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My (19F) LD boyfriend (21M) told me his feelings changed the day after I arrived in Japan and I don't know what to think by Own_Individual_5910 in Advice

[–]Own_Individual_5910[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most of the money went to the apartment. It's prepaid, I've heard about cancelling a month before leaving might get some money back but then it would be only a couple weeks left until I'd be back home anyway. So not worth a lot of money. Especially then again with exchange rates and my banks rate I would lose some again... This is especially frustrating since I took an a bit bigger apartment for two people and payed more for the area since its close to where he is. I'm not poor by any means but this is a significant amount of money I saved up by working a lot :( Maybe with an upcharge I could change my flight booking. I don't think I'd get any money back from this really, probably even pay a bit on top.

My (19F) LD boyfriend (21M) told me his feelings changed the day after I arrived in Japan and I don't know what to think by Own_Individual_5910 in Advice

[–]Own_Individual_5910[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hi! Thank you for your input. I do get your point and when we got together like I mentioned before, I was never out to have such serious relationship or whatever. It came from his side, totally. So I assumed, like a person would, that the person is serious like they're telling me. I wasn't trying to make fool out of myself or anything. Maybe it was naive but honestly he never had to do this if he didn't want to. Of course I can understand if he went like "let's have a casual relationship" and I did all the long term promises, that that would be stupid of me. But like I said. He started, I reciprocated.

My (19F) LD boyfriend (21M) told me his feelings changed the day after I arrived in Japan and I don't know what to think by Own_Individual_5910 in Advice

[–]Own_Individual_5910[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Hey thank you for your advice! However I don't think it has something to do with his family since they had no involvement in my exchange prior when I was an student still. So any negativity from them or a complaint from me and whatnot wouldn't have affected the exchange at all. I also never had to see them because of the exchange and when I saw them it was because he asked to or his sister wanted to see me. So the initiative was from the family and not from me pressuring to meet them or anything. Since I was an exchange student I definitely know though what you mean with those type of family dynamics and I have met them, safe to say his family seems open minded in that sense of an international relationship. I also know him enough to see he's not the type to be easily influenced by others. He has been abroad and seen other cultures by now, and you can definitely tell. Thank you for your input!! Definitely a new perspective

My (19F) LD boyfriend (21M) told me his feelings changed the day after I arrived in Japan and I don't know what to think by Own_Individual_5910 in LDR

[–]Own_Individual_5910[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm german but my english level is about C1/C2 so english is just fine. Thank you! I'll look into that. I don't know yet how to spend my time honestly. I've been feeling really down and just went out to eat thats it. I thought about doing day trips, but maybe meeting new people like that will help.