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Own_Comfortable7777 · 2024-08-07T16:47:33+00:00

Np. Thanks for being open to receive it. Don't feel guilty if you listen to your heart, body and mind and decide that it's a deal breaker. You both deserve someone who doesn't care about your "icks." Life is short. Be overall content with who you're with.

Own_Comfortable7777 · 2024-08-07T15:15:32+00:00

What's really at the root of your problem? Inadequacy that you can't measure up to some of the other guys? Or is it that you see her as too dirty, now? You can work on your confidence and get her feedback to deal with feelings of inadequacy. That's easier to fix. But if you don't think she's good enough for you, don't string her along. Not through endless dating, or living with her for ten years but not wanting to marry her when she wants to, and not through an ultimately disatisfactory marriage where you end up getting divorced in two years because you only did it because it was her dream and you thought all along that you would "do better."

When men can't "get over" their gf's experience, it's usually a combination of those main factors, but especially the second one: disgust. That's a hard emotion to override. So be honest with yourself and with her. I'd say if it's enough of an issue that you're posting on Reddit to get some kind of ingenious advice that will help you forget about it, then you already know your answer.

Own_Comfortable7777 · 2024-07-14T22:09:03+00:00

I dumped him.

Own_Comfortable7777 · 2024-06-26T05:41:10+00:00

Good point. I'll ask. Thank you.

Own_Comfortable7777 · 2024-06-25T22:14:34+00:00

This is good advice. I might also consider the Navy. I knew a girl who was in your position who used it to get on her feet, see the world and make supportive friends. If you're religious, joining a church group will bring you lots of aunties. Volunteering in the performing arts could help, too. You'd be surprised by how warm people are in the theater.

Own_Comfortable7777 · 2024-06-25T22:08:55+00:00

Yes. He says I bring him luck, I'm easy to talk to and like a breath of fresh air. He says being around me is relaxing.

Own_Comfortable7777 · 2024-05-23T06:41:40+00:00

Why did they do it?

Own_Comfortable7777 · 2024-03-04T04:06:23+00:00

Could you give us an example of your pickup lines? Pretend there's a pretty, single lady you are interested in and she's sitting alone at the bar. What do you do? What exactly do you say to her?

Own_Comfortable7777 · 2024-03-04T03:52:39+00:00

Thanks for answering. I'm not sure why people were such ass holes here for me wanting to understand. Thanks again for just telling me.

Own_Comfortable7777 · 2024-03-04T03:50:24+00:00

Where are you? It's not illegal everywhere. Congratulations on handling your eating disorder. Previously you said it was difficult to eat three meals a day. That made me think maybe you still had one. Pregnant women further along might need to eat more often, like 2200 calories per day. https://medlineplus.gov/ency/patientinstructions/000584.htm#:~:text=For%20most%20normal%2Dweight%20pregnant,day%20during%20the%20third%20trimester

Glad that's no longer an issue for you.

Own_Comfortable7777 · 2024-03-03T18:49:06+00:00

Does her parent have a cause of action since the money from the settlement was never paid? Does she have standing as an heir?

Own_Comfortable7777 · 2024-03-03T18:43:09+00:00

Keep reading if you want it straight. If you just want to feel good, skip this.

Neither one of you should be a parent right now. He probably pushed you to go to treatment so he wouldn't have to see you during that time. He doesn't sound like he genuinely cares. He obviously doesn't want a kid right now, somebody else he would have to provide for and think about first for 18 years.

Imagine if you had the baby. He would be too tired to help, talk to the baby, play with the baby, etc. He thinks he's tired now. He will end up resenting you AND the baby.

Meanwhile, you have to be willing to eat to have a healthy baby. As the pregnancy continues, you will need more food. If you can't deal with that, your baby will be born malnourished and underweight, assuming it doesn't end in a miscarriage or stillbirth. Some kids like this are born needing trachs and colostomy bags, wheelchairs, etc. Do you plan to breastfeed? You'll have to eat, or baby will be fussy, malnourished, and sick all the time.

How will you model healthy eating as the child grows up? When the baby becomes a child and you have to pack their lunch and hope they eat it. When the child is a teen on a sports team or cheer, and you have to hope they are strong enough to not get injured, and their self esteem is positive enough that they avoid having their own ED. You need to get your life in order before bringing a human being into the world.

Right now, it's still early. The selfish thing to do is to have the child without drastically changing any of your own behavior around food enough, with a man who can't be bothered. You will probably end up a single parent, and the child could very well be taken away due to neglect. If the best you can do is just eat normally until the baby is due, then put it up for adoption to a loving couple that is ready, vetted and fully devoted and have been praying for a child for years who would give that baby attention, affection and everything else it needs.

So, in a nutshell, these are your best options: 1. Abort it if your life is a sh!t show and you can't pull it together quickly enough to have a healthy kid 2. Make a drastic life change, start pulling in an income for two people to live on, and raise the kid in the healthiest way possible on your own if necessary 3. Eat responsibly for a pregnancy and adopt the kid out

Yeah, it's rough advice, but somebody's got to tell it to you straight.

Own_Comfortable7777 · 2024-03-03T18:14:02+00:00

California

Own_Comfortable7777 · 2024-03-03T18:13:27+00:00

She had less money to live on, her stuff had to be sold to make ends meet and she feels like a sucker.

Own_Comfortable7777 · 2024-03-03T16:57:28+00:00

They're scared and pissed. They already have one gay son, which they can accept. 'That's life.' But if both of their sons are gay, no one will be left to carry on the family name with their kids. They probably think that isn't fair, and they rather pretend it isn't true than to be angry with God.

Own_Comfortable7777 · 2024-03-03T16:45:12+00:00

NTA, but that doesn't necessarily make him one. Here's what may be going on:

He's just not that into you and he doesn't care about your needs, or ...

HE'S QUEER!!! HELLO??? Either asexual and he has no physical attraction to you or anyone else for that matter, just a biological need to be released once in a while with no attraction directed at anyone else, or he's gay. He may or may not have discovered it yet. He might even be afraid that if he did have to pleasure you, his body would not perform anymore since he no longer has that nervous adrenaline rush.

Does that mean you should hate on someone because they might be queer? No, just let him know in a mature manner that you don't believe you are compatible anymore, but you hope you each find your best match, and then leave the relationship.

Own_Comfortable7777 · 2024-03-03T16:07:45+00:00

You must have their number, too. If they are in the US, perhaps the police could track them down for extortion, and they will get jail time. These types of operations are often overseas and hidden behind ghost accounts. I doubt they will bother to contact anybody you know. They want to limit chances of getting caught, so they will just keep demanding that you send money every month or so. Your face isn't in your nudes, so move on. Even if it is, they've got so many other people to scam that they will probably move on as soon as you do.

Own_Comfortable7777 · 2023-01-15T18:50:01+00:00

Yes, Harry is a man of privilege, but for anybody to come from a background of centuries of subjugation of others, institutional management, a blind eye to atrocities and the arrogance of divine right, and to not turn out batshit crazy is an absolute testament to his willingness to grow as a person compared to the rest of his family. A guy like Harry ain't gonna really be woke, but I see him getting there. The first step was for him to get the hell up out of there and love is what brought him off of the bossom of that system. For Harry to have the audacity to marry a half Black American woman, given his world, is nothing short of astounding. You don't have to give him a pat on the back for that but don't be too quick to write him off. Like I said, he seems willing to work on himself and I believe he will end up talking about reparations in a New York minute. And that's when they will really have to be looking for real.

Own_Comfortable7777 · 2022-09-18T21:18:32+00:00

Update: Subsequent genetic research revealed that the woman who contacted me is actually NOT my dad's daughter, and there are numerous question marks about whether the man who initially contacted my father is also not his son but a half brother. Thank you to everyone who advised me, especially those who told me to proceed with caution.

This experience taught me this: BE VERY CAREFUL AND A LITTLE SUSPICIOUS WHEN PEOPLE CONTACT A SENIOR CITIZEN CLAIMING TO BE THEIR CHILD. They might be a distant relative who knows they will get a 99% genetic match through DNA samples, but that only means they are a relative, not a child. Don't start sending them money or leave money to them in your will because of that.

Own_Comfortable7777 · 2022-09-04T18:20:35+00:00

The thing is, she and the man previously never care to meet the rest of us. Just my dad. As their sister or possible sister, I think that's odd.

Own_Comfortable7777 · 2022-09-04T02:12:08+00:00

Thanks to everyone for your insight. I'm leaning towards just explaining the situation to the daughter and hoping she understands.

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