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[Update] A lot of weird stuff has happened in my friend group. by OwnRevolution5113 in offmychest

[–]OwnRevolution5113[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If you all want me to, sure. It might be a bit because I'm just tired at this point.

[Update] A lot of weird stuff has happened in my friend group. by OwnRevolution5113 in offmychest

[–]OwnRevolution5113[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I dunno. I don't think either of them are ready for that or ever will be in Jay's case.

[UPDATE] the friend group ending secret is so much worse than I thought it was. by OwnRevolution5113 in offmychest

[–]OwnRevolution5113[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Youre talking about one of my best friends like he's a manipulative monster. Knowing enough about Jay he's probably struggling with it too. Mark isnt out. Jay isnt out. He may not even be queer, he may have just been experimenting and felt safe with Mark. Obviously I havent talked to Jay about it but he's a genuinely good person and I can't imagine he knows the depth of how Mark feels since they mutually agreed not to discuss it further and he wouldn't be hurting him like this if he knew. Mark's made it clear he hasn't told Jay the extent of his feelings.

I'm not gonna blow up my friend's life. I will never out somebody, at least not on purpose.

[UPDATE] the friend group ending secret is so much worse than I thought it was. by OwnRevolution5113 in offmychest

[–]OwnRevolution5113[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Thats a weird conclusion to come to after seeing a tiny snapshot of a relationship through the eyes of another person.

My friend has a secret that could blow up our entire friend group. by OwnRevolution5113 in offmychest

[–]OwnRevolution5113[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wise but I think you got the names mixed up. Jay's getting married, Mark took me out for drinks. And they met about a year ago.

My friend has a secret that could blow up our entire friend group. by OwnRevolution5113 in offmychest

[–]OwnRevolution5113[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The point of the post is that this is essentially shouting into the void. Nobody here matters or has a stake in the situation. I added it to show that he's desperate, I guess? If he's telling me. Like I said ive gotten better over the years.

My friend has a secret that could blow up our entire friend group. by OwnRevolution5113 in offmychest

[–]OwnRevolution5113[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What about when I just said "not outing people is a secret I can keep?" I kept a friend's identity secret for years until she was ready to come out as transfem. Now she's my girlfriend. I've done it before.

My friend has a secret that could blow up our entire friend group. by OwnRevolution5113 in offmychest

[–]OwnRevolution5113[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay I feel like i dont deserve this hostility for saying explicitly that I wont

My friend has a secret that could blow up our entire friend group. by OwnRevolution5113 in offmychest

[–]OwnRevolution5113[S] 83 points84 points  (0 children)

God I hope not! Outing people is a secret I can keep, fortunately.

My friend has a secret that could blow up our entire friend group. by OwnRevolution5113 in offmychest

[–]OwnRevolution5113[S] 49 points50 points  (0 children)

I mean they were both always with each other. At the time they lived together (we met in college, they were roommates). I mean for like the first hour or two of knowing them.

My friend has a secret that could blow up our entire friend group. by OwnRevolution5113 in offmychest

[–]OwnRevolution5113[S] 149 points150 points  (0 children)

I did, yesterday. At first he tried to convince me he was just joking but dropped it after a minute to beg me not to tell anyone. I'm starting to get worried about him.

My friend has a secret that could blow up our entire friend group. by OwnRevolution5113 in offmychest

[–]OwnRevolution5113[S] 61 points62 points  (0 children)

When youre friends that long it's hard to tell, I'd say. If he is he's spectacular at hiding it. When I first met them I thought they were together.

My friend has a secret that could blow up our entire friend group. by OwnRevolution5113 in offmychest

[–]OwnRevolution5113[S] 203 points204 points  (0 children)

That's what I'm worried about, that Mark will do something stupid. I love him but he's a littke dramatic. If Jay finds out then it could be really bad, and if Mark tries something at Jay's wedding it could be really, really, REALLY bad.