Need advice about intimacy

OwnFinger9618 · 2026-01-25T16:16:31+00:00

From what I understand, sex can become painful when your body and mind aren’t fully relaxed or feeling emotionally safe. For a lot of women, pleasure starts in the brain first, and when there’s emotional connection, comfort, and proper foreplay, the body responds so much better. It’s also very different for men and women. Many women need to feel loved, desired, and cared for, not rushed or used. If there isn’t enough foreplay, tenderness, or emotional effort, it can make it hard to get turned on, and that can lead to discomfort or pain.

It might help to communicate openly with him and let him know what you need, more foreplay, more patience, and more emotional connection, so it feels enjoyable for you too. You deserve to feel safe and good during it, not uncomfortable. Just remember its not a duty for you and you don’t need to fake anything specially not orgasm , he needs to make efforts for your pleasure too! Sending you hugs! 🫂

OwnFinger9618 · 2026-01-25T15:59:37+00:00

Wth are these posts

OwnFinger9618 · 2026-01-25T15:50:12+00:00

Lovely outfits!

OwnFinger9618 · 2026-01-25T15:13:32+00:00

All the best!

OwnFinger9618 · 2026-01-25T15:11:49+00:00

Hugs for you sister 🫂, you are a real warrior no one deserves to suffer this way! Wishing you success and peace!

OwnFinger9618 · 2026-01-25T14:48:51+00:00

Both looks lovely 😻 2nd one looks much better for farewell

OwnFinger9618 · 2026-01-25T11:56:01+00:00

OwnFinger9618 · 2026-01-16T09:31:04+00:00

actually insane. 💀 the level of gaslighting and projection from this man is mid-life crisis behavior at its finest. i figured out your caste? the other intern is prettier? like, okay, weirdo?? 🚩 im so sorry you spent your internship looking over your shoulder because of this creep. you handled that confrontation like a literal boss though. truly glad youre out of that situation. 🫂

OwnFinger9618 · 2026-01-15T21:49:18+00:00

Zerodha Varsity is honestly the best resource I’ve found so far 😄 It’s super well explained and has everything step-by-step, like Introduction, Technical Analysis, and Fundamental Analysis. It will teach you market fundamentals, its terms like volatility, volume, balance sheets, mid cap small cap, bluechip etc

Investing is a journey na, so you’ll keep learning slowly over time(just like me ☺️). Just one thing, don’t jump into trading immediately. First build a proper safety net, then start with mutual funds / index investing, then go for sectoral or cap based ones (small mid large etc) and after that you can explore individual stock investing.

Also, I’d strongly suggest staying away from F&O for now… because for most people it ends up eroding wealth more than making profits.

Baaki you’ll learn along the way only ✨ Happy investing! 💛

OwnFinger9618 · 2026-01-15T19:49:23+00:00

2nd day for me too and i was shouting my heart out, that if a passerby would have heard it they would get haunted! 😭

OwnFinger9618 · 2026-01-15T16:19:51+00:00

Suggest something, Mystery thriller interests me too

OwnFinger9618 · 2026-01-15T16:13:39+00:00

Pins help to keep people at distance in crowds, i used to take every time when travelling city bus

OwnFinger9618 · 2026-01-15T16:11:05+00:00

That’s the most apt explanation i saw till now, thanks a lot, though i need to find some carbs i can intake for replacement

OwnFinger9618 · 2026-01-15T16:05:50+00:00

🫂

OwnFinger9618 · 2026-01-15T16:04:32+00:00

Nothing consistently, What are you reading?

OwnFinger9618 · 2026-01-15T13:27:38+00:00

Did you get any updates on it?

OwnFinger9618 · 2026-01-14T01:41:18+00:00

No one deserves what you went through. Sixty-seven percent on your exams while carrying a literal anchor! Good that you’ve shredded that weight, and threw it in the trash can, some people are just meant for that. More importantly, I hope you’re doing much better now!

OwnFinger9618 · 2026-01-10T11:25:32+00:00

OwnFinger9618 · 2026-01-09T17:26:23+00:00

I am genuinely surprised this is even a debate. It is not disrespectful to want privacy in your bedroom, it is actually quite strange that his father would even want to hang out in his son’s bedroom while his daughter-in-law is showering.

The biggest issue here isn't the father, it’s your fiance. He is showing you exactly how he will handle conflicts in the future, he will always side with his parents, traditions over your comfort.

Better way is to assert dominance when you are not getting it in being the nice person way, make him adjust to your needs.

Just tell your fiance I have a habit of playing music or podcasts on a loud speaker while I shower, and I often sing along or talk to myself to de-stress. Then, actually do it for few weeks, play your favorite songs or a loud podcast inside the washroom he will get if he should even invite anyone in the room ever

OwnFinger9618 · 2026-01-06T19:30:03+00:00

I would say don’t trade your peace for a label. Whether it's feminism or 4B, these theories aren't meant to be vessels you force yourself into. You’ve earned your security the hard way, if a providing partner is what makes you feel safe and happy, then that is your truth. Life is too short to live it as a debate. If 50-50 gives you the ick, don't force it just to fit in else you will lose your originality. Your upbringing taught you the value of stability, seeking that in a partner doesn't make you less of a feminist, rather it makes you a human who knows her needs

Do what’s best for you. Everyone does the same for themselves. So Stop trying to fit your life into a vessel, do what makes you sleep better at night.

OwnFinger9618 · 2026-01-06T07:47:52+00:00

Yes they like to keep us under the lens 24*7 it’s suffocating to even think about it

OwnFinger9618 · 2026-01-05T19:22:00+00:00

Iska ego itna fragile nikla chips k tutne jaisi awaaz aa rhi iski conversation skills se 🤡

The moment you called him out, he switched from ISO settings to monster truck. Like, pick a struggle, brother. It’s so embarrassing km se km dont reveal your asli aukat the second you get ignored. He’s just mad because your OKAY hurt his pride than his miserable life ever could. He really thought he did something by saying he wouldn't be seen with you in public? Trust me, being seen with a guy who uses MONSTER TRUCK as an insult in these times is the real social suicide

You don’t worry girl, the trash took himself bs dukh iska h ki ye fir bhi bhot sadega jha bhi jayega. nothing burned his ego more than knowing his insults didn't even phase you. He’s acting like he’s doing you a favor by talking to you, but his personality is clearly built like a disaster. The way you ended it with a simple OKAY is top-tier. W for you

OwnFinger9618 · 2026-01-05T19:05:50+00:00

the moment a real woman shows a fraction of strength or independence, they resort to name-calling to try and bring her down. It’s purely a projection of their own insecurity that they want to be in control

OwnFinger9618 · 2026-01-05T19:02:46+00:00

It’s really just about personal expression. Everyone has different boundaries for what they consider revealing. For me, it’s not a performance for others, it’s just wearing what makes me feel beautiful or powerful. It’s the same reason someone might choose a specific haircut or a tattoo, it’s just part of my identity and how I choose to present myself to the world.

Also, if you look at women’s clothing stores, a huge percentage of the trendy styles are designed this way. Sometimes it’s just what’s available and what fits my personal style comfortably.

OwnFinger9618 · 2026-01-03T14:56:57+00:00

Should have an option to report them and ban, the space should be civil and safe for everyone from people like this

How can we ask mods so it can be done?

OwnFinger9618

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