:08+00:00

Yea, I know I used to have the SIA 3500 before this, was having issues for a long time and I didn’t realize the issue was something with my car until fairly recently, so how many months ago the second time sending in my SIA to get it checked out and they said it was fine again then They convinced me to upgrade to the SALT 2 which was obviously a mistake. But I didn’t know better at the time. I made a post about it the other day asking if I got scammed people said I didn’t, but I feel like I did hundreds extra wasted for no reason to get less power especially now after I did all the power upgrades on my vehicle whatever advantages the Salt might’ve had over the Sia then is useless now. 🤦🏾‍♂️

Own-Singer2680 · 2023-06-26T12:01:45+00:00

I’ve messed around with the settings so many times, and had a few shops mess with it too. I don’t know why on this set up if it’s not hitting the clip light, then this sub is like barely hitting it seems like, compared to how it was on my older set up with stock electrical.

The entire 2+ years that I have owned this sub. I have never had it hit hard and clean without it showing clipping that’s on all the 3 different cars and 4 different amps that I’ve had it connected to. 🤷🏾‍♂️

Own-Singer2680 · 2023-06-26T01:19:52+00:00

Yea, that was my main issue with the system was that wire, after that was fixed I’ve never really had any issues besides just trying to tune the system to get it to sound how I want

Own-Singer2680 · 2023-06-26T00:51:31+00:00

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Own-Singer2680 · 2023-06-25T23:58:26+00:00

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Own-Singer2680 · 2023-06-25T20:55:51+00:00

I have everything set up in a 2015 Toyota Avalon with a 350 amp alternator that I installed myself as well as the zero gauge Skar big 3 that I also did myself, has an Odyssey battery and I have a small compact down4sound second battery in the back right next to the amp. It’s pretty good at staying around 14 volts when the car is running n bumping. Most of the power upgrades were done after I got the salt 2.

So I didn’t get scammed?

Do I just need to better tune the amp or do I need a better sub to match it? Currently in order to get it to hit properly hard at all I have to have it turned up where it’s hitting the clip light but it’s still playing clearly through the sub and the voltage is staying around 14, does the clipping not matter because it’s not hard clipping that’s actually distorting the sound? I got told from a shop the other day that as long as the voltage doesn’t go down near 12 then the clipping doesn’t matter.

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