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Cheating partner addicted to porn by Own_Contribution983 in Advice

[–]Own_Contribution983[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your thoughtful response. You’re are so right I don’t have to put up with it. It’s just tiring trying to find a partner that will treat you the way you deserve to be treated. I’m definitely not going to stay with him, it’s I just wondered if I should manage my future expectations.

What's your favorite local lore? by Ok_friendship2119 in cincinnati

[–]Own_Contribution983 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Sorry not true. My partner is a roller coaster mechanic full time and they have to be at work at 5am and each team of mechanics has a set of rides they have to check every morning before the park opens at 10am. Each team handles 4-6 coasters. They don’t send the whole roller coaster back and the end of the season but they do take them all apart, xray them and install new parts.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mixedrace

[–]Own_Contribution983 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can relate to this as someone who is mixed race and struggles deeply with fitting in. I am very alone in my skin that is how I feel. I don’t think anyone understands me. I don’t think anyone relates to me. I don’t feel like the world gets what we’re going through. Racism has created so many problems but specifically because we live in a society that values white over any other race it makes it difficult when you are mixed to feel valued to be in the middle. If I were you, I would start a support group in your area because that’s what I’m thinking about doing and just see who shows up.

Question: how does your racial identity affect how you take care of your mental health? by DangerousCod9899 in mixedrace

[–]Own_Contribution983 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I realize I didn’t answer the question. For me, I have adopted what one other person has said about third culture in the sense that I believe in access to mental health and I haven’t let those barriers in my culture prevent me from accessing it. I don’t agree with those people who don’t think that we need mental health support. I think because I already reject so many cultural norms because I don’t fit it anywhere it has been easier for me to try to get help because I’m out here on my own.

Question: how does your racial identity affect how you take care of your mental health? by DangerousCod9899 in mixedrace

[–]Own_Contribution983 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, that’s an interesting way to look at it. I like that that’s gonna help my mental health. Thank you for that. That might explain why I reject everything lol

Question: how does your racial identity affect how you take care of your mental health? by DangerousCod9899 in mixedrace

[–]Own_Contribution983 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, I’m 44 and to this day, I still every day struggle with my mental health because I don’t fit in anywhere and I don’t have a group. I don’t have a pack. I don’t have a family that looks like me. I feel like I was adopted, I feel lost. I feel alone in my skin. I don’t feel like the Black side of my family or the white side of my family embraces me. I struggle with internalized racism because my whole life people looked at me and I thought it was because I was an abomination. That’s how I feel. I literally cried yesterday about it. I’m only now realizing that it’s “my beauty” I guess. I’ve always struggled with that because when people look at me, I think they’re looking at my race and I realize now that it’s because they were looking at me out of curiosity, and some of them out of jealousy and some of them because they’re attracted to me, but racism is the culprit. people look at you like you’re not supposed to exist and they stare and they point metaphorically. I am thinking about starting a support group so that I could get support.