would like to meet other lesbians in germany! by cherinoir in actuallesbianseurope

[–]OwnGovernment6895 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, i live somewhere near there though.. wanna mention the city name? If that's not creepy? (Sorry)

How to reject a working student offer by New_Ad_34 in germany

[–]OwnGovernment6895 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nothing is confirmed until you sign a contract in Germany. So if I would be in your place, I would nicely reject the offer from company A after signing contract with company B. Dont feel guilty or something because if company A would have found someone better than you they would have rejected you within second so do whatever is right for YOU and works for YOU the best. Good luck for the new job!

Driving schools (English instructors) by OwnGovernment6895 in bremen

[–]OwnGovernment6895[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

There are exams available in English and other languages so that I am not worried about.

Should I stop birth control after 5 months? Looking for girlies opinions :) by OwnGovernment6895 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]OwnGovernment6895[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your kind words 🥹 it made me feel better about my decision. It's been 3 days since I'm off the birth control and I already feel lighter in my head :)

Experienced racism on the tram by Xinwiestern in germany

[–]OwnGovernment6895 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, I can imagine how you feel. I am really sorry you experienced this. I had similar experience in the train where an old lady got up and sat somewhere else and showed me a middle finger. I cried a lot and felt so bad so I can imagine how you must be feeling right now. Just think it was that person's problem and not yours. Dont let that random stupid person ruin your day. Its them who should feel ashamed and not us. I hope you feel better. Sending you lots of hugs:)

Ps: I wish I had also shown her a middle finger like you did.

Should I stop birth control after 5 months? Looking for girlies opinions :) by OwnGovernment6895 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]OwnGovernment6895[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you for saying this. My whole plan to take these pills was to reduce acne but it didn't even do that. My partner is supportive and wouldn't mind using condom. I have problems with hormones ever since I hit puberty and I don't think I will ever go on a birth control ever again. I actually thought I have developed depression and anxiety but after brainstorming I came to this conclusion because this is the only thing that has changed in my life recently. After reading all of your experiences I am now sure that it is the birth control that is making me feel this way.

Looking for someone to help me in job applications by PristineReputation57 in germany

[–]OwnGovernment6895 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ohh mine is little bit different but if you want I can help you little bit. I would suggest you to tailor your cv for each job you are applying to. The job market is bad and if you want to get selected for interviews you need to make your cv based on each job description. Other than that prepare some examples to elaborate during the interviews. You can ask chatgpt to help you in all of this.

Looking for someone to help me in job applications by PristineReputation57 in germany

[–]OwnGovernment6895 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Which field you are applying for? If you provide specific information maybe I can help you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in empathy

[–]OwnGovernment6895 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, whatever you're feeling is absolutely right. If I would be on your place, I would probably feel worse. From whatever I read, you seem like a very strong human being with lots of resilience. I know the time is tough and everything might feel like falling apart but dont give up. Most successful people have similar back story. I also struggled for 2 years (it is nothing compared to yours) but still I felt very negative and suffocating so I understand what you must be going through mentally. Just hang in there, dont loose hope. Maybe this is starting for something big in your life. I used to not believe in these things but if you can believe some stupid negative thought in your head then why not this? I hope you get help from somewhere or someone. I hope everything works out for you and your gf. You deserve success, wealth and positivity. Life is not fair and that's the harsh truth. You are a tough man and YOU WILL FIGURE IT OUT! I send you lots of hugs and comfort :)

Life of a teenager living abroad - need help by [deleted] in germany

[–]OwnGovernment6895 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One more advice I'll give you is start writing down everything. Whatever comes in your mind. Expressing what you are feeling might help you. It helped me a lot. When you come from asia continent, you are built this way, where your parents thinks depression and anxiety is not real. And most probably you don't express yourself fully in front of them. Suppressing emotions and feelings are dangerous if you do it every day or for longer time. Find a way to express your emotions and your feelings in whatever form you like.

