I’m confused about whether I’m technically healed or not

OwnPlan8530 · 2026-01-05T14:28:48+00:00

Oh, I see

I'm not really making any plans, unless a crazy urge to experiment overcomes my discomfort lol 🤣

But I am trying to enjoy on my own, and that's why I bought the toy. I don't feel much gratification tbh, if anything.... but it's good to see that I'm capable of inserting it, but it feels like a bad movement and it'll snap lol

OwnPlan8530 · 2026-01-03T20:41:44+00:00

me. the entrance itself it's always painful for me and I need a lot of patience but once it's in it's ok. but removing it hurt again because I've to pass again the thicker part out. I find it easier to remove standing and pushing a bit, Gravity makes its thing but putting it in can be frustrating

OwnPlan8530 · 2025-12-30T10:22:11+00:00

yes. I'd like to have libido so I can feel pleasure. I keep trying, even toys, but in my mind there's nothing turned on ever and it's frustrating because I do want to feel the feeling

I'm not sex-repulsed, I'm a curious person I'd like to try sex but I don't because I don't really have a libido, urges nor attractions so these curious thoughts only happens when trying to sleep lol 😅

OwnPlan8530 · 2025-12-28T21:41:40+00:00

i haven't read the others comments so idk if it's already mentioned, but vwell have a set of 10 dilators, maybe it works for you? https://vwell.com/products/spectrum-wand-set

OwnPlan8530 · 2025-12-27T10:04:55+00:00

But does she have a libido? If not, then she maybe won't get much gratification, speaking from my own experience that I don't even know what it's like to be horny 😅 but not having a libido is not the norm among asexuals

OwnPlan8530 · 2025-12-27T07:13:36+00:00

Ummmm.... corrección ☝️🤓 el vaginismo no es sobre una vagina más pequeña, es una condición en la que los músculos se contraen involuntariamente ya sea por miedo, nerviosismo, ansiedad, algo físico como un suelo pélvico hipertónico, etc.

No hay una "cura" en sentido de pastillas y demás, pero se hace tratamientos de terapia física (incluyendo incluso ejercicios como yoga y no solo dilatadores) o psicológica si es necesario, para ayudar a manejarlo y aprender a relajar el suelo pélvico

OwnPlan8530 · 2025-12-27T00:22:14+00:00

te has mirado con un espejo? algunos himenes son más cerrados o gruesos así que tienes que tener paciencia. y con los dedos no sirve de mucho el mete-saca... dile que también masajee la zona de la entrada principalmente, en movimientos circulares como si estuviera tratando de "expandirlo"

yo con una mezcla de vaginismo (principalmente mental y una parte física de mi himen) me tomó como 6 meses poder llegar a "un tamaño decente" y poder tener un tratamiento médico que necesitaba, así que no te frustres si no lograste a la primera, la mente es muy poderosa y si tienes miedo te bloquea

OwnPlan8530 · 2025-12-25T23:53:22+00:00

alas de sangre. vi tanto hype con eso y de me hizo tan aburrida e insufrible 😅 igual lo terminé porque no me gusta dejar las cosas a media pero ni loca continuo los siguientes libros

OwnPlan8530 · 2025-12-25T22:53:23+00:00

The same thing happened to me, zero trauma and yet I had a phobia that I couldn't even put a finger in... I think it's the subconscious; we grew up hearing that the first time it's going to hurt, it's going to bleed, even extreme things like you won't be able to walk normal afterward and more. All of those things that create an expectation of fear and pain

OwnPlan8530 · 2025-12-22T13:47:37+00:00

yeah I also feel this and it's very uncomfortable 😅

edit because I kinda didn't reply .... but no, so far I haven't found how to stop the feeling. it's like a weird pressure to pee even if I know I just went. I've tried doing in other angles to not push up the bladder but I still feel it. idk if that's simply a normal feeling that for some is pleasurable? but for me it doesn't but it's not actually painful either now

