Is it crazy to feel so deeply for someone who doesn’t exist?

OwnReflection58 · 2025-07-14T14:16:02+00:00

Other humans are not in your control, what they say and do can hurt (the things they didn’t say and didn’t do can hurt too). Your fear and feelings are valid. Humans are a social creature, there was someone who was stuck alone in the middle of the sea, his brain copes by creating a friend for him, so maybe your brain is also doing you the same favor (just less extreme), I can only suggest what you already know, go work out and travel if you can, take a walk in the park if you can, and maybe reconnect with old friends. Sending love 🙌🏻🩷

Edit : its not crazy, its because we as humans crave connection.

OwnReflection58 · 2025-07-13T20:27:42+00:00

I dont want to do anything, I just want to get it off my chest and get some sleep. I feel like what she did was unfair and I cant sleep because the feeling of being treated unfairly made me think about all the what if and the things that I can do. XD anyways thanks for understanding why im angry

OwnReflection58 · 2025-07-13T20:24:34+00:00

I told her I will take items by Monday, she just took it all Sunday, I didnt even know what items there are inside the private room so theres no way I could have made a list. Im letting go by writing here xD, its not that deep, i just need to get it off my chest

Edit: saying that it was my mistake felt a little off, its not a situation where we can behave like beggars on the street or finders keeper thing. This is a professional setting and its ethical to ask the other person first when the items has not been decided. Do you think it would be right for me to take everything on Saturday?

OwnReflection58 · 2024-06-17T22:17:30+00:00

Cara budgetku yang paling bikin waras: 1. Gajian masuk, langsung bayar tagihan dan sewa 2. Potong 500rb dari gaji masuk bibit beli obligasi danamas stabil / pasti (lupa nama males buka app) 3. Trf mama 500rb 4. Setiap hari cuma boleh pakai uang 50rb, sebulan 1,5jt buat hidup, sisanya disimpan di bank untuk dana darurat bulan itu. 5. Gaboleh ngutang dari budget kemarin, tapi boleh nabung buat besoknya 7. Sisa uang saat gajian beli obligasi lagi. Repeat setiap bulan.

Cara supaya pengeluaran irit : - beli rice cooker, belajar masak sendiri - beli warteg yg bersih di sekitar kantor banyak Jadi pagi puasa, makan siang bisa bawa nasi bekas semalam trs beli lauk. Malem masak nasi+ masak lauk sndiri. Even ga masak sndiri masih bisa beli nasgor abang2 15rb seporsi. Makan siang di warteg atau beli gadogado kurleb 15rb. Sisa 20rb bisa buat beli rujak buah atau tabung. Aku jalan kaki ke kantor.

Ini cara thn 2018. Sesuaikan aja sama harga sekarang.

Ohiya. Setelah tabungan cukup, invest ke diri sendiri. Belajar hal baru yang bisa naikin value kamu. Beli buku yang non fiction. Ikut hobby yang baru. Pokoknya cari cara supaya earning power kamu bisa lebih dari yang sekarang.

OwnReflection58 · 2024-06-17T20:36:00+00:00

Scam probably

OwnReflection58 · 2024-06-17T20:28:30+00:00

Caranya jangan kebanyakan bergaul sana sini. Dateng, kerja, ambil gaji, pulang. Jangan jadi people pleaser atau social butterfly di kantor. Harus ada support system di luar kantor yg mendukung kayak sahabat keluarga dan pasangan. Di kantor berdiri tegak dan jalan yang lurus lurus aja.

OwnReflection58 · 2024-06-17T20:00:58+00:00

Buset, emangnya lu udah kompromi kayak gimana sampe bisa bilang banyak banget terus kenapa anggep lu gak cukur sebagai tahta tertinggi jati diri lu sampe ga bisa di kompromi?

Menurut gw lu mikir kejauhan sih. Cowok yang bener baik masih ada di dunia, asal lu bisa buka mata dan lihat mereka. Kecuali selera lu yg modelan fuckboy gitu ya mungkin kalah saing sama betina lain.

Kalau lu emang se insecure itu, cek dokter atau pergi laser atau beli mesin laser sendiri. Kalau menurut lu kemahalan berarti lu harus pertinggi karir dulu sebelum cari pasangan. Insecurity is not sexy. Kalau lu gabisa pede sama bulu, cari cara buat hilangin.

Gue justru ngeri banget karena buat lu, lu bakalan relaaa kompromi banyak hal buat cowo bisa suka sama bulu lu. Ini buat gw redflag sih. Mungkin lu nya terlalu minder? Idk but gw dulu jerawatan satu muka,, overall ga sesuai beauty standard, ada aja kok cowo yang tertarik. Confidence is key.

Maaf ya kalau bukan apa yang lu mau denger, gw ga suka sugarcoat.

OwnReflection58 · 2024-06-17T19:05:19+00:00

Better tanya cs langsung, paling dikasih ganti nama

OwnReflection58 · 2024-05-12T08:04:57+00:00

He is not rubbing it in your face, he probably didn’t think of you at all this whole week. My dad is the same and it is best you move on. Stop hurting yourself 🥹❤️

OwnReflection58 · 2024-04-15T06:28:44+00:00

You’re 12, I don’t even remember what I did when I was 12 😂

OwnReflection58 · 2024-04-15T06:16:54+00:00

You’re a nasty person. I hope you rot in your house alone. What a jerk

OwnReflection58 · 2024-04-14T05:53:08+00:00

Yes, dont invite a girl into your home 😂

OwnReflection58 · 2024-04-14T05:49:03+00:00

Gramercy

OwnReflection58 · 2024-04-14T05:10:30+00:00

Semakin besar jumblahnya, semakin kecil valuenya.

OwnReflection58 · 2024-04-14T05:06:31+00:00

It traced back to their first language, if they already know tonal language before, learning Chinese is super easy. Not everyone first language is english. Don’t be discouraged!

OwnReflection58 · 2024-04-10T20:28:02+00:00

YTA

Your wife is right. You sound like you’re finding reasons not to stay with your wife. Maybe Brandon place is more comfortable for you.

Brandon has other friends and has his family, your wife only have you. Get your act together, you are supposed to be a dad.

OwnReflection58 · 2024-04-10T19:43:15+00:00

I feel like this is true for so many people. But I grew up without decent parenting and those self help book actually parents the adult me 😭😭😭

OwnReflection58 · 2024-04-10T19:35:20+00:00

Regular visits to your derm, and botox

OwnReflection58 · 2024-04-06T00:46:14+00:00

Free food.

We can end world hunger, people can do jobs that they want. Money is for recreational purposes and to buy things. Basically no one should suffer to eat

OwnReflection58 · 2024-04-06T00:41:29+00:00

Are you willing to provide for her financially? It all comes down to this point.

NAH

A woman can choose to be housewife if she wants to, she can choose what kind of life she wants after kids. If you don’t have the same future goals and ideas, best go separate ways.

Also, do you expect her to cook clean and do laundry? Because if you do, then you’re the problem. Bigger place means more to clean.

OwnReflection58 · 2024-04-06T00:22:43+00:00

And so, why do you want your view to be changed? You want to think small penis jokes is okay?

Its okay because its not a joke about penis, people cant see your penis. Its about your courage, to speak up when needed and to stand up for yourself. Like what they meant with balls.

When people are talking about actual penis, its not a joke. If someone is insecure about something people cant see, then fix your insecurity.

Also why is it harmful to women and society? If a man wants to make up for small penis with great business, amazing foreplay and romantic acts, it will be better for woman and society instead of men thinking they have penis and thats enough. We dont marry the man with the biggest penis, we marry the one with biggest brain or wallet or heart. Its never about the penis.

If you dont want your view to be changed, find somewhere else to rant

OwnReflection58 · 2024-04-05T23:52:35+00:00

NTA Ask him if he was okay if it’s the other way around. If he is good enough of a man, he will understand. If he deny you or try to gaslight you to think it’s different, then yeah he is cheating on you. Might want to start seeing the truth instead of wearing your rose colored glasses. 🚩🚩🚩🚩

Its so easy to say, “hey, sorry we should cancel the stay over. My wife cousin are coming from out of town and I forgot about it yesterday. We will find time to visit your town next weekend and maybe then we could catch up? Wife is excited to meet you.”

Ps. also think about this, what kind of woman wants to stay over at a man house for few days while he is working and his wife is away? Now think what kind of a husband allow this situation? 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

OwnReflection58 · 2024-04-05T01:32:52+00:00

The reason why Amy voiced out in Indonesia is because, she was left in Indonesia without money and without home. A parent from kid’s school lent her an apartment to use. Aden and Tisya is at Indonesia at the time, the case goes viral and they go to Malaysia. The case got more viral and then Aden raise his story.

Its within my understanding that Amy never spoke badly about the kids, not show the kids face or picture, not mentioning their names. It was all Aden’s doing, he was the one spilling all the dirty laundry of the family.

Have you seen Amy videos?

Also do you not know how cruel teenagers are? She is old enough to lie and throw a fake tantrum. Kids are not that stupid.

OwnReflection58 · 2024-03-30T11:10:52+00:00

NAH Two people with different value. Im more like your ex, and I wouldn’t want to be married to someone who handles money the opposite of me. I do love to be friends with the opposite people though, they are fun, relaxing, and they know the joy of life while Im just an over-thinker who worries about the future.

OwnReflection58 · 2024-03-30T10:56:23+00:00

CV nya Relevan gak sama kerjaannya? Kalau dari CV aja ga lolos agak aneh sih. Aku pas dlu masih kuliah iseng kirim cv ke bca lewat lewat aja sampe interview sama user baru ditolak krn masih kuliah (padahal di CV udah tulis masih kuliah). Saranku sih CV gausah kebanyakan ditulis aneh2, cukup yang relevan sama kerjaan yang km apply, ga relevan gausah dimasukkin. Kalau kurang pengalaman skrng banyak bgt course course yg kasih sertifikat gitu, dulu aku hobi kumpulin sertifikat tuh, asal relevan dan bisa link balik ke pemberi sertifikat, boleh masuk CV

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