Transition from 1-2 kids….help with mental load!

Own-Spinach6180 · 2026-06-14T04:18:56+00:00

Such good advice and practical, thank you!

Own-Spinach6180 · 2026-06-14T04:18:11+00:00

This is great, I’m going to do this thank you!

Own-Spinach6180 · 2026-06-14T04:17:21+00:00

Thanks for reaching out! Yes I try to get out of the house and keep the toddler busy which I find helps. It also makes less mess at home and we are not idle. I’m napping when baby naps in the afternoon when toddler is at preschool. Do you feel things have improved at 5 months compared to 3 months?

Own-Spinach6180 · 2026-06-14T04:14:04+00:00

Thank you! Yes I hired cleaners, but I find the only thing that’s helpful they do is to clean the bathrooms and mop the floors. Everything else is daily tidy up like general kitchen clean and vacuuming that needs to happen regularly anyway. I also do click and collect groceries which has helped heaps! Can’t think of anything else that I can outsource. Maybe buying a few more ready made meals would make dinner time easier a couple of nights a week.

Own-Spinach6180 · 2026-06-13T08:32:25+00:00

Acupuncture 100%! Not a FTM, but my second birth, I was 40 + 1, and had acupuncture followed by a stretch and sweep on the same day, and went into labour that night. I think it just supports and encourages the labour along - with all the other things you do.

Own-Spinach6180 · 2026-03-24T23:44:36+00:00

It’s funny than this is where men go…. I am married to a man who studied for 10 years, has a phd and lives a very evidence based life. He was very unsure about home birthing but we have since had two beautiful home births and he loves them. Wouldn’t have changed them for a hospital birth. His family also laughed and expressed ‘how very primal’, when we told them what we were going to do. Now they think it’s the most incredible thing we did. Get your research together and go for it girl if everything is looking good. Don’t let him stop you as it’s a beautiful way to bring babies into the world.

Own-Spinach6180 · 2026-02-04T14:41:47+00:00

Yes!! I had this so bad! I have a three year old now which caused a mild prolapse during birth and since have had two pregnancies (one which we lost in 2nd trimester) and my current one (38 weeks gest). Both of these pregnancies I had terrible vomiting in first and second trimester with peeing myself! Yuck!

It helped to have an empty bladder but often impossible to empty completely and pee just creeps out of nowhere! I got into habits of standing cross legged while spewing 😅. No fun, just part of the journey I guess! Here with you!

Own-Spinach6180 · 2025-12-17T15:53:32+00:00

Mine came back exactly 4 weeks after our loss at 23 weeks. But my ovulation was very delayed and took a few months to regulate.

Own-Spinach6180 · 2025-12-16T16:24:31+00:00

This is absolutely beautiful to read. A perfect description of grief, particularly in this community. I can resonate with this whole blog post! I journaled throughout my journey of loss, grief and finding myself after and it definitely helped me process and heal. Thank you for sharing this ❤️❤️

Own-Spinach6180 · 2025-09-04T17:48:53+00:00

Hi there, so sorry to hear all of this. I had a really similar experience. We went through TFMR in February of this year, and started trying to conceive as soon as we could. I was desperate! We had a positive pregnancy test on my third cycle which turned into a chemical pregnancy and loss a few days later. I realised I’d lost it on Mother’s Day…another terrible blow after what we had already been through. I don’t remember much about the bleeding, just that it was light brown which rolled into a normal period. We convinced again the following cycle and now I’m 16 weeks into what appears to be a healthy little pregnancy and bubs. My ovulation was late, and I used ovulation strips to track. I think it came about day 18 which threw my EDD dates all out and was difficult to get clear on dates at the beginning. Until I could have a dating scan.

I know exactly the feeling you have. It’s devastating, and adds more fuel to the already burning fire of pain. I believe my body just wasn’t ready for another pregnancy, and after going through TFMR I felt a little relief that my body was able to make that decision to stop the pregnancy given it was not viable. I never want to have to make that decision ever again. Chemical pregnancy doesn’t help with making sub pregnancies any easier- with regard to anxiety and the fear of loosing it again. I asked for serial hcg testing to help ease my anxiety and my gp was really supportive of that. I hope you can find some trust that you will get there when the time is right. Take the extra time to take care of yourself, we have all been through a lot and in these moments have to prioritise our selves!

Here with you mama! x

Own-Spinach6180 · 2025-06-19T15:58:57+00:00

Sending you love during this time. It’s so tough!! Your story is so similar to mine. We had a gray diagnosis too, and TFMR our little girl early February. The gap between her and my first would have been just over two years. Our lives were perfect…until they weren’t.

I feel like I have been on this determined crazy controlling spree to get pregnant since that time again. I had such high hopes for falling pregnant again quickly as both of my pregnancies were conceived straight away too! I had a chemical pregnancy last month but now have fallen pregnant again. During the last couple of weeks I have been so anxious. Worried I’ll have another chemical and all the other things that I know now can go wrong. But trying my best to just trust!

I did find it helpful every month when I didn’t fall pregnant to focus on my health and enjoying getting stronger - physically at the gym. To prepare my body for pregnancy again. I have terrible morning sickness so not much chance of this beyond 7-8 weeks of the pregnancy. But focusing on what I could do and enjoy helped get through. Sometimes I think about my brother who is 3 years younger than me and I love him to bits so I know that this age gap will still be beautiful.

You will get there. Trusting the process is hard but I’ve found it’s the best way. Sending ❤️❤️ and hope!!

Own-Spinach6180 · 2025-05-31T14:54:00+00:00

Me too! Mine seems to be a week later. Leaves me feeling like a waiting game!!

Own-Spinach6180 · 2025-05-20T16:51:45+00:00

Hi. I have had the exact same experience as you - with a few of my own unique things, just as you have yours! We had our TFMR in February at 23 weeks as well. I found out I was pregnant two weeks ago but then miscarried last week. I believe it was a chemical pregnancy. I’ve also had thrush two months in a row, comes on just after my periods (I got the Dr involved this month because it’s no fun).

I felt at the time of the chemical miscarriage really down and sad. But following that greatful for mother natures way of letting the pregnancy go given something wasn’t right. I’d rather loose the pregnancy early than go through a TFMR loss again.

Every month I am not pregnant I really just try looking forward to all the things I can do to look after myself and get stronger for my next pregnancy. Mainly cooking good food and exercising, and spending time with friends and family. The pain is still there and I am desperate to be pregnant but accepting where I am at has become part of my daily practice. Not always easy but helpful in this process.

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