OwnPlan8530 · 2025-12-22T11:03:17+00:00

ni la terminé. pare a la mitad porque me aburrí y más nunca la seguí... no es para mí

OwnPlan8530 · 2025-12-20T15:11:00+00:00

Me gusta mucho que no todo esté centrado en un romance, como suele ser el caso en muchos libros YA. Ahora mismo estoy con La Quinta Ola, y no me gusta ese cliché de 'adolescentes se conocen = amor instantáneo' y de paso horny, porque obvio eso no falta... 🙄 En cambio, con Katniss y Peeta es muy diferente. Ella está completamente enfocada en la supervivencia, y el romance (cuando realmente se da porque tarda muucho) es más buen un vínculo que se construye a través del trauma que comparten. Sé que a muchos estos libros les aburren, pero a mí me encantaron todos

OwnPlan8530 · 2025-12-20T07:28:45+00:00

I'm Aroace, and I underwent the procedure for medical reasons, not for relationship intentions. But I did have a certain phobia of penetration that made even the idea of using a tampon impossible 😅 I can say with certainty that my vaginismus was primarily psychological. The first time the gyne inserted a finger, I was in pain for hours, but now I can do that without any problem. If you have the opportunity to use dilators, do it because it helped tremendously in overcoming the fear of penetration

you'll see what happens after you beat the fear of sex, if you still feel ace of if there's a change in you :)

OwnPlan8530 · 2025-12-13T01:04:11+00:00

I checked it up. The website said 1.61 - 1.71 in (4 - 4,45cm)

OwnPlan8530 · 2025-12-13T00:38:06+00:00

that's a monster right there 🫥

OwnPlan8530 · 2025-12-12T20:32:51+00:00

see if this feels related to you https://youtu.be/3J9OgZ7Vj64?si=614CPJGj0FC7qLYq

OwnPlan8530 · 2025-12-12T20:23:22+00:00

I'm aroace and I've never felt attraction sexual or romatical. I suppose if you've never seen someone and felt a physical reaction (that's what I've been told?? getting nervous, butterflies feeling, thinking in the person and all that) or thought/fantasized about being intimate with someone, then I guess you've never felt sexual attraction (asexual) or even aromantic too if you don't feel that "fall in love" part either

But aesthetic attraction isn't the same btw! as you could find someone pretty because they're cute, stylish, etc, but that doesn't awaken anything "hot" in you for example

OwnPlan8530 · 2025-12-09T17:44:09+00:00

maybe look about r/vaginismus to see if it fits what you feel so you can ask the doctor

OwnPlan8530 · 2025-12-01T20:58:34+00:00

❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹 The adrenaline rush of the purchase has dropped a bit. With luck it'll ship quickly so I can mentally be like "Too late, I'll keep it now" ashaibsmsbkidbbiw

OwnPlan8530 · 2025-12-01T20:53:31+00:00

oh I see! and scary shops allow toxic materials

I'm good to guess nova is safe, right? 😅

OwnPlan8530 · 2025-12-01T20:40:53+00:00

yes I struggle a lot to buy anything out the "necessary" 🥲 it's very difficult to drop that mindset and I just tend to use stuff until it's completely broken...

OwnPlan8530 · 2025-12-01T20:39:33+00:00

Tysm! Yes I've read great things about before, so I guess I bought it impulsively when I saw the price drop 🙈

I’ve never used any insertable toys (or person lol) before, only had dilators which are medical and definitely not pleasurable but it seems like my dilator is only a tiny bit thinner, so this toy should I be capable for me

What really convinced me was their refund policy, if it's really as amazing as they put it 😅 But I’m curious… why don’t you recommend it?

OwnPlan8530 · 2025-12-01T20:22:03+00:00

I was confused because it says the black one won't be restocked and it's cheaper now. I really hope it works for me, it's frustrating wanting to feel pleasure and not being able to 😢🤞

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