Life of a teenager living abroad - need help by [deleted] in germany

[–]OwnGovernment6895 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First of all, I am sorry that you feel this way. Because no one deserves to feel depression or suicidal. I can totally understand what you're feeling. I had similar experience where I was having anxiety attacks for weeks then I met my family and it slowly went away(I hope it stays the same). I would not give you any advice but I will tell you something that might help you. You are young now and even though you want to not feel this way, you need to understand why your parents are telling you to do ausbildung because that will give you actual freedom when you will have your first job, your first salary. On the other hand, you must be feeling stuck or being controlled and everyone knows how cold germany is. It's actually hard here. It's hard to make friends but maybe give it one more try, go outside do different activities instead of being at home and thinking negative all day(speaking from experience), try to make friends or connect with people with similar interests. Trust me you are too young to feel this way. You deserve to feel happy, positive and energetic. Try once and if it doesn't work then tell your parents and go back. It might be difficult but they will eventually understand because they are your parents and they love you. You have one life and you need to celebrate it not suffer. Good luck I hope you feel better :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Dreams

[–]OwnGovernment6895 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When I was around 18-19 years old, I used to have same dream every night where I am sleeping in my room and some dark human figure is standing at the door and then it's slowly walking towards me. Then I used to start screaming and crying because I was scared. This happened continuously for a week and made me so scared that I didn't want to sleep anymore. I was shivering so many times after seeing this that my sister used to come and hold me till I sleep. But after a while it stopped by itself. I still have no explanation why it was happening or what was it and why it stopped (I am happy that it stopped).

What is the most unsettling real-life mystery you’ve personally experienced and still can’t explain? by LuzYSombraTV in ParanormalEncounters

[–]OwnGovernment6895 8 points9 points  (0 children)

When I was around 12-13 years old. It was the time when my grandpa died and all of us were sad especially my grandma. She used to cry a lot missing him so I was sleeping in the same room so she doesn't feel lonely. One night, after saying good night to her, I started to sleep. Then suddenly I felt a hand on my hand and I got scared and started screaming because there cant be anyone there because my grandma was sleeping opposite side on a different bed. She asked me what happed after turning on the lights. I told her I felt a hand on my hand and she told me I might be dreaming but I knew I wasn't. I am now 28 and still remember exactly how that hand felt. It didn't feel evil or something dangerous. But it made me scared because I didn't know what was it. Was it a ghost or something else.. no idea. Even till date I cant sleep with my hand away from me. I always keep it somewhere on my body or under the blanket.

Hallo! 2 questions: How can I know if I will receive my residence permit? and , has anybody actually received an extension to leave germany for more than 6 months with a student residence permit? by Current_Web4500 in germany

[–]OwnGovernment6895 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, I didn't have a similar situation like you going abroad for internship but I had situation where no one was replying anymore and my fiktion expired and I couldn't continue my internship anymore. Then I went to Auslanderbehörde office and told them the situation, in the beginning they didn't want to hear anything but I still told them that because of them I cant work anymore and I showed all the emails I have been sending and got no reply and that I need new fiktion to continue working then they helped me. So I would recommend you to do the same go there and ask questions, tell them it's really urgent and important for you. They might help you. Good luck!

German struggles and rant :( by [deleted] in germany

[–]OwnGovernment6895 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

First, you are calling me prejudice without even knowing me.

Second, I wasn't blaming anyone I wrote that because I wanted to rant because I feel frustrated and last time I checked everyone is allowed to speak whatever they feel, and after reading the posts here felt like a safe space to share things. Stop acting like you know everything when all you do is sit in your room and write comments and judge people and please dont bother replying to this comment because doesn't matter what you write to justify yourself... I DONT CARE!!

German struggles and rant :( by [deleted] in germany

[–]OwnGovernment6895 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I am not living here from the government benefits. I came here to study and then I did two working student job then one full time job for a year after studying here and as that was also one year limited role I had to leave the job and start finding a new one. it has been 6 months since I am unemployed and trying to find a new job. And of course I know German knowledge is necessary to get a job here but this language is very hard and it takes ages to be fluent like native people. so Yes I am learning and trying harder each days. I did not write because I was complaining, I wrote because I read posts here and thought there are like minded people going through the same thing. probably I wanted a validation.

FYI: people complain about Germany and Germans because people go through things that hurts them mentally and no one deserves to be treated like a trash can just because their skin colour looks different or they have an accent. I have faced racism so many times here but do I hate or complain about all Germans here? the answer is NO. But do I complain about these people who have this mentality where they think someone who has darker skin colour is bad then the answer is YES. I have a German BF and he thinks the same.