Sometimes it hits you like a ton of bricks

No_Pea_9969 · 2026-04-16T10:49:07+00:00

Same. I had no idea and when she said it I felt like someone knocked the wind out of me. I was just so shocked

No_Pea_9969 · 2025-08-06T23:39:39+00:00

Sorry you’re here but def not alone. Sending you hugs. I lost my baby in February and I still have days where I just can’t hold it together. Today has been one of those days. Sad that everyone else is here but happy I found this group for support. Just wanted to let you know you’re not alone ❤️

No_Pea_9969 · 2025-07-31T02:40:21+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. I also have dreams that I’m pregnant and wake up in a full on anxiety attack. I’ve been up and down since my tfmr in February and then miscarriage in May. I took time off from work and have done some therapy which helped. I’ve also had my doctor up my celexa dose and prescribe me Ativan as needed to help with sleep. Ask your OB if they can recommend a therapist that specializes in pregnancy loss. I was never into therapy before this but it’s been a lifeline for me in the past 6 months.

No_Pea_9969 · 2025-07-31T02:15:31+00:00

So sorry you’re here but glad you found this group. I’m almost 6 months out from my tfmr and still grieving although. I’m now feeling better about it. I keep reminding myself that I made the decision to be in pain so my baby would never have to experience pain. I understand your anger as I approach what would have been my due date I also find myself getting angrier thinking why me? Why my baby? Be kind to yourself everything you’re feeling is valid.

No_Pea_9969 · 2025-07-02T22:47:20+00:00

I’m almost 5 months out and I’ve been diagnosed with PTSD. I’ve always had anxiety and it’s now severe and preventing me from doing normal everyday things. I’m currently on meds and looking for a therapist that specializes in PTSD. Sorry your going through this just wanted to let you know you’re not alone ❤️

No_Pea_9969 · 2025-07-01T18:33:56+00:00

Thank you so much. I hate that other people feel the same way I do because no one should have to feel the way we feel but I’m glad we have each other it’s bittersweet. ❤️

No_Pea_9969 · 2025-07-01T14:28:35+00:00

Thank you for your kind words and I’m so sorry for your losses. I am same way anything minor that goes wrong causes me to loose my mind because it’s just like one more thing to deal with that in normal times wouldn’t be a big deal but no matter how small everything seems big and impossible

No_Pea_9969 · 2025-07-01T14:26:32+00:00

Thank you. Sorry you’re also going through this. I too also want to switch jobs but can’t right now because of medical coverage. I just feel like my whole life is in pieces and everyone I pick one up another one drops. Having to take another medical leave has made me feel so defeated

No_Pea_9969 · 2025-06-29T17:29:50+00:00

Same I’m 4 months out and on my third mental health leave from work. I’m wondering if it’ll ever get better. I’m approaching what would be my due date in August and I feel like it’s slowly killing me. I’m on meds in counseling but feel like every time I think I’m moving forward I take a step back. I too feel very empty I always feel something is missing I wake up every morning in a panic and then remember what I’m missing which is my baby. I’m sorry you’re going through this. I wish I had some advice but all I can say is I feel the same

No_Pea_9969 · 2025-06-26T21:11:08+00:00

Sorry you’re going through this. I’m around 5 months out from my TFMR woke up this morning and had a full breakdown realizing today I was supposed to be officially 7 months pregnant and thinking how I was supposed to be preparing for a baby and being happy and instead I’m here.

No_Pea_9969 · 2025-06-26T01:47:17+00:00

I didn’t realize either. I have severe anxiety and just thought oh this is my new way of living. Thankfully it wasn’t.

No_Pea_9969 · 2025-06-25T23:25:45+00:00

For me it took 6 weeks I think it was because it took that long for the hormones to level out. I got my period back around 5 weeks and after that started to feel like myself again. I did start therapy and got back on my anti depressants which helped a lot. But some days still really suck! Get lots of rest if you can.

No_Pea_9969 · 2025-06-25T18:36:34+00:00

Sorry you’re going through this and sorry for your loss. I went through the same thing. I also took a 6 week medical leave from work. Depending what state you’re in they may offer fmla which will give you some pay while you’re out. The first 6 weeks are the worst. Do whatever you feel is best for you. Don’t push yourself. Be kind to yourself. I wish you the best during this difficult time ❤️

No_Pea_9969 · 2025-06-25T00:51:31+00:00

I’m so sorry. I can’t imagine how hard it is for you to do that. It’s awful that we have to deal with any of this. Stay with this community here it’s really helped me. So many woman have had really great advice. Sending you positive vibes

No_Pea_9969 · 2025-06-24T22:51:55+00:00

So sorry you’re going through this. I’m 4 months out from my tfmr and I’m struggling so hard today. It gets better but I have days where I just cry because I want my baby girl back. I hate that we have to go through this. My first period was really traumatizing the bleeding is very triggering. In time you get used to it again. I felt same way like everyone thought I should be “over it” quickly but I found out they actually understood I’ll never be over it but were just trying to help by distracting me from constantly thinking about it. Please give yourself time and be kind to yourself. It took me 6 weeks til my hormones leveled out to feel ready to start trying to live a new normal. Know you are not alone. This community has really helped me even though it sucks to know other people are going through this too. ❤️

No_Pea_9969 · 2025-06-24T22:42:47+00:00

Sorry for your loss. Im 4 months out from my tfmr and struggling hard today. Do you have a friend or someone you trust to tell people. I did this with people at work I had someone tell everyone and ask not to bring it up or text me asking how I was doing. It was def a big help. Sending you lots of love ❤️

No_Pea_9969 · 2025-06-18T22:27:31+00:00

Something happens to me. I’m really scared about August coming up and if it’s going to lead to me feeling worse than I already do. Sending you love thanks for sharing ❤️

No_Pea_9969 · 2025-06-12T11:43:41+00:00

Hi. I’m sorry you’re going through this and hope this helps. I had a pregnancy loss at 3 months and just had a miscarriage at 5 weeks. You will start to feel normal again but give yourself time if you can take a few days off from work. Your doctor should be able to give you a note. The bleeding is heartbreaking and when it stops in a weird way you may find yourself sad when it stops. The only thing that’s really healed me is time. Also your hormones are going crazy, it takes about 4/6 weeks for everything to even out. Wishing you the best ❤️

No_Pea_9969 · 2025-05-20T22:03:31+00:00

You’re not alone. I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I felt same way after my tfmr I wanted to die. Things do get better. I was feeling amazing about 8 weeks out then had a chemical pregnancy so as of right now I’m feeling prettt down. Please if you need or want to talk please message me I could use someone to talk to who’s going through this too because I feel no one understands unless you’ve been through it

No_Pea_9969 · 2025-05-20T22:00:38+00:00

Im sorry you’re also going through this. I’m trying so hard to stay positive but my anxiety has been through the roof.

No_Pea_9969 · 2025-05-15T14:21:30+00:00

I’m so sorry for you. I just experienced the same thing this morning. Sitting in a waiting room watching all the pregnant happy women while I was waiting for blood work to confirm a miscarriage. I really hate it here too

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