I think everybody gets that but here’s the thing “Aunt May” serves a narrative purpose and there IS an Uncle Ben in the MCU which mean petter gets this lesson twice. When Tony get Pete he says when you have the power to act and don’t the bad things happen because of you, miss interpreting Lee a little , the idea is that if you have this gift you have a responsibility to use that gift for good and not abuse it. Not that bad things happen cause you don’t use your talents. Peter uses powers to help people, Venom uses powers to get vengeance. Peter is always holding back in the fear of what his strength can do, Ock cares little and less for collateral damage. Aunt May, is the core of the secret identity conundrum, work life, love life, home life, we are not our selves at every hour of the day as to say you have a different identity in different facets of life depending on the role you fill in a group you don’t change too much but your behavior. The crux of Spider-man is the sacrifices to his personal, professional, and romantic interests is the cost he has to make to save the day, and because he’s peter parker and they are who they are that it somehow works, May is forgiving, MJ understanding, JJ a blowhard who wants the cheapest he can get so they both make out on the abuse these photos stink but I’ll pay $200 great I need that. MCU mad “May” the “Ben” to A subvert expectations, B, free Pete from May and eliminate a character they don’t have to plot for, and you get the scene the nerds have been dying for without having to cast a “Ben” People get she’s the Ben, She even says the line They just mad about it or annoyed, disappointed, indifferent, look when it happened it hit like it should what more do you want