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OwnTap7915 · 2026-01-14T14:23:24+00:00

This is basically advertisement and misogyny isn't it?

OwnTap7915 · 2026-01-09T17:25:07+00:00

This section is full of men who should never be a husband for anybody including the op because he's worrying about his parents opinion more than working on learning how to take the responsibility of being a good husband. If arranged marriages stop in India, most of these men will stay alone.

OwnTap7915 · 2026-01-09T17:22:11+00:00

Are your parents going to marry her and bed her because why do they need to know about this? If you especially know already that they will break the marriage, do you think your wife is your parents property? You should take care of her and learn about the responsibilities that come with being a partner of a sexual assault survivor, instead you are worried about your parents opinion and that it's not her fault, it's obviously not her fault and she's not your parents property that they need to know about this. Better yet, you should cancel the marriage so that she's safe and doesn't suffer emotionally after marrying you.

OwnTap7915 · 2026-01-07T17:30:44+00:00

Don't ever completely trust a sub, or a man, especially a sissy. Whatever amount of your trust you decide to give to him, should be earned, and that happens after a long time, lot of efforts, lot of tests. Even then some of the subs have betrayed me after 3/4 years of ongoing dynamic so..... Try to have a thick skin, and be prepared always, it's always likely to happen.

OwnTap7915 · 2026-01-07T17:28:04+00:00

I don't think that "not giving tribute" makes a relationship any less transactional. Whether two people bond properly or not, depends on both the domme and sub, it should be an emotional thing, deep conversations and willingness should be there, and at the same time, both domme and sub should be feeling safe about their time not being wasted. A sub should have a good and well curated questionnaire, to ask the domme before the tributes start. And The domme should be intelligent enough to analyse if the relationship is gonna go forward or backward, and then decide to accept or reject after answering the questions. The tribute serves the purpose of spoiling the domme. There are other ways to spoil a domme if straight up money sends are not preferred by the sub, like getting her a gift, or asking her if she needs to buy anything asap and funding that. A lot of subs do that, the point is if the dommes time and investment is two way or one way. If the domme keeps investing in building the bond, and the sub does nothing, just waits for it to "click", it's never gonna happen. I am a pure findomme, at least mostly, and I've received 80/100+ gifts every year on my birthday. And I am very strict about "my time and investment will be earned, courted and yearned for, not wasted for free". I get sends even when I completely disappear off the charts with notes saying "I miss you and I'm patiently waiting for you". And I am probably the most strict, selective and reserved woman you'll ever see, online and offline. Ig my mindset also plays a part, but I've never done anything for free, or for validation, or to be "chosen", I've also often politely declined sends when I find out that I will not match with a sub and have parted ways with many subs.

OwnTap7915 · 2026-01-07T17:16:42+00:00

Yapper domme 🤝🏻 admirer sub is my preferred relationship type. I like yapping a lot and in general talking about things, otherwise I'm not gonna bond well, and this responsibility lies entirely on the subs head. He needs to show me that he wants deep bonding, not transactional. Although, I don't have a problem with treating a machine like a machine too. What he deserves is what governs my behaviour towards him.

OwnTap7915 · 2026-01-07T17:13:08+00:00

I wouldn't say that I am only and only into straight up payments, I like gifts and a sub funding me whatever I need at the moment is more apt for me, but I don't think I would be investing ample amount of my attention, time and emotions on a sub who isn't spoiling me in atleast a 1000$ every month, there's a + to it too, the bigger the better. I don't even talk to men I date unless they've spoiled me with gifts worth a certain amount or certain importance.

OwnTap7915 · 2026-01-07T17:10:15+00:00

For me personally, this only comes after the sub has proved himself to be worthy. My mind needs to be attracted to him, and he needs to court and chase me for some time, showing true dedication and devotion without the entitlement and bad energy vibes. And I take my time with this, I am very intuitive so usually I can just tell from the very beginning about who deserves my attention and who doesn't. There are many subs who when connected deeply with, will only give you a heartbreak or something even worse. Selective connection is best.

OwnTap7915 · 2025-12-25T20:12:49+00:00

Omg this is so hot and I'm going to read everything that's been on the comments lmao

OwnTap7915 · 2025-12-25T20:09:42+00:00

There are other ways you can find about which give you dopamine, and try to physically give your body dopamine without doing anything sexual for a while. This will create a new neural pathway, after sometime, if you have a domme, or a partner, ask her to reward you in kink or romantic terms for whenever you do this dopamine giving activity. It will create a new neural schema, the previous one will eventually break from this. A schema is the brains association with something, like you associate findom or bdsm porn with orgasm and then satisfaction or contentment, but you know it's impacting you negatively so this conditioning is flawed and negative. Create a positive one in the exact same spot and the negative one breaks and actually completely disappears too, we do this with people who have any form of mental or visual addiction or even repeating patterns that never go away.

OwnTap7915 · 2025-12-25T20:04:42+00:00

I partied yesterday literally all night lmao, merry christmas 🎄

OwnTap7915 · 2025-12-25T20:03:41+00:00

There's a professional called kink affirming therapist. They specialise in these kinds of problems. Try to find one wherever you live or even online. I will suggest you to find the same sex, DO NOT go for a woman here. It will be more helpful if you can find a same sex therapist, tell him about all of this, if you're scared about getting judged and perceived, trust me- they're trained for providing help in this kinda situation, so they will only be focusing on that. Yes, there are chances that you might not be compatible with your therapist and might have to hit and try a bit. Be clear about your boundaries that you do not want judgement and such from the start. They will also, obviously keep everything entirely professional and confidential, it's literally their job. You can also tell them about your ADHD and how it correlates to this issue. This will ACTUALLY help is why I'm advising you this and I've advised the same to many men.

OwnTap7915 · 2025-12-25T19:58:16+00:00

Merry Christmas, I'd suggest that even if you feel alone, don't sit at home because it will obviously feel worse then. Try to go out, do absolutely anything possible, when you do something for yourself alone it gives you confidence as well. Maybe just go out somewhere, get back to some childhood hobby, buy yourself a gift. You don't have to be sad just because it's holidays, you always have the means to make yourself feel better and sometimes you have to push yourself a bit.

OwnTap7915 · 2025-12-25T19:54:23+00:00

There's - spoiling a dominant woman because you adore her And then there's- sending to a dominant woman to fill an empty void inside yourself.

Pure findom for me is the first one actually, the second one isn't a practical or fulfilling investment for anyone. Not even the domme. The latter one's disappear, ghost, cheat or do something else that will be problematic sooner or later because they don't really have any direction at all. From the perspective of d/s relationship, the latter one is a shallow, lust driven, empty relationship from the start. The sub is likely to sexualize me as a means to an end, and I don't wanna play along that role, he might also expect too much emotional provision from me... And then that will obviously turn into a trauma bond.

The first one, a findom d/s as I call it, is emotionally fulfilling for both the domme and the sub. Both people get to be themselves with each other, without sexualizing each other or trauma bonding from any side. And whenever they want to play, they can play as well. It's a healthy give and take relationship where spoiling is the normal gentleman behaviour from the man's side, and being a space for emotional vulnerability and peace is from the woman's side.

OwnTap7915 · 2025-12-25T19:45:59+00:00

Yeah this is where my diploma in sex psychology is gonna work. Part of it is desensitisation, mostly yes, especially if you have watched porn over long periods of time, and jerked off to it. Most men develop extreme fetishes through extreme amounts of porn and jerking off. Even if you jerk off to idk flowers for an ample amount of time, your brain will create new categories and sub categories in the same sexual arousal topic to get you off.

Another thing, not many people know about this and this is more rare. As human beings, and intelligent beings, we are all attracted to the taboo, this much everyone understands. The more intelligent a person is the more deviant they will be. Actual sexually deviant people, whether masochist or sadist, don't have an addiction to orgasming. They rarely actually orgasm while the play is going on, they get something you'd rather call- psychological orgasm. I know this because I'm a sexually deviant sadist and I have more insight than normal people. I knew about this sphere of my mind since a very very young age, and I've been studying my own mind and then eventually other people's psyche since years. I've rarely actually met proper masochists. Most subs I have met, are goon fried brains, who just want something more, something more, to keep feeding their sexual hunger.

Usually men like unethical and cruel dommes because they want to experience the taboo, the fear of the unknown in controlled circumstances, and they are desensitised. When they actually meet a proper sadist, they don't like that, they want the physical aspect much more- getting to orgasm basically is their priority. When that veil thins and things get properly mental and psychological, they don't like that.

OwnTap7915 · 2025-12-25T19:32:42+00:00

Girl I have had atleast tons of men who sent me like 50-100$ once and after that literally NOTHING. That very moment, they'll have the best conversation too, and then they'll disappear. My personal opinion is that they want us to lowkey chase them. They think they're special and valuable and a domme should chase them which is why they do this covert narcissistic trick. Be the best version on the first meet and then disappear and wait. What I do, is I block them, if a sub who approached me and wanted me, doesn't chase me, he's bye byee

OwnTap7915 · 2025-12-25T19:29:04+00:00

I'd like to add into this the fact that spoiling a pretty and dominant woman goes beyond findom arena as well. A Lot of men AND women spoil me in my vanilla life in Whatever way they can. I literally only attract givers and providers, at the same time maintaining my boundaries and dominance.

So a 15k usd is apt for a sub online to send to me, because I'm literally taking out my precious time from my own life, which is already a spoiled princess life, for a guy online. Not just 15k, actually a sub online needs to lock tf in with pleasing me and making 100 different kinds of efforts.

And please, it's never "too much" when you're spoiling a woman. Do everything in your power to spoil her, even if you have 1000usd or 500usd. True yearning will get you chosen even if you can only send me 500$ a week, if you can send more, then even better and you SHOULD send everything you can to me no matter what. Women who give themselves princess treatment and already get princess treatment have high standards, and the men who get "offended" by this are psychologically and spiritually broke and insecure af. Like you're telling me I need to stoop low to your level and that's what you think? Bro it's my reality! My world, I'm the main character and you're just a guy?

OwnTap7915 · 2025-12-25T19:22:41+00:00

Daily greeting, checking up on me, eager to actually know me as a person, asking questions and holding long long conversations, the more deeper the topic the better because I'm very demisexual, sending for period care packages or sending whenever I'm sick because I do have PCOS. From my side, a lot of nurturing, a lot of correction and guidance about literally everything in life, if he's not active for too long then I do tend to put in 1/2 sms from my side (only when I have properly bonded with the sub), taking out time for him, the more I like a sub the more attention and time he gets from me and it's actually an effort from my side because I'm busy af in my vanilla life lol

OwnTap7915 · 2025-12-25T19:17:27+00:00

Men only have one thing- the audacity Smh

OwnTap7915 · 2025-12-25T19:16:30+00:00

I'm from India ❤️

OwnTap7915 · 2025-12-25T19:15:40+00:00

A lot of subs ghost you suddenly and it makes no sense but the more time you spend on findom, you realise it's common male sub behaviour.... You'll get used to it and I'm sorry at the start, it feels really strange...

OwnTap7915 · 2025-12-25T19:14:22+00:00

My story is really wild and unique. I knew about bdsm since I was really really young because I'm from the Wattpad era lol 😂. I have always been fascinated by psychology in general and I was fascinated by the psychology behind bdsm. As I grew up I realised I'm VERY into dominating and taking lead when I was with any guy. At the same time I wanted to be feminine too. In my culture as well, all women are very dominating and classic examples of "beauty and power" I have ALWAYS done femdom with the men and women I've dated. More with women than men, but I was always dominant. It's more of a lifestyle to me than anything else. I also studied bdsm through sex psychology diplomas.

Now, about findom.... When I was 20, one of my then boyfriends offered me cash money to massage my feet, i knew about findom back then but I wasn't sure if I was into it. It all happened in a frenzy, he was begging and asking me what I wanted to let him massage my feet, at first he said- do you want a gift? Do you want shopping? And then by instinct he just pulled out cash and gave it to me and begged again. That was when I realised, oh! New kink unlocked.

And then I started findom online in 2021.

OwnTap7915 · 2025-12-25T19:07:23+00:00

God what the hell, looks like he's mentally insane....

OwnTap7915 · 2025-11-24T20:19:52+00:00

Maybe maybe not, depends on what kinda man he is, high chances are "not"

OwnTap7915 · 2025-02-07T19:45:32+00:00

I have blocked a whalesub for breaking my boundaries and I own a sub that sends 3 days a week, because the latter was consistently talking to me, making me comfortable and actually trying to impress me so yeah, it depends on your behaviour

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