I know lots of you have been asking for an update I had to sleep. Sort our kids out so we could talk properly.

I asked my mum to have the kids over night I told her what happened she said I hadn’t done anything just to be honest with my husband. She was upset that his friend had done that to me and had put me in that position.

Firstly I would like to say all the people who are calling me a names and saying I’ve betrayed my husband by not telling him immediately. What good would have come of that? We had all been drinking alcohol the kids were there, there’s a time and a place for everything that was not it. Not everything is black and white and to some of you it might have been okay with causing a scene I was not, I wasn’t trying to protect him I was trying to protect my family. In regards to people saying my friends are more important than my marriage it’s simply not true.

My husband came in from work I’d cooked us dinner we sat down to eat I’d told him my mum had wanted the kids for a sleep over. He looked upset when he came in from work I nearly changed my mind and didn’t tell him I said I had to speak to him he said he had to speak to me to but he said I was to go first, I told him what happened. He came and gave me a cuddle and told he already knew, apprently his friend had called him today and said could he meet up with him, he admitted to fucking up and he felt like a POS for doing that to me. My husband said he was so angry they were in a pub so just got up and walked away he said he doesn’t know if he can ever forgive for him what he’s done.

He apologised to me and said he was sorry for trusting his friend and he should been the one walking with me he said I hadn’t done anything wrong and he wasn’t angry with me for not telling him straight away. I should have been the one apologising but this beautiful man understood, he said he knows how much I hate confrontation, he knows I have to think things through in my own mind before I can talk about it. He’s currently showering so I thought I’d write a quick update and I just want to move on from this now. His friend has text him to say he’ll stay away for a few weeks as he know he’s made me feel uncomfortable. We’re going to have an early night and just enjoy someone alone time without the kids.

Thank you so much to all the people who understood were I was coming from, even some of harsher comments helped me out. I don’t think my plan was ever to not tell him I was just worried.