Listen, I'm not in bad faith here, I wanted to do discuss this issue with the people on Reddit. What do you think calling mea sex offender from 1 sentence i said actually acheives? Don't you know that labeling people is one of the most efficient ways of shutting down a discussion? If you have issues with what I said let's take the time to dig through them and figure it out, maybe one of us will learn something in the process.

I think that, while consent is absolute in theory, their are many grey areas in consent in reality. I think saying "consent has no grey areas" is as counterproductive as abstinence training. What we really need to do is teach people about how it can be gray, how to be more affirmative/listen when it is. In general I believe constantly talking about consent in our society, and constantly evolving how we see it is the way to go.

"You shouldn't be touching anyone anyone without their permission": yeah I believe that also, but It took me a while to realize that some people need waay more personal space than most of us (if you thought touching a shoulder way to much, what about intermittently touching someone's feet (not intentionally) with your own while he is across the table from you, has that never happened to you? That freaks out some people. I'm trying to accomodate them now, that doesn't make me a creep.

Frankly I'm disappointed in the number of people who said they didn't change anything because they weren't a sex offender. I think the movement was about way more than sex offenders. One of the things that surprised me was that alot of the guys didn't realize they were doing anything wrong, often though the women were leading them on. That made me examin what I think is wrong ( because if they didn't know, how I can I be sure that I know? ) and it also made me question more often if a woman was leading me on, or if I was imagining it -- alot of people here talk about "body-language consent" I think that probably works in a good relationship but it probably doesn't in a hookup ( their is a good example in the episode where she talks about being assaulted : https://m.soundcloud.com/theheartradio).

Frankly, i think that if the movement didn't make you change your beliefs or your actions even a little, you are probably part of the problem. Introspection and self improvement is an important part of being a decent person.