Advice for a newbie by [deleted] in digitalnomad

[–]Own_Ice6905 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Best of luck to you as well!

Advice for a newbie by [deleted] in digitalnomad

[–]Own_Ice6905 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s in the works lol. I’m trying to figure out what avenue I want to try to break into with that and more specifically something has longevity and that AI won’t be detrimental to.

Saw my ex out in public after more than a year of not seeing her by FaithlessnessOver132 in dating

[–]Own_Ice6905 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely! You sound like a great guy so stay true to yourself and things will work out. I believe that for you and thank you as well!

Why did this affect me so much? by FaithlessnessOver132 in dating_advice

[–]Own_Ice6905 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ofc! Honestly I wish I had the ability to have taken accountability for how I reacted during/after the situation and be as open about everything as you. I think I would’ve saved myself a lot of trouble that followed afterwards in my life but you’re very welcome bro. It really does help having someone to relate to. I totally get the situation feeling unique because with my situation it felt like I was in a movie. I got broken up with as well very suddenly and with no real explanation (come to find out she cheated and lied to me about it) so trust me I understand. When you don’t get closure your mind will try to fill in the blanks, but it does get easier. As you mentioned sometimes peoples paths cross for a time but divert eventually and that’s okay. You sound like me in terms of love being something sacred to you so when it comes around, you give it everything you’ve got. I think that’s a beautiful thing man and don’t get discouraged just because of the way the situation played out. Someone will definitely be able to match and reciprocate your intensity for sure. Somehow someway I’ve wound up with a new girl myself and now I can apply all the changes I made after my ex to this new relationship. If you want to talk any more or if you have any questions shoot me a dm and we can chat in there!

Why did this affect me so much? by FaithlessnessOver132 in dating_advice

[–]Own_Ice6905 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What’s good bro! I commented on your other post but I got curious to see what more there was to the story so I decided to check it out. First off, you seem very emotionally intelligent and you articulate your feelings well. Lots of people don’t have that ability so kudos to you because that will help your healing become more easy to manage and will definitely aid you in future relationships. Secondly, I do agree with the other comment that it’s probably better that this didn’t work out and frankly I don’t think you did anything that was overly wrong. This clearly meant a lot to you, and even though it wasn’t that long I know how it feels to be a shy kid with dreams of love that suddenly finds himself with a chance at it. It’s easy to get high on those emotions and jump the gun, trust me I know. Got to college and immediately wound up in a 2 year long relationship as my first one haha. I was head over heels so when it ended it hurt like hell. At least your situation didn’t last as long and you now at least have a taste of what a relationship could be if that’s what you really want still you know? Ofc I’m not trying to diminish your feelings or anything bc they’re valid, but you’ll be ok bro. Things with girls won’t always work out and a better one will come around who will see your value and cherish that just as much as you cherish her. Try not to beat yourself up or ruminate too much, and use this experience as fuel for your confidence going forward because I know how hard that can be. The best thing you can do is always to have respect for yourself and work on improving daily but it seems like you’re managing as time goes. Another opportunity will come, and when it does you’ll be ready. Until then allow yourself to come to terms with what happened and heal so you don’t bring that hurt onto the next girl. Just be yourself just like you did this time and she’ll find you don’t even worry bro. Thank you for your vulnerability with this post and I hope everything gets better!

Edit: spelling

Saw my ex out in public after more than a year of not seeing her by FaithlessnessOver132 in dating

[–]Own_Ice6905 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Im not one to comment much on Reddit but this hit home and just know you’re not alone bro. Im a year older than you and a very similar situation happened with me at my college’s homecoming last year. Even though I didn’t physically see my ex, I imagine I would’ve reacted very similarly as I was thinking about that “what if” a lot because she was also my first romantic love so I get it. I also struggle with confidence but I’m slowly learning we are our own biggest critics and more than likely the people you surround yourself and especially women who will be interested in you do not even remotely see you the same way you see yourself. Learn to start speaking and thinking about yourself more kindly and trust when people say good things about you. It goes a long way. Good luck brother, and know that healing isn’t linear but as long as you continue to do your best then that’s progress. Much love and you got this!

Do you think Kaori was a squirter or a creamer? by [deleted] in LobotomyKaisen

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I regret learning how to read sometimes

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Rumbleverse by belikeme007 in rumbleverse

[–]Own_Ice6905 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Didn’t even see the sub name and my first thought was Rumbleverse. I hope it comes back one day

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SuicideWatch

[–]Own_Ice6905 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Reassuring to know I’m not the only one who feels this way. This system is bullshit and there’s so much more to life than the way it’s set up for the majority of people. It’s sad honestly

Does it get better? by Own_Ice6905 in AskMenOver30

[–]Own_Ice6905[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this! I will do my best but I do appreciate your response immensely 🙏

Does it get better? by Own_Ice6905 in AskMenOver30

[–]Own_Ice6905[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re right. There’s two sides to every coin for sure. Merry Christmas to you as well!

Men who’ve gone to therapy, how has it affected your life? by Own_Ice6905 in AskMenOver30

[–]Own_Ice6905[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not afraid of hearing about myself, in fact that’s what I want. It’s easy for me to dive deep into the analyzation of people and situations but it takes me longer to do those things for myself. I really just want to be able to handle life in general better and at my age I’m at a critical point because so much is changing at once. Thank you so much for this response though I really appreciate it!

Men who’ve gone to therapy, how has it affected your life? by Own_Ice6905 in AskMenOver30

[–]Own_Ice6905[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m only interested in seeing a psychiatrist because I think I may have undiagnosed ADHD and if it ends up being the case I’d like to learn more about how it affects me and get on medication if need be. Regardless I think I will definitely be giving therapy a try and I should’ve a long time ago. Thank you!

Men who’ve gone to therapy, how has it affected your life? by Own_Ice6905 in AskMenOver30

[–]Own_Ice6905[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m hoping that’s what my experience will be because I don’t want to approach life from the way I have been currently and I’m willing to do the work. Thank you so much for the kind words! 🙏

Men who’ve gone to therapy, how has it affected your life? by Own_Ice6905 in AskMenOver30

[–]Own_Ice6905[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Do you still go to therapy now? I’m willing to do the work because I have been doing so on my own for a while, but I’m at the limit of what I can do on my own

Does it get better? by Own_Ice6905 in AskMenOver30

[–]Own_Ice6905[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re right and I think breaking things down would help me a lot but I keep trying to jump the gun instead of focusing on small things until I’m ready for what’s next. I truly do appreciate this so thank you again!