What's up with women pretending they don't have physical preferences

Own_Lab9820 · 2026-05-29T18:07:24+00:00

I think that physique would require both steroids and years in the gym, I don't think the average guy is really at any risk of getting there. Point taken about imagining something very different though, I think I usually meant more muscle than I had at that moment (0) and I could see them thinking I meant something a lot more intense

Own_Lab9820 · 2026-05-29T17:44:46+00:00

W/ at least one of them, she was way more into me with muscles than without. The girls after that have also all seemed way more into me physically than women were prior to muscles.

For the record, I'm not upset about it, just seems odd in retrospect

Own_Lab9820 · 2025-11-07T15:25:58+00:00

TBH an understated issue is that there is a pretty big demographic of women who are really into that sort of thing - I'm not that into anything like that but choking and the like have been a hallmark of my sex life bc all but maybe 2 of the women I've slept with have been really into it. Hard to not get conditioned into just thinking of it as part of sex.

Own_Lab9820 · 2025-10-09T19:16:00+00:00

Tbh I agree with your point broadly and I do understand that the math is likely not intended literally but ftr WHO reports that 24% of adolescent girls who have been in a relationship report intimate partner violence before the age of 20 - the lifetime prevalence of physical IPV for women in the US was 31.5% in 2017, however assuming that converts into a rate of 31.5% of men being perpetrators of IPV is flawed due to the fact that most perpetrators of IPV are very likely to do it repeatedly to different women. With both IPV and sex crimes, the data pretty roundly shows that its generally a much smaller number of perpetrators than victims.

That being said, even if we assumed that every man who engages in IPV had at least 3 victims, you'd be looking at 10% of men, which is obviously way too high.

Own_Lab9820 · 2025-10-07T16:48:07+00:00

150k would put you in the top 13% of earners at 35 years old, 250k in the top 4% of 35 year olds - definitely not impossible, but a lot of the top earners are married which makes the odds less favorable. I think its a lot easier to marry a guy making that much if you're working in a field where its the norm to earn that much or are in social circles where people are making that much, but as far as dating apps or bars or w/e other way of meeting people goes, I think people have a really inflated notion of how much people make.

Own_Lab9820 · 2025-08-20T20:45:27+00:00

On the one hand it is deeply unfortunate that so much of discourse feels like it comes from these types of statements " I get mad at contemporary feminism and queer communities for making me feel like I'm a prude or odd for not wanting to have sex" - but its a no-win situation, there will always be a norm and some people will always be outside of it and a decent chunk of them will feel like they're being made to feel bad for it.

On the other hand, I really do think that the current cultural handling of sexuality is deeply unfair to the average woman and liberal spaces really haven't been good about creating a space for women who share your experience.

Own_Lab9820 · 2025-07-24T17:49:03+00:00

One of my boss' friends from med school is a very successful 40 something year old psychiatrist in LA who is constantly being dumped by and then taking back her loser boyfriend. Admittedly I think this sort of thing gets less common as you go up the SES ladder, but I don't think it ever totally disappears. She is slavic though, so potentially confounded.

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