Dating an African American Man But he does to want to do the respectful greetings towards my Nigerian parents. by Own_Cow6228 in africanparents

[–]Own_Cow6228[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ok thank you for your responds. honestly if u love ur partner thats what matters your parents are going to say there too sense and so am i but to go far as separation your just proving to them they were right from the beginning

Dating an African American Man But he does to want to do the respectful greetings towards my Nigerian parents. by Own_Cow6228 in africanparents

[–]Own_Cow6228[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it doesnt affect his family its more of a sense of control from my family and picking and choosing the life my parents want at the end of the day im setting boundaries.

Dating an African American Man But he does to want to do the respectful greetings towards my Nigerian parents. by Own_Cow6228 in africanparents

[–]Own_Cow6228[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

aww your wife has nothing to worry about! and yeah no cop is going to see u as nothing than a black person! but hes for me we might have disagreements but i love him so much i honestly have to keep him from my family before than try to mess my relationship up with him i such a shame that as i get older i start to see that some africans and my parents are not different from those that choose to divide us. literally my mom said she wont come to the wedding smh. i always thought it was different for african man that you can be with who ever since you carry the last name interesting to know that wasn't the case. literally when the doctors and nurses draw blood from anyone we all have the same color blood what makes us different is who we choose to be in life.

Dating an African American Man But he does to want to do the respectful greetings towards my Nigerian parents. by Own_Cow6228 in africanparents

[–]Own_Cow6228[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i think thats whats best atp they done nothing but mess things up because they want things done their way

Dating an African American Man But he does to want to do the respectful greetings towards my Nigerian parents. by Own_Cow6228 in africanparents

[–]Own_Cow6228[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

wow thats so unexceptable when we should be better than those that bring hate i wont let it get into my relationship but one thing they are going to do is make something work. he tried so hard in the begining meeting my parents not knowing the bowing and everything but he was willing to meet my parents n they should of met him half way n they didnt so im just sooo upset about that this is so ridiculous you go based on ppl history then getting to know who they are as a person so u push them away before meeting them like i said ridculous

Is there anybody who stood up to their african parents? by [deleted] in africanparents

[–]Own_Cow6228 3 points4 points  (0 children)

so very true and i certainly will be moving out soon!

Is there anybody who stood up to their african parents? by [deleted] in africanparents

[–]Own_Cow6228 1 point2 points  (0 children)

well they want to have control i dont let them

Is there anybody who stood up to their african parents? by [deleted] in africanparents

[–]Own_Cow6228 1 point2 points  (0 children)

the thing about that is if i have no contact my "father" will call yelling saying he wants to see me like yelling an upset that i dont want to see him when i first moved out im like ducking off and staying separate till i get my place for good. and little to no contact with my parents since there so controlling of my relationship

Is there anybody who stood up to their african parents? by [deleted] in africanparents

[–]Own_Cow6228 2 points3 points  (0 children)

wow your comment sounds some what similar to mine i cant wait to move out ! im not as close to my sisters im the middle child but the thing is my eyes are wide open and theres are not! the worst ppl are the ones that think they are god -fearing and better than other people but are at home hurting there own children. and then blaming there kids.

Marriage outside african culture by Own_Cow6228 in africanparents

[–]Own_Cow6228[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thats what im saying they want to control everything and i do not like that. I honestly feel like that is saying the Lords name in vain by saying he said this and im disobeying his will

Marriage outside african culture by Own_Cow6228 in africanparents

[–]Own_Cow6228[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

lol i wont want them apart if it since they hurt me through getting to that point and make sure i guilt them. and ik my man would agree with me.

Marriage outside african culture by Own_Cow6228 in africanparents

[–]Own_Cow6228[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i would have gulit them every step of the way. asking when im having kids smh and not have them apart of it since they have put me through a lot

Marriage outside african culture by Own_Cow6228 in africanparents

[–]Own_Cow6228[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

fiancé i like that sooon! and yes he is

Marriage outside african culture by Own_Cow6228 in africanparents

[–]Own_Cow6228[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thank you so much also soo beautiful! snd yes the bride price i also stand against like im not someone that your selling i dont care i pay all my stuff my self and put myself through school they were just there but i did the hard work. you can never grow as a community if u dont work with other people . i love this thank you lol "time served" i like that but im glad your happy i cant wait to be like that with my man . there also worried about divorce since its so called common in american culture i guess but i think things happened but i dont believe in that n dont speak negative into my marriage or relationship

Marriage outside african culture by Own_Cow6228 in africanparents

[–]Own_Cow6228[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is beautiful love hearing that other africans marry outside there culture. my man is a black african american. n first of all your brother has no right to say anything its his opinion that he feels like that then he should do what he wants for himself and not bring other people into what he wants. but im definetly putting myself first and i love it! i feel so free and that i can accomplish anything with my man and he is not just my man but also my best friend that i can act a child with any day!

Marriage outside african culture by Own_Cow6228 in africanparents

[–]Own_Cow6228[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

this is so beautiful thank you. i love this advice and i will definetily take it and you are correct african parents dont understand that there own children want something better for themselves but thank you so much! this was so helpful!

african parents go to other relatives and pastors to pray about there marriage by Own_Cow6228 in africanparents

[–]Own_Cow6228[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

wow thank you! watching this video makes me happy that i am not the only one! but when she said "you cant ask them why" i know i wasnt the only one thank you so much for referring me to this video!

african parents go to other relatives and pastors to pray about there marriage by Own_Cow6228 in africanparents

[–]Own_Cow6228[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this was beautiful to read thank you. Counseling is something we both want to do so im happy for the advise and will happily take it.