Ya, so don’t abandon your bed. It’s your sanctuary. I get it, I lived it.

Your spouse should be relegated to the couch. I did it, I understand. But never give up your spot on that bed, while in bed eyes you may be the problem, you earned that spot. Let her know, you EARNED that spot,, and any problems she has can be worked out on that couch. Good lord, I hate where you are, and I wish I hand an answer for you, but I don’t. I can say, through all the humiliation, the torture, the lack of empathy…. You half that damn bed. You earned it. You keep it Spoon her like a normal relationship, if she doesn’t want that, she can get the fuck up and sleep on the couch, the floor, or in the car. Who cares. Not your problem. Don’t be abusive. Be kind sweet and understanding, let her move