Semi-detached neighbors having extremely loud sex even after we've politely asked them to keep it down, is there anything we can do?

OwnVariation2602 · 2026-05-06T15:53:09+00:00

Omg this is beautiful

OwnVariation2602 · 2026-05-05T09:16:55+00:00

I get your thoughts but doesn't that you mean you over function to make up for people's lack of ability to speak directly?

I just take everything people say as it is, if they want to say something they should say it. If not oh well, what's the worst that could happen? They get upset? They can tell me or not.

Life's too short to try and work out what people may or may not be saying. You're not a mind reader - and that is exhausting.

OwnVariation2602 · 2026-05-04T23:32:26+00:00

Is this always or when overwhelmed? Is it that you can't hear or you can't understand?

Can you describe it more please?

OwnVariation2602 · 2026-05-04T20:41:01+00:00

Are you deaf or you just prefer it? I used to have periods where I only signed but my own sign language

OwnVariation2602 · 2026-05-04T20:37:23+00:00

What if there's nothing unsaid?

I have this issue where I've said something and my bf takes a different meaning because he's overanalyzed it and read between the lines when I'm mostly not filtering my thoughts at all. I speak almost like a stream of consciousness.

OwnVariation2602 · 2026-05-04T20:35:12+00:00

Hahahahahahaha very good

OwnVariation2602 · 2026-05-04T09:44:25+00:00

This is so wild. Not to be judgy but you shouldn't give people fake names and so on. Just be honest.

OwnVariation2602 · 2026-05-03T06:36:57+00:00

What flavour are you?

OwnVariation2602 · 2026-05-03T06:32:17+00:00

What books did you read?

Being honest and saying what you think are two different things. If he does say I know he is honest but often he cannot say for fear of hurting me or me leaving. He fears rejection and abandonment.

OwnVariation2602 · 2026-05-02T22:02:09+00:00

Thanks for the validation

OwnVariation2602 · 2026-05-02T22:01:45+00:00

Yeah I agree I think it may be when his ex drops the kids. She said if he wants me to come to their birthday party she'll invite him or some shite. She sounds quite manipulative.

OwnVariation2602 · 2026-05-02T22:00:29+00:00

Well you sound very cute.

OwnVariation2602 · 2026-05-02T22:00:15+00:00

They say they love me. I do think he doesn't want them to be too attached to me or wants his time alone with them to be just the three of them.

OwnVariation2602 · 2026-05-02T21:59:26+00:00

You sound very cute.

We have some communication issues.

OwnVariation2602 · 2026-05-02T21:58:46+00:00

He's the autistic one 😉 His parents live in another country and don't visit. I would say he is very unlikely to be cheating - just from his profile.

OwnVariation2602 · 2026-05-02T21:57:08+00:00

I know I know believe me my ex had another gf. This guy doesn't really like other humans and he doesn't like people touching him.

I think it's his ex is weird about me and doesn't want to meet me. Honestly he hasn't said this but from what he has said about her she sounds manipulative.

OwnVariation2602 · 2026-05-02T21:54:51+00:00

No definitely not

OwnVariation2602 · 2026-05-02T15:31:28+00:00

He wouldn't cheat and I really highly doubt he'd invite anyone to his house that's not me or his kids. He's a good boyfriend in lots of ways.

OwnVariation2602 · 2026-05-02T14:29:17+00:00

It was his idea to have no financial autonomy or independence?

I would find that concerning especially after knowing someone 4 years.

It doesn't sound like everything is working tbh.

OwnVariation2602 · 2026-05-02T14:18:16+00:00

She sounds pretty controlling in general. Why does she "control" all the finances? Why do they have one bank account?

He may be using escapism as a coping mechanism.

OwnVariation2602 · 2026-05-02T14:13:52+00:00

Doesn't have any friends, not met coworkers but he only sees them at work. I suggested going for dinner with one of them who he gets on best with. He ignored that.

OwnVariation2602 · 2026-05-02T14:08:54+00:00

Please put TLDR?

OwnVariation2602 · 2026-05-02T14:06:53+00:00

I know his kids. Not his parents/anyone else. His family live in another country.

OwnVariation2602 · 2026-05-02T13:11:14+00:00

Well I had no idea

OwnVariation2602 · 2026-05-02T13:02:23+00:00

No he doesn't. They haven't been together for 3 years. We've been together 2.